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With the best articles on caring for natural hair, Curly Nikki is your source for inspiration and advice. Find out about the latest styles and trends today!
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    Naakie Nartey 
    Hey Naturals, 
    We know that it's not always easy to come up with new hairstyles when life is going on. That's why we love hair vloggers like Naakie Nartey who do the work so we don't have to! If you've got short-to medium 4c hair, and wanna try something new, here's 8 (yes 8!) styles to try that'll give you a little mo' pep in yo' step! If you likey, please show her some love by liking her page, sharing, subscribing and/or leaving a comment! 




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    By Renese

    Black History Month has been lit so far! And we are only six days in. But of course, the train of tomfoolery is never late. It arrived yesterday on NBC’s Today Show.

    The Today Show decided to do a segment on the Egyptian Queen Nefertiti. Considered to not only be the most beautiful woman in ancient Egypt, she was “co-king” with her son, King Tut. The show decided to honor her (I guess) by revealing what the Pharaoh would have looked like in her day. It turns out that maybe what we thought she looked like was wrong all along.


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    By Mwabi Kaira

    Despite having so many choices of shows with people of color to watch on TV or streaming services these days, the internet exploded last week when there were hints about a Martin reboot coming back. It started with Martin’s fiance, Roberta Moradfar posting, “Got word from my fiancé that my favorite show may be coming back..." Martin responded with an eye emoji and the story took off. That was followed up by co-stars Martin Lawrence, Tisha Campbell-Martin, and Tichina Arnold being photographed after a lunch date. They were mum when asked about a reboot but Tisha was wearing an outfit with one of the show’s famous lines: “That Ain’t No Damn Puppy.”

    Reaction has been mixed from twitter users being ecstatic and coming up with story lines to others being 100% against it and asking that such a classic show be left alone. 

    Twitter user @JessicaSaxena thinks that the reboot should begin at Tommy's funeral with everyone reconnecting and realizing that life is too short not to be with their friends. Actor Tommy Ford passed away in 2016 so this would be a great way to honor him. Others just can’t imagine how a show that ended in 1997 can come back and be current in 2018 and still make us laugh like it did. Lets face it, seeing 20-something Martin, Gina and Pam being very physical in their comedy will not be the same as seeing late-40’s and early 50’s Martin, Gina and Pam being physical in their comedy.

    Tia & Tamera Mowry 
    There has been a surge of reboots lately. Will & Grace made a come back last March after being off the air since 2006 and picked up with the show's four stars in their present lives. Fuller House returned to Netflix in 2016 and has been picked up for a 4th season already. Roseanne is set to return in March after being off the air since 1997. Black sitcoms need to grab a piece of this pie too and actors are taking to their social media accounts asking fans if they’d like to see them back on their screens. Jackée Harry, Tia Mowry-Hardrict and Tamera-Mowry Housley have all expressed wanting a Sister, Sister reboot and are just looking for a home for it. Flex Alexander recently asked fans if they’d want to see a One on One reboot on an instagram post. Nicole Ari Parker and Malinda Williams did the same and asked fans if they were ready to see Soul Food come back.

    Soul Food Cast
    I’m here for melanin nostalgia and would love to see an explosion of shows I loved back on my screen especially with so many ways to watch them now. I would love The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air come back as a cartoon. I’d love to see Maxine and Kyle raising their Black Lives Matter kids and Regine and her rich husband being as bougie as ever in a Living Single reboot. I’d love to see Toni Childs and Todd’s baby all grown up and see if Lynn is still in school in a Girlfriends reboot. The list goes on and on but because of social media, we live in fickle times. Fans love you one minute and black twitter trashes you the next and there goes the pendulum shift in real time. If these reboots come, writers have to come so correct and leave zero room for error. They can’t drastically change storylines we loved and give us new characters that we can’t connect to. Sure, Martin could have become a Preacher like someone we know in our real lives but we don’t want to see him as that; we have to be presented with the loud, short man who had jokes for days and read Pam on the daily. We have to feel like we have been dropped back into our favorite characters lives just as we knew them but as their 2018 best versions.

    Are you keeping your fingers crossed for a Martin reboot? What other shows do you want to see come back?
    Mwabi Kaira is an African girl navigating her way in an American world.  She is of Zambian and Malawian heritage and moved to the USA in 1993.  Writing has been her passion since she could put a sentence together on the page. Mothering her sons is her pride and joy.  She has been an avid runner since 2013 and has run 10 half marathons and a full marathon.  Keep up with her at http://africanbeautifulme.blogspot.com/

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    Congresswoman Maxine Waters
    By Michelby Coco Whitehead
    Hands down Congresswoman Maxine Waters is the most adored woman in modern politics. CNN’s Angela Rye refers to her as her mentor, and when Mother Maxine delivers a speech, the people sit up and pay attention—haters and fans alike. When you’ve got the gift of gab, you have influence and the ability to create a platform that gets you paid! 

    And speaking of pay, speaking for pay is an excellent way for entrepreneurs to showcase their expertise, attract their tribe, and make more money. Authenticity is always a must, but so is willingness to learn. If you want to be a highly sought-after speaker, you've got to study the greats, like Mother Maxine. Here are 5 pointers to take from the ultimate teacher!

    Confidence Is Key 
    Have you ever been to an event where the speaker made awkward jokes and fiddled around with her hair and clothes? Whether the behavior is done consciously or not, this denotes insecurity and anxiety. Maxine commands her audience at all times with direct eye contact. 

    Get To The Point 
    Ever been excited to watch someone’s Facebook Live only to log off because they spent too much time adjusting the camera angles or getting to the point? Maxine Waters does not come to play. She addresses the issues at hand and moves on to the next question like a boss. Don’t lose your audience by wasting their time.

    Appeal To Your Audience
    The reason we love Maxine Waters is because she speaks directly to our souls. To do this, a speaker must know who she is addressing. Ask yourself why did the audience sign up for the particular event you’re speaking at? What’s the conference theme? Answering these questions will help you to understand the audience’s concerns, and what they need to hear from you. 

    Know Your Stuff 
    Maxine Waters always comes with a stack of receipts to support her argument. You can tell that before any interview or debate, she is well rehearsed and armed with facts. You can’t convey an idea that you have little or fuzzy knowledge on. The more well-versed you are on the subject matter you speak on, the better you can express it in your speech. 

    Get Social 
    If no one has ever seen you in action, how do they know you’re the right person to book for the gig? Share videos and sound bites from recent and past speaking engagements to showcase what you can do. Post pictures of yourself attending events and engaging with the crowd. Doing so shows you’re in demand and allows you to charge what you’re worth. Make sure there is a link for bