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Black Friday Fact: This Could Be Why Your Small Business Is Failing.

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By Michelby Whitehead

Entrepreneurship is not for the faint of heart. It takes expertise in your industry, patience, tough skin, and excellent time management skills to see the profits you desire. If you are putting these things into practice but still haven’t garnered desirable outcomes in your small business, I have a question for you. Do you support other women with small businesses?

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Does Saying No To Makeup Come With Age?

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Model Naomi Campbell
By Erickka Sy Savane

There was a moment a few months ago when I was getting ready for an event, standing in the mirror with a tube of lipstick, wondering why I was about to paint my face. I’d done it a zillion times without question, but this time, I just felt silly. What I really wanted was to go completely as I am. Now, I don’t mean butt-naked, but naked-face. Is this what it means to get older? Still, I went ahead and did it, and when I got to the event and posed the question to a few friends they looked at me like I was smoking crack. Wanna clear a room? Start talking about age. My bad.

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However, as Alicia Keys has continued to pop up all over the place sans makeup I feel vindicated. I mean, Alicia is a mom, like myself, and she’s getting older, plus she's got a lot to 'lose' by showing up as a star without the perceived 'shine' (makeup to give her that 'glow.') So really, how do we really feel about makeup?  Does saying no come with age?

Alicia Keys
I start with one of my favorite California girls, Angie B. T.
A model back in the day, Angie never left home without a fully made up face. In fact, sometimes she wore makeup to bed. How does she feel about it today, now that she's in her forties?

“I still love makeup, and lashes, and adorning myself with jewelry,” she says, “but what has changed is I don’t feel the need to wear it all the time. I appreciate my beauty without it.”

She says the change wasn’t so much an age thing, but more about the different changes in her life. She broke up with her finance, her mom and sister both passed away in the same year, and not long after she fell, fracturing both of her ankles.

“It was hard at first, not to feel sorry for myself,” she says looking back, “but being in that space where I was literally crawling to the bathroom with no makeup on for such a long period of time stripped away all the pretense I had in my life. I had to find my inner strength and what re-emerged was this beautiful woman that I am today.”

Wow, what don’t break you makes you stronger. She does still have two makeup must-haves…

“I have to wear a little concealer under my eyes and I must fill-in my eyebrows because I never had any growing up, and without them I look like an embryo,” she jokes.

Okay, so now I’m thinking about my partner in crime, super-producer Sidra Smith. Not because she looks like an embryo, but she is all about that face- no makeup, no hair, she don’t even care. Talk about a natural beauty. Has she always been this way or has it come with age?

“I’ve always been this way. Even back when I was modeling I was never that girl to run around after a shoot in full makeup. The only time I do feel a certain pressure to wear it is on the red carpet and making appearances with my twin,” she says. Ironically, her identical twin sister is ultra-glam actress Tasha Smith, and the two couldn’t look more different, and yet the same.

Sidra and Tasha Smith
So would she ever do red carpet appearances bare-faced?

“Absolutely!” she says with conviction. “I get more compliments and feel more beautiful without it. If anything, makeup makes me feel cheesy.”

She nailed it because, looking back, cheesy is how I felt at the event that night. Why did I ultimately do it? Vanity, and wanting to fit in. But when I really think about it though, it’s not so much about age or whether to wear makeup or not, but the freedom to live the way we want to live. Today, I put on bright green socks when I went for my morning jog, something that I’ve been wanting to do for weeks, but would tell myself that it didn’t match, and what would people think? It’s nice to know that I no longer care.

How do you feel about makeup? Is wearing it a must or does it depend?

Erickka Sy Savané is managing editor of CurlyNikki.com, a wife, mom, and freelance writer based in Jersey, City, NJ. Her work has appeared in Essence.comEbony.com, Madamenoire.com, xoNecole.com, and more. When she’s not writing...wait, she’s always writing! Follow her on Twitter, Instagram or ErickkaSySavane.com

8 Christmas Shopping Tips for the Budget Conscious

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 By Kanisha Parks

You’ve seen those commercials where they ask the person’s Christmas shopping budget, right? And they’re like, “Um, about $500.00” Let’s be honest—most of us know good and well we don’t have that much to spend! Listen: there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. For some reason, when Christmas comes around, people throw the budget out the window and go all out. And when the next year rolls in, they find themselves embedded in debt. It’s really just not worth it. Yes, it’s great to give nice gifts, but if it’s going to cost you your light bill; it’s time to re-think your definition of “nice.” Remember: you can and will still have an amazing Christmas without going broke. (Besides, it ain’t their birthday anyway!)

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1. Start NOW.
A lot of people think that waiting until Black Friday or Cyber Monday to do their Christmas shopping is the best option, but this isn’t always the wisest idea, especially since you’re on a budget. These two days were created for big purchases—expensive jewelry, fitness equipment, laptops, iPhones, and other high-end toys and electronics. Being out on Black Friday can make you feel to the urge to purchase stuff you don’t really want or need, all in the name of the securing a good deal. Be wise and realize there are already a lot of deals now and even after Black Friday. You just need to know where to look. (See Tip #3).

2. Set a realistic budget and don’t budge it.
This is of the utmost importance. Make sure that when you set your Christmas spending budget, it’s an amount that you actually have to spend. (This is after all of the bills are paid). Remember that when Christmas is over, you still have a life to live.


3. Use cash.
Instead of resorting to using credit, take out cash when you shop. You are more likely to stick to your budget because you’ll be actively aware of how much you spend.

4. Decide where you can shop.
Depending on your budget, you will want to decide what stores are suitable for your coins. A lot of malls tend to be a bit more on the expensive side. Set your sights on stores like TJ Maxx, Ross, Marshall’s, Kohl’s, and WalMart. Believe it or not, even dollar stores have nice gifts sometimes. Check in advance for any deals or sales they may be having. This way, you’ll find so many nice things at discounted prices, you may be able to purchase more than you were expecting.

5. Write a list of who and what to shop for.
When you have a tangible list of who you need to purchase gifts for, you won’t be as inclined to pick up unnecessary stuff just because “it’s a good deal.” When possible, you can also determine in advance what you want to get each person so you can find the best price for the item and avoid shopping on a whim.


6. Shop early (and maybe alone). 
Try to shop when the stores aren’t as busy. When there are less people around, it’s just easier to get in, get what you want, and get on about your business. Also, it’s okay to shop by yourself if it’ll keep you from spending money that you don’t have just because the person who is with you can.

7. Have fun!
Don’t let Christmas shopping stress you out, girl! Enjoy yourself, your family, your friends, and being able to share this holiday season with them. That’s what it’s all about.

How to you stay on track with Holiday spending? 

Kanisha is a Christian writer/author based in Augusta, GA. Other thanCurlyNikki.com, she has also written forBlackNaps.organdDevozine, and has authored a book of poetry entitled, "Love Letters from the Master." Kanisha can be contacted for business inquiries at kanishaparks@gmail.com 

It's Been Yours.

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As you read these words, you’re waking up.

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You’re becoming conscious of your breath. You’re becoming conscious of the stillness within those hands as they cradle this phone. The energy in your body is shifting. It’s rising and you’re now feeling an elevated emotion... like a smile radiating from inside your chest. When you first began reading these words, you were feeling like your old self, with your old life, your old bank account, your old limitations. Out of habit, you were being and feeling like the old you and would continue experiencing more of the ‘same old’. But now you’re smiling. You’re coming alive on the inside. You feel go(o)d for what seems like no reason! That smile, that elevated energy means you’re now being HER. You’ve shifted your energy, you have shifted worlds and will soon encounter new experiences that match this shift. Stay HERE. Take action from HERE. Respond from HERE. Everybody and every ‘thing’ will catch up. I promise.  #Smile #ItsBeenYours #OwnIt #Shift #LevelUp

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How to Survive the Holidays Meat Free

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Photo via Mwabi's instagram
By Mwabi Kaira

I was listening to an interview about the importance of eliminating what we consume and how what we don’t eliminate becomes disease.  I had been practicing meatless Mondays on-and-off and would do a week of being meat free here, a month of it there, and always saw it as a reset before I went back to meat.  This particular interview got me to thinking and I realized elimination was always easiest when I consumed more fruits and vegetables.  I decided to start with a week of being meat free and I felt so much better after the 7 days that I just decided to keep on going.  That was 5 months ago.  My taste buds have adjusted and I don’t miss meat.  Eventually, I’ll go vegan but for now I’m happy.

Being vegetarian or vegan is easy in your own home where you can prepare your meals.  There are not as many choices once you venture out for meals outside the home, but there are choices that just require some research.  The hardest part has to be family gatherings and the holidays.  There will be vegetables at the gathering but they’ll probably have meat in them and for the vegans, it will be hard to find dishes not cooked with eggs, milk and butter.  Fret not, you can still enjoy your holidays and be meat free by doing these things...

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Go to a Vegan Restaurant for your meal.
Several vegan restaurants are open Thanksgiving and offer a wonderful menu for the day.  Go Vegetarian Restaurant in Atlanta offered this menu for Thanksgiving; sliced vegan turkey topped with gravy on top of herb dressing, collard greens, macaroni and cheese, candy yams and cranberry sauce.  They were open from 9 to 4 allowing you enough time to eat and then stop by the family house for drinks and conversation after a full belly and avoid the awkwardness all together.

Prepare and bring your own food.  
This was my first Thanksgiving meat free and when the group texts started coming in with pork in the dressing, I knew I had to be ready.  I went ahead and made shitake mushrooms, green pepper and onion dressing, sweet potato cornbread and roasted butternut squash to bring to dinner.  Be prepared for eye rolls, side eyes and lots of conversation about what you’re missing out on and how you think you’re too good for everyone now that you are meat free, but hey, you can get through it like you do everything else.  There might even be straight clowning and your Mama might bust out the picture of you at 8 months old sucking on a turkey leg.  Your favorite cousin will talk about the time you ate 3 slabs of ribs all by yourself. Just take it and laugh along with them because we all have a history.  After grace just go get your plate you brought with you and enjoy your food.

You’re outnumbered and can’t explain yourself to everyone.
Do not go to the family dinner armed with stacks of facts about the benefits of being meat free and hand out a one pager with bullet points on why meat will kill everyone.  It took time for you to get to your decision and you have to let people come to the decision on their own as well.  You don’t want to be that one person turning up your nose and scrunching your face at people swallowing ham, turkey, and roast beef when once upon a time you were doing the very same and enjoying it.  Instead, allow your sunny disposition and energy to bring people to you to ask about your journey and tips on how to get started should they decide to give up meat.

Have a Friendsgiving with your vegetarian/vegan friends beforehand.
This will be a judge free zone and you can discus tempeh, kale, jack fruit, tofu, almond milk, seitan, and nutritional yeast without puzzled expressions in return.  You can enjoy all the foods you already eat and try some new ones and swap recipes.  You may even come up with strategies to navigate the non-vegetarian/vegan world.

If Thanksgiving was torturous and you couldn’t partake in any of the food, remember that moving forward it doesn’t have to be.  The tips above should get you ready for Christmas and you’ll be doing this no meat thing like a pro before you know it!

How do you survive meatless holidays? 

Mwabi Kaira is an African girl navigating her way in an American world. She is of Zambian and Malawian heritage and moved to the USA in 1993. Writing has been her passion since she could put a sentence together on the page. Mothering her sons is her pride and joy. She has been an avid runner since 2013 and has run 10 half marathons and a full marathon. Keep up with her at http://africanbeautifulme.blogspot.com/

How Long Should A Man Wait For A Woman To Get Married?

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By Vince Lake

A few years ago, I was a personal trainer in the New York tri-state area. As a personal trainer, you learn a lot about people. I heard all types of stories from my clients, but there’s one particular story I remember to this day about a couple I trained.

This couple lived in Harlem, but worked within the city. I would train her in the morning and her  fiance in the evening. They were engaged for two years and their daughter was five years old. They were in their late 20s to early 30s. She was a manager at a clinic and he was a physical therapist. Their fitness needs were different, she loved cardio workouts while he favored strength endurance training. They started training to have a healthier lifestyle and I admired this. They were a team, living the dream.



After six weeks of training them, I got to know them further and their goals as a couple. I would only ask questions when they initiated the conversation, and I never shared conversations between the two of them. Even though at times I felt as if I was a conduit for them, which I didn't mind; but I was cautious. I've trained couples before, but for some reason I felt more connected to them. Was it because we were close in age, or maybe it's because I saw their relationship as one I wanted for myself. I soon learned that all that glitters isn't gold.

A few sessions had gone by when I noticed Terri (I called this couple TnT for Terri and Tony ) not wearing her engagement ring. During our training sessions, I would store her ring in my zipped sweatpants pocket until we were done because it was so big. One morning, I made a light joke, “I've noticed you've gotten weaker with your left hand.” A look of confusion came across Terri’s face before she caught the joke, chuckled a little, and said that she lost it. She then quickly changed the subject. It was an awkward moment. After our session ended, I told Terri that I hoped she would find her ring because I knew how much it meant to her.

The same evening I had my session with Tony who I noticed was a little more aggressive and intense than usual. When I asked him if everything was ok, he brushed me off and said yes. But his body language told a different story. Finally, ten minutes prior to the end of our workout, Tony broke down.

“It's been eight years bro! Eight long years I've committed my life to her...to us...and she’s still not ready! I'm a patient man, but I can’t anymore.”

I realized this brother needed a baggage handler, someone outside of his circle. Since he was my last client for the evening, I offered him a round of drinks at the pub down the block.

After a few beers, Tony continued to unload his sorrows. Turns out, Terri didn't lose her ring after all. Tony took it back from her.

“I proposed to her two years ago. She said no, she's wasn't ready. But I let her keep the ring. I thought that it would change her mind with time, but it hasn't and I’m ready to move on.”

After our round of drinks, Tony thanked me for listening.

As I made my way to the train station, I couldn't help but think of TnT’s situation. I really thought they were winning. I don't know what Terri’s issue was, but I do feel she lost a good man. A man who is educated, has a good job, is a provider, and a father to his child is hard to come by. And not to speak for all men...but to settle down knowing that this is the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with is a major process for a man to face. When a man is ready, he is ready. I feel Terri was stringing Tony along. Maybe she didn’t mirror Tony’s feelings for her anymore, but Tony loved Terri for certain; and I feel Tony laid the foundation for the three of them to build a life together, at least from what I witnessed and heard from him and Terri. Men have patience, but I do believe we know when to throw in the towel and move forward.   

Should there be a cut-off time when waiting for a partner to get married?
Renaissance man from The Bronx, NY, Vincent "VJ" Lake creative career started in fashion, and expand through fitness and the military. Vincent is also an entrepreneur with his own active-wear lifestyle apparel brand; "PURESPORT ATHLETIC aka PSA". Currently, he is finishing up his first non-fiction book of short stories titled,"I've Had My Share."  The book is scheduled for release in early 2018.

Think Yoga Is ALL About Flexibility? Think Again.

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Photo of Shanna Tyler by Tom Lew
By Shanna Tyler

"I am not flexible." That's the first thing I thought when I started practicing yoga. I hear the same exact words very often from my students as a yoga teacher. Flexibility and yoga seem to be synonymous now. From Instagram to Yoga Journal, so many images are circulating of yoga practitioners touching their toes, doing splits, and practicing backbends. There's so many reasons I would love to talk about yoga and flexibility so that we can all better approach our mats and observe our practices.

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We are yogis, flexible or not. The minute we practice on the mat, we are yogis. Whether we can put our legs behind our head or barely touch our toes, we are all equal as yogis. Being a yogi and being flexible are not one in the same.

I love talking to yogis who are just beginning their practice about this. Yoga is a way to strengthen our mind-body connection through asanas, poses, that enlighten us and reveal our true selves. By no means, do we have to be flexible.

Trust me, I used to think the same thing. In beginning my practice, I was so frustrated when I was not able to touch my toes in a forward fold or grab my heels in camel pose (pictured). I thought why can't I do what's in the picture and/or video! What is wrong?! Then I decided to stop.

 I practiced under teachers who told me it was the journey and not the destination that was important. The most important lesson I learned was that yoga was about quieting the mind and all that talk was nothing but mind-stuff (outside noise). After about two to three years of practice, I realized I could do all kinds of flexible stuff that my body could never do in my earlier years.

Flexibility is a perk of practicing yoga. Regularly coming to the mat will naturally result in being more flexible over time. Revisiting the same poses and working on getting into their full expression will allow us to eventually be flexible.

Pigeon,triangle, and monkey poses are a few of my personal favorites to practice in order to see the perk of being flexible enough to reach the full poses. Many, if not all, yoga poses are wonderful for stretching muscles and gaining flexibility, which leads to less injuries.

 It is so much fun to incorporate flexible poses into personal practice but it is so much more important to note that it will take time and patience. These poses can be practiced with props like blocks underneath our hips and fingertips until there is a time we do not need them. Even though I can do the full pose, I still practice pigeon pose with a block underneath my hips if I feel extra tight one day. It also is hard for me to get to a full split sometimes so I like to use a blanket or pillow, I find I like something softer right underneath my l bits :D I share this to say that flexibility is a perk but something that definitely is still work, and that's okay! It does not make us less or more of yogis. It's more important to flow in yoga than to flow with expectation.

Coming to our mats is not about flexibility! It can definitely be an added bonus after years of practice, but it is not something that is necessary to feel the benefits. It feels good to talk about this because sometimes I come to the mat expecting to rock out in a split. But I am quieting that self-talk and allowing myself to enjoy this ride. Allowing ourselves to enjoy the present moment in yoga can be taken off the mat, as well. I find my years of practice has increased my patience and my ability to work toward my goals. The mental and emotional benefits outweigh the physical benefit of flexibility, for sure. Anytime those pesky thoughts come around saying we aren't flexible enough, let's gently remind ourselves that we are in it for the mind-body connection and that flexibility will come with time. It's only a cherry on top of the yoga cake!

This article appeared on ShannaTyler.com
If you'd like to know more about yoga, subscribe to her blog!

Subscribe To The CurlyNikki Newsletter For A Chance To Win A Mielle Organics Hair Care Bundle!

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8 Reasons She’s Gotta Have It is Binge Worthy

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The Cast of 'She's Gotta Have It'
By Mwabi Kaira

I was 10 years old when Spike Lee’s movie She’s Gotta Have It was released. I obviously didn’t see it.  When it was announced that Spike was recreating the movie as a Netflix TV series, I was excited to have something of melanin to watch.  After hearing the cast on the Breakfast Club early last week, I decided to watch the movie to refresh my memory because I seriously couldn’t remember if I’d seen it.  I got acquainted with Nola Darling and instantly fell in love and wondered what the reviews were back in 1986 because Nola was not one to be played with!  I began my binge Thursday (just one episode before I headed out for Thanksgiving festivities), paced myself to episode 5 on Friday and finished episode 10 Saturday.  I was not disappointed and haven’t stopped talking about it since.  Spike did an amazing job of bringing 2017 to the series.  If you haven’t binged the series yet, here are 8 reasons why you should:
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Tracy Camilla Johns and Spike Lee from 'She's Gotta Have It' the movie
 Melanin Magic
The entire cast is so beautiful. Nola rocks the natural hair unapologetically. The three men in her life Jamie Overstreet, Mars Blackmon, and Greer Childs are three gorgeous shades of melanin and have amazing bodies.  Everywhere you look there are black people represented in their own light doing their thing from the Therapist, to the landlord, to people on the street to her parents. It feels good to be inserted into a world we are so familiar with.

Female Empowerment
Nola Darling is a black woman in control of everything in her life.  She refuses to be boxed in.  Her art is on her terms.  She picks her men as she pleases and sees them when it is convenient for her; Nola is not sitting around twiddling her thumbs waiting on things to happen.  She’s living her life in full and refuses to let anyone stop her.   Her best friend is doing the same with her gallery, as is her boss at the school Nola teaches. It is refreshing to see black women doing their thing so well.

DeWanda Wise as 'Nola Darling'
Owning Your Sexuality and the Steaminess of it all
Nola Darling makes her own sex rules.  She is all about feeling good and gets satisfaction in different ways from each of her lovers. She refuses to be made to feel bad about her choices and owns them.  She is not a freak, not a sex addict, and there is certainly nothing wrong with her.  She enjoys making love in her loving bed and anyone not with it need not slow Nola down.  Nola belongs to herself.  The way Nola moves in her loving bed with Jamie Overstreet is different from the way she interacts with Mars Blackmon and completely different from her encounters with Greer Childs.  There may even be some gentler loving with another lover and believe me when I tell you that there is no shortage of nudity at all in this series.    

The importance of friendship
We see the ups and downs of friendship between Nola and her girlfriends Clorinda and Shameka.  Once roommates, Clorinda chooses their friendship over her sanity with the different suitors in and out of their space.  Clorinda doesn’t understand it but chooses not to judge Nola and let her do her in her own space.  Shameka has body issues and Nola stands by her as she makes choices that not everyone agrees with.  Through their ups and downs, it is evident that they will always have each other’s backs because what is life without your girls?

Chyna Lane, Margot Bingham, and DeWanda Wise
Sexual harassment - No Means No
Unfortunately catcalling is something Nola experiences regularly just walking down the street.  Like many women, Nola has to fend unwanted attention and one incident shakes her.  We see how she handles the situation.  Sexual harassment is currently a topic much discussed in 2017 so it was good to see it played out on the small screen.

Black New York
Not since 'Living Single' have we had our girls living and loving in New York.  And unlike 'Sex and The City' where black people were even absent on the street, we see New York as the vibrant multicultural City it is.  We see restaurants and parks and Fort Greene living.  We see brownstones and feel like that’s where we need to be.  

Gentrification, Homelessness, White Privilege and Black Lives Matter
This is a Spike Lee joint so he leaves no stone unturned on issues the black community are currently facing.  Where do the people displaced by gentrification go when they can no longer afford to live in the neighborhoods they have known their entire lives?  How do white people moving into our neighborhoods view the blacks already living there?  Spike explores it all and leaves us thinking.

She’s Gotta Have It is streaming on Netflix now.

What are your thoughts on the series?

Mwabi Kaira is an African girl navigating her way in an American world. She is of Zambian and Malawian heritage and moved to the USA in 1993. Writing has been her passion since she could put a sentence together on the page. Mothering her sons is her pride and joy. She has been an avid runner since 2013 and has run 10 half marathons and a full marathon. Keep up with her at http://africanbeautifulme.blogspot.com/

How Essential Oils Changed My Life: And What They Can Do For You!

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By Jashima Wadehra

It all started when I️ was traveling to India after all the mosquito born viruses were on a rise. I️ was essentially tired of inhaling chemicals and putting deet filled repellents on my skin. Naturally, I️ consulted the internet gods, did my research and found the trifecta that would soon be my holy grail; grapefruit, lemongrass and citronella essential oils. Shortly after finding the most effective natural remedy for bug repellent (not one bite!), I️ decided to invest in a cheap diffuser just too see what all the buzz was about

I’m not one to jump on the hype train y’all, with that said, essential oils have LITERALLY changed my life.

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Essential Oil Diffuser

Let me tell you- I️ hate being home but I️ was not going ANYWHERE when my apartment smelled like what I️ imagine a lavender massage from an attractive man does- delicious!

Here is my first ever blend:
3 drops lavender oil
3 drops eucalyptus oil
3 drops grapefruit oil
3 drops peppermint oil
3 drops of lemongrass

PEPPERMINT
If you’ve ever taken an exam you know that your mother, teacher or sweet tooth always encouraged you to eat those Life Saver Mints. Peppermint has properties that stimulate our senses and encourage focus and alertness- diffusing this oil in your home is a game changer especially if you have a home office or studio.

LAVENDER
If you’re like me sleep does NOT come easily and melatonin and diphenhydramine are not your friends, then lavender essential oil is! Lavender has calming properties that tend to soothe tensions and relax the mind and body, therefore diffuse it, put it on your wrists and wind down with a cup of chamomile tea.

Eucalyptus
EUCALYPTUS
Eucalyptus has MANY, MANY, MANY and I️ mean MANY benefits. It’s a natural decongestant, pain reliever, wound cleanser and essentially your respiratory saving grace, which my ineffective asthmatic lungs appreciate.

While essential oils can be on the pricier end of the spectrum they do keep on giving and come in great bundles. Ayurvedic and old Asian medicinal practices heavily use many of the herbs and plants that come in essential oil form. Aside from traditional health benefits who doesn’t love a self-curated aroma that also filters the air!

There are hundreds of brands and even more ways to use them but @HolisticHabits does an incredible rundown on her favorite brands and types as well as their hair and skin benefits!

Essential oils are very much your one-stop-shop for a natural alternative. I️ have gone from a girl with a fear of mosquitoes to someone who uses oils in ALL my household cleaning products, my skin regimen, my diffuser and my scalp care routine. The possibilities are endless as are the medicinal benefits.

My fav essential oils
Below is my favorite multi purpose blend, I️ use it to stimulate blood flow to my scalp and kick my cold’s A**.

3 drops clary sage oil
3 drops rosemary oil
3 drops eucalyptus oil
2 drops lavender oil

Be sure to mix them with a carrier oil like jojoba, castor or coconut when applying to your scalp 2x a week and reap the benefits!

I’m no aficionado but I️ know what’s on my #LoveYourself Christmas list this year!

Do you use essential oils? 
Jashima Wadehra is a writer, dancer, entrepreneur, and lover of people based in NYC.  She can be found blogging at overpriced coffee shops or on a plane heading to a new place to write about.  Follow her on instagram at @TheChatterboxlifeEnthusiast and check out her new blog TheChatterBoxLifeEnthusiast.com.  

Jasmine Is Naturally Glam And Passionate About Natural Hair!

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Jasmine aka @curlygaisha
Naturally Glam is baaaaaack with Jasmine aka CurlyGaisha!
Jasmine grew up in beautiful Garden State, New Jersey, with NYC right in her backyard, so she's a city girl through-and-through. Natural for three years, find out why she says it's the best decision she ever made, and how she plans to use her love of hair to inspire young girls around the world!

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Tell us about your hair?
Now, to describe my hair texture and curl pattern, my hair texture is more toward the kinky side with roots that are prone to dryness. I have low porosity hair, which means it’s harder for moisture to penetrate; it’s important to know what works. With low porosity hair, products sit on the strand and need extra help (i.e. heat/steam) to open the cuticles to penetrate. Knowing my hair porosity has helped tremendously with the growth and health of my hair. I couldn’t understand why I had flakes or why products did not melt into my hair like the girls I saw on YouTube. That is why I love to help women I connect with. I don’t want them to waste their time and money trying endless amounts of product in a blind search to find what works. Another thing with my texture, I cannot use shampoo because it strips my hair of it’s moisture, so I substitute with bentonite clay / apple cider vinegar mix. For my curl pattern, I have tight coils on the right side in the front, loose pattern on the left side in the front and crown, and then 3c curls in the back. YES, so many curl patterns, but it has been a great journey so far getting to know them all. So be strong on your journey and do not take one person's experience as the key for yours.

What does having natural hair mean to you?
 Being natural is more than a hair thing, it's embracing everything that is true to you from your hair, to your beauty and the skin you’re in. Since starting this journey, I have become way more confident and sure of myself, loving all of me. I wish I discovered this part of myself years ago, but my belief is, everything happens when it is supposed to. I am excited to continue my journey and see where it takes me, with meeting new people and growing as a Black Boss Woman.

Do you have any fav black-owned products that you use?
My fav black-owned business products are Eden Body works, Camille rose, and Shea moisture. I know Shea moisture is not 100% black owned anymore, but the founders are black and the black community still greatly benefits from the work they do in the community. I must be selective with my products because I tend to have flakes and dryness, so that is why I stress knowing your hair porosity. I love Eden Body Works entire coconut line, sadly I feel they do not get the recognition they deserve. I promise you, I get the best results with my twist outs when using their leave-in conditioner and curl cream. I have low porosity kinky curly hair with a mix of four different curl patterns, this product line addresses all of it. I also LOVE their Co-wash it is in my top favorite of all time, I always recommend it! I haven’t yet mastered a wash and go with the products, but that is my next project and I’ll be sure to update you on how that goes. Camille rose curl maker is AMAZING when doing a wash and go! Last, but definitely not least, Shea Moisture, my hairs first love. There are numerous lines within the brand, but my favorite is the coconut and hibiscus line. I highly recommend the co-wash, conditioner, and curl smoothie. The line also has body products, as well as, kids’ hair products. I have used the coconut and hibiscus line since the beginning and I do not see myself giving it up. My latest obsession is the Low porosity leave-in and when I say IN love!! I mean IN LOVE!! I’ve mastered my wash and go with that beauty, pairing it will eco styler gel. My next project is to try other black owned brands, such as TGIN and The Mane Choice, so I will let you guys know how that goes.


What do you do and why do you love it?
I am focusing on building my brand, CurlyGaisha, one video and post at a time, while aspiring to inspire and motivate girls worldwide. I create content of my natural hair tips and tricks to help others with their journey and hopefully make their journeys easier. I create tutorials on my YouTube channel and give advice on my Facebook and Instagram accounts. I love it because I am contributing to my community by helping women of all ages embrace their natural beauty. Loving yourself is the first step to becoming the best version of yourself. If you do not love yourself, how can anyone else?! So, I love helping women master their hair and the challenges that come with it. It is fulfilling to see someone else get excited about being more confident and mastering their natural hair because I know how rough it can be. My long-term goal is to create my own hair product line and continue to reach as many girls as I can.

Has having natural hair contributed to you meeting your goals?
Since going natural, I’ve learned I have so much to offer and have not scratch the surface yet. I discovered I enjoy talking to anyone I encounter about natural hair, and that is why I started my YouTube channel. I reached one of my biggest goals of being featured on CurlyNikki, which is extremely exciting for me. As small beginning Natural hair influencer posted on one of the top natural hair blogs, that’s huge! Natural hair is a movement, it’s an identity, it’s a lifestyle, and it’s confidence. Since going natural, I learned the importance of standing in my truth and not allowing negative opinions to penetrate my mind. Society has a way of shaping your thoughts about how you look, about how you should act, and what is acceptable but just starting my hair journey has helped me tap into much more, starting from the color of my skin. I used to think having lighter skin was being beautiful because of society’s view, but now you CAN NOT tell me anything about my chocolate skin, that glows in the sun. Starting from our crowns to our skin in all the shades of melanin to our culture, WE ARE DOPE!

Jasmine & Sis showing sisterly love
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If you're familiar with CurlyNikki you know that Naturally Glam is a platform for readers to share their natural hair journey, and now, we're adding the other important elements of your life! Are you in school, do you have a business, blog, products, advice, or even photos of your family to share? If you'd like to be featured in Naturally Glam- whether you live here or abroad- submit your photos to naturallyglam@curlynikki.com and answer these questions! 

1) Where are you from and how long have you been natural?
2) Do you have any fav black-owned products that you use?
3) What do you do and why do you love it?
5) If you have a business, are in school, have a blog, products you sell, advice to give, or family that you are proud of and want to share, please do.
6) Has having natural hair contributed to you meeting your life goals? If so, how?
7) What's been the best part of your natural hair journey or your hair journey in general?

CurlyNikki on The Dr. Oz Show, Tomorrow! (Nov 30)

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6 months in, 9 months out!

I’ll be back on The Dr. Oz Show Thursday talking DIY natural hair remedies. Check your local listings and tune in, please! 

In other news, Max finally got 2 teeth (he's 9 months)!  They came in at the bottom and they're so friggin cute.   He loves biting me and finds it absolutely hilarious. Like, I'll let him gently chomp down on my finger and I'll yell, 'ouch!' and then he'll fall out laughing.  We can do this for 10 minutes straight.  I told Gene to try.  He let Max bite his finger, he said 'ouch!' and Max immediately put his head down into Gene's chest for like 2 minutes!  Max doesn't do cuddling, so this was strange.  Gene tried it again and Max started crying and put his head back down into his chest as if to say, 'I'm soooo sorry!!!!!' It was so precious.  He loves his Daddy, y'all!

Later, 
Nik

Is Your Value As A Mom Based On What You Can Buy Your Kids?

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By Erickka Sy Savané

“When am I going to start dance lessons?” my 6-year-old daughter asks me at the park, soon after discovering that her new friend just came from ballet class.
“We’ll see,” I tell her.
“That’s what you said the last time.”
“I know,” I reply.

“We’ll see.” I heard that so many times growing up and it always meant the same thing. “We can’t afford it.” Now I’m saying it, sounding just like my mom who didn’t want to make me a promise that she couldn’t keep. But it sucks because as parents we strive to give our kids the things we didn’t have, and when we can’t it can feel like a failure.

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The other day I was talking to a single, working mom who knows exactly what I’m feeling. She was saying that her daughter’s second grade class would go around on Monday and make all the kids share what they did over the weekend. “It was terrible because kids would feel left out if they weren’t climbing Mount Everest or going to Disney,” she says, adding that she’d tell her daughter to just make something up. “But when we really did go somewhere best believe eeeeeeeeeverybody knew!” she laughs.

Now my daughter is over on the grass practicing flips that she learned from watching videos on Youtube. Shoutout to Youtube tutorials that can teach you how to fly a plane if you want. But still.

That evening, we were walking to Parent’s Night at her school and already she’s asking me what she’s gonna get if her report from her teacher is good. “We’ll see,” I tell her, wishing that this knot in my stomach was the kind that would suppress my appetite because if you’re going to feel bad, you should at least lose weight. But I digress.

My daughter’s teacher, Mrs. V., is giving me the report and it’s good. I’m not completely surprised because they’re in kindergarten and just learning to read and write so it’s hard to screw up. But then she tells me that she is a good writer. A good writer? And she gives me a few month’s worth of extra lessons that I should have her do everyday at home to help her build on it. I must be looking at her like she’s a Martian because she says:
“You’re a writer, right?”
“Yes,” I tell her.
“It makes sense.”
We’re walking home and I’m thinking about what the teacher said and what it means. Somehow, without even trying, my daughter is picking up on my writing skills. And it does make sense because we talk about writing a lot. I tell her what I’m working on and sometimes she even makes suggestions. I never thought anything of it, but what if I've been teaching her how to write?

Suddenly, it occurs to me that while I’m feeling bad that I can’t get her dance lessons, and some of the other material things that she wants, I’m missing out on what I can give her, and that’s a skill that she can take with her wherever she goes. Like a cook who passes down that magic touch in the kitchen, that child will never go hungry, nor will a tailor who teaches his kid how to sew. At the end of the day, my daughter doesn’t have to become a writer, but the point is she’ll have something in her arsenal to fall back on. You set your kids up in life by passing on to them what you know. Sometimes that's life experience.

My daughter interrupts my thoughts to say, “Mommy, now that I got a good report what are you going to give me?”

I turn to her and say, “We’ll see.” But this time I’m smiling.

This article appeared on Madamenoire.com

Do you base your value as a parent on what you can buy your kids?

Erickka Sy Savané is managing editor of CurlyNikki.com, a wife, mom, and freelance writer based in Jersey, City, NJ. Her work has appeared in Essence.comEbony.com, Madamenoire.com, xoNecole.com, and more. When she’s not writing...wait, she’s always writing! Follow her on Twitter, Instagram or  

7 Things To Know About Miss Jamaica, Davina Bennett

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Miss Jamaica Davina Bennett
By Winnie Gaturu

Miss Jamaica, Davina Bennett, might not have won the Miss Universe Crown but she sure won the hearts of many. The 21-year-old proudly showcased not only beauty but also confidence and a true Jamaican spirit in the pageant. She ended up being the 2nd runner-up but hundreds of people on twitter thought she should have won and started the hashtag:  #MissJamaicaShouldHaveWon.
In case you missed the show, here are 7 things you should know about Ms Jamaica!

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She is the first Miss Universe finalist to rock an Afro
This was the most conspicuous thing about her. By rocking her natural hair, she played an important role in providing media representation on the matter. Natural hair is still a huge issue in education and the workplace. She has opened new doors for more black women to accept themselves as they are and embrace their natural hair.



She comes from Mitchell Town a small town in Clarendon, Jamaica
Davina's hometown is Mitchell Town, which has a population of around 2,500 people. The residents of the town were proud of their home girl and celebrated the whole night. Most of the residents are of the opinion that Davina should have won, and she is still a winner in their eyes.

She is a College Student
Davina Bennett is currently a student at the University of West Indies, pursuing a degree in marketing. She would like to utilize here degree to successfully brand and market herself as an entrepreneur. With a clear picture of what she wants to achieve, Davina is a true depiction of beauty and brains.

She created a foundation for the Deaf
Davina is the founder and CEO of The Davina Bennett Foundation for the Deaf. She created it with the aim of training and inspiring deaf models. However, it has now grown thus including a wider cross section of the deaf community in Jamaica. Although she did not win the Miss Universe crown, Davina is happy that she has created more awareness around the deaf community. She intends to continue working with the deaf community through her foundation and help break the stigma surrounding hearing loss.

She's in the process of building a sign Language App
In the process of learning sign language, Davina started thinking about how hard it must be for the deaf. They are mostly misunderstood and denied many opportunities because they are different. This inspired her to come up with a sign language app. Its aim is to bridge the gap between the hearing and the hearing impaired to ease their communication. Although the app is not finished yet, it is a noble initiative which we're certain will be of help to many.


She Never Thought Of Doing Pageantry
Davina has always been a fashion model and never thought she'd venture into pageantry. She always aims to inspire others to do things they never thought they would achieve and that's why she decided to step out of her comfort zone and compete for the Miss Universe crown. She took this competition as a chance to grow, meet new people, gain new opportunities and give new innovative projects to her home country, Jamaica.

She trains models
Davina loves giving back to her community. One of the ways she does this is by training aspiring models. She mainly works with hearing impaired models because she believes that they should be given the same opportunities as everyone else. One of her proudest moment was when her deaf modeling student was able to model and catwalk flawlessly on the runway.

#MissJamaicaShouldHaveWon – What do you think?

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Winnie Gaturu is a writer, tech lover, mom, wife and student from Nairobi, Kenya. During her free time, she loves trying out new recipes, diy projects, filling in crossword puzzles and spending time with her family. You can catch up with her on yourhairandbeautywrite.wordpress.com.

You'll Fall In Love With This #MeToo Hair Sculpture & So Much More!

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Laetitia Ky's #metoo campaign
By Winnie Gaturu

Have you seen Laetitia Ky's amazing hair sculptures? If you haven't, head over to her Instagram page and prepare yourself to be amazed. Laetitia is a 21 year-old polyvalent artist and aspiring fashion designer from Cote d'Ivoire. She has made a name for herself through her stunning natural hair sculptures which she does on her own head. She creates elaborate up-dos to depict anything from a smiley face to a bicycle. Some of her most stunning sculptures are the ones where she has shaped hands doing different things like holding a phone, waving hello and playing guitar.

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Laetitia is an artistic individual and enjoys creating pieces of art. She says that her inspiration for this kind of hair art was from a photo series she saw on Instagram depicting the beauty and versatility of African Tribal styles. The styles she saw were stunningly. This got her thinking of how she could do the same with hair. Just like that, her amazing artwork was born. She started piecing together ideas from everything around her in order to create each amazing piece of artwork.

The time she takes to create each hair sculpture varies. It might take a few minutes for simple up-dos or up-to half a day for the more complex ones. The sculptures with the hands take the longest time. They usually involve the use of wires to shape and position of the fingers in order to achieve the desired look.

Laetitia Ky
Making these pieces of art doesn’t use up a lot of supplies. As a matter of fact, Laetitia normally uses working pins, fabric, wool yarn and a bit of wire only. All these are readily available materials which makes her work easier. Once she has her supplies, she is able to use them to manipulate her hair and transform it into a masterpiece.

#metoo
One of her recent hair sculptures was for the #metoo campaign where she depicted a man trying to lift a lady's skirt. She accompanied this image with a heartfelt message to all victims of sexual assault or harassment on an instablog. One of the things she highlighted was how society tends to blame the victims every time.  How the observers associate the unfortunate event with a victim’s dress code or behavior. She also mentioned marital rape and encouraged all victims to speak out. Laetitia goes on to let women know that it’s never too late to speak out even if the assault took place a long time ago. Since the weight can be too difficult for one to bear alone, Laetitia informed her followers that her DM was open to anyone who wanted to talk. Her parting words, “You are not alone”.


What do you think about Laetitia’s hair sculptures?
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Winnie Gaturu is a writer, tech lover, mom, wife and student from Nairobi, Kenya. During her free time, she loves trying out new recipes, diy projects, filling in crossword puzzles and spending time with her family. You can catch up with her on yourhairandbeautywrite.wordpress.com.

You Aren't Scared, You Just Forgot Who You Are.

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#abehicks

The reality is that you’re never disconnected from your TrueSelf (aka God, Tao, Source, The I Am, Being, Consciousness, Soul). Your awareness of the connection just gets covered up by thoughts and circumstances and thoughts about those circumstances.

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And then your body interprets this apparent disconnection as tension/contraction/heaviness which your mind interprets as nerves, fear, anger, jealousy and low self-esteem. But when you maintain a moment to moment awareness of your connection to your TrueSelf— interpreted by your body and mind as peace, relief, joy and other go(o)d feels— you’re being HER, now. And she’s naturally confident, happy, clear-minded, kind, successful and strong.  Those characteristics that you’re so desperately striving for, that you believe you’re currently lacking, are who and what you are. Allow your inherent abundance to flow. Let go. Breathe. Smile. Be HER, now.  

Why We Can Not Ignore Africans Being Enslaved In Libya

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By Mwabi Kaira

We prayed for Paris when there was a terror attack; profile pictures were quickly changed to show support. We prayed for Houston after Hurricane Harvey and rallied together by sending money and supplies to Texas. We prayed for Puerto Rico and raised our voices when aid wasn’t rushed to them after Hurricane Maria left the island without power and resources. In October CNN reported that men were being auctioned for as little as $400 and being sold into slavery. The auctioneer per CNN offered up the man being auctioned as one of a group of “big strong boys for farm work.” In 2017!



I’ll be honest my first reaction was to turn away and not click on posts regarding it when they started to show up in my newsfeed. I could not let one more thing against black people make me more upset this year. We have had such a hard year already. I just couldn’t imagine how grown black people could be auctioned off in this day and age. We saw the auction scene in Jordan Peele’s movie Get Out and thought it could never happen. Well it is happening and the images will make your stomach churn and your heart hurt.

Thousands of migrants from all over Africa are fleeing economic hardships and conflict and ending up in Libya, a country in Northern Africa at the Mediterranean coast with hopes of being able to flee by sea to Europe with dreams for a better life. What is happening is that too many people are showing up and there has been a crackdown on the Libyan coastguard resulting in fewer boats leaving and many people being left in Libya. They can’t go back home because they have sold all their belongings or are fleeing and can’t go back. This is where smugglers come in, they are the new slave masters and come from Europe to buy these men to take back to their countries as slaves to work as laborers.

Bouquet Ismael Escaped After Being Sold Multiple Times In Libya

Because of CNN’s reporting and videos, the world is aware of this atrocious human rights violation. United Nations (UN) Secretary General Antonio Guterres has urged the international community to come together and unite in ending the atrocities taking place in Libya. In a statement, Guterres said “Slavery has no place in this world. These actions are the most outrageous to ever happen.”

As for us, we cannot feel hopeless and stay mute. We must raise our voices and lend support like we do for all other causes. We must stay informed and keep up to date with what is going on in Libya. All the information we need is at our fingertips, all we have to do is research it. Most importantly we must raise awareness with our friends and family through our social media and in face to face conversations. We cannot allow this to happen on our watch.


What can we do about this atrocity? 

Mwabi Kaira is an African girl navigating her way in an American world. She is of Zambian and Malawian heritage and moved to the USA in 1993. Writing has been her passion since she could put a sentence together on the page. Mothering her sons is her pride and joy. She has been an avid runner since 2013 and has run 10 half marathons and a full marathon. Keep up with her athttp://africanbeautifulme.blogspot.com/

Is The Excitement About Meghan Markle’s Engagement Tied To Our Desire For White Validation?

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Prince Harry and fiancé Meghan Markle 
By Veronica Wells
I remember my grandmother waking my sister and me up in the wee hours of the morning to watch Princess Diana’s funeral. As a 10-year-old American, I thought Princess Diana’s death was certainly a terrible tragedy; still, I was confused about why we were made to view the funeral proceedings as if we were distantly connected to the fallen royal. Years later, I would learn that older Jamaicans, including my maternal grandmother, have an almost unhealthy obsession with “Mother England” and particularly the Royal Family. Blame it on colonialism. With a few exceptions, American Black folk don’t exactly get geeked about Queen Elizabeth and her heirs. In fact, she’s often regarded with quite a bit of skepticism and even intense disdain. Ask Paul Mooney. 

But with the recent news of Prince Harry proposing to American actress Meghan Markle, Black folk have been almost ecstatic about the prospect of a Black woman openly occupying a space in the royal family. (There are several theories that there have been other Black royals but their racial identities weren’t widely discussed or acknowledged.)


There were tweets, memes, and gifs that featured Black folk and their desire to attend the #RoyalWedding. There were interracial couples who stepped forward to share their particular delight in the union, “It shows how diverse and modern the Royal Family are.” Girl Tyler on Twitter developed the catchphrase “We got us a Black princess, y’all” and started selling merchandise.  

Midway through the second day of celebration, I started getting concerned. While I don’t doubt that Meghan and Prince Harry are in love; the collective investment into their story as if we’ve all won a prize because she was chosen, was alarming to me. Not to mention, her relationship with Prince Harry as one bi-racial Black woman doesn’t exactly represent a great leap for diversity in the royal family. I knew that my opinion was an unpopular one so I ran my thoughts by my sister to make sure I wasn’t being unreasonable.

“I’m trying to be happy for Meghan Markle but I feel like so much of the excitement around her engagement is centered around White validation...I mean, I’m happy for her but I’m...concerned about the reaction from Black people.”

My sister said that Black people were excited because Meghan Markle was effing up the hierarchy. There were plenty of people who already deemed her unworthy and her entrance into the royal family would be a personal insult to all of those racists.

I could see where she was coming from. But I still wanted to see what other people had to say so I conducted an Instagram poll. Aside from myself and two other women, (one of which said she could see both sides), most of the women who responded shared my sister’s sentiments. According to some, Meghan was not only going to challenge the image of the royal family, she was going to symbolize a different type of possibility for Black girls and women.

Vogue itself said that now little Black girls all over the world could see themselves in the soon-to-be princess. 

Despite the arguments, the hoopla still made me uncomfortable. And just as I was about to accept defeat and admit that maybe I was making too much of this whole thing, my cousin DMed me a screenshot of this piece from Philly.com.



That was it. That was when I knew I wasn’t crazy. There is a special, undeniable type of excitement about Meghan Markle, that was directly attached to the man she was marrying. As if true happiness wasn’t and isn’t accessible to Black women who marry Black men, men who aren’t royalty. Furthermore, Meghan Markle is far from the first Black princess or Queen figure for us. There have been centuries of them in Africa, past and present. Yet, those women didn’t seem to mean as much. There have even been other Black women who’ve married into European, even the British royal family in one way or another. My friend wrote a whole slideshow featuring both of these Black women.  Some of them you may have even heard of, so why did this particular marriage represent a new chance for happiness for us, Black women?

I think it goes back to that White validation. Despite the fact that the British empire has, for centuries, oppressed and continues to collect off the oppression of people of color all over the world, it’s still their cosign and approval that means the most to us. We still want to be accepted, invited, included in their systems. Never mind that these are the same systems that exploited our land, our resources, our culture, contributions and even our bodies, without recognition or reward.

Prince Harry might play a large role in Meghan Markle’s happiness. I think there’s a strong likelihood that he will be good to her and her to him.  But I would never advise Black women, worldwide, to look at Meghan’s engagement as a larger symbol of our worth in the eyes of White people, the British empire or the world at large. That’s something we’re going to have to find on our own.

Veronica Wells is the culture editor at MadameNoire.com. She is also the author of “Bettah Days” and the creator of the website NoSugarNoCreamMag. You can follow her on Facebook and on Instagram and Twitter @VDubShrug.

Do you feel some black women are using this engagement to a royal as a way to validate themselves?

Veronica Wells is the culture editor at MadameNoire.com. She is also the author of “Bettah Days” and the creator of the websiteNoSugarNoCreamMag. You can follow her on Facebook and on Instagram and Twitter @VDubShrug.

Did Ya'll See Nikki's DIY Hair Treatments On Dr. Oz?!

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Hey Ladies,
Nikki was on Dr. Oz yesterday dishing out some serious DIY hair treatments! In case you missed it, here are a couple that you will definitely want to try for damaged hair. itchy scalp and frizzy flyaways!

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Nikki's Tea Rinse
This is Nikki's real deal solution to damaged hair without any chemicals. Address breakage, thinning, split ends and color, like they do in the salons, at a fraction of the cost!

Ingredients
2 tbsp fenugreek tea
2 tbsp black tea
1 cup aloe vera juice

Directions
1. Mix together ingredients, then apply directly to scalp all the way down to the tips.
2. Put hair in a shower cap for 20 minutes then rinse, shampoo, condition, and style. Do this treatment twice a month to prevent further damage.



Nikki's "AHA" Treatment
Looking for the perfect remedy for dry and itchy hair scalp? – “aha” ingredients aloe vera, honey, and apple cider vinegar are just what you need! Mixed together you get moisture to combat dryness, and apple cider vinegar has anti-fungal properties which can help eliminate dandruff. Keep the leftovers in a mason jar in the refrigerator.

Ingredients
2 cups aloe vera gel
2 tbsp honey
4 tbsp apple cider vinegar

Directions
1. Mix together ingredients, then apply on roots and strands.
2. Leave in for 5 minutes before you begin your regular shampoo. Do this once every 2 weeks.




Nikki's Oil Serum Treatment
Nikki has the solution for those pesky flyaways and frizz that are common after blow-drying, especially in the winter. In place of a silicone-based serum, which can actually dehydrate hair over time, this oil-based serum has vitamins and fatty acids to help soften the hair and promote growth.

Ingredients
1 tbsp avocado oil
1 tbsp castor oil
1 oz flaxseed oil
5 drops of essential oils of your choice

Directions
1. Mix together ingredients and apply to dry hair once a day. Store in the refrigerator.
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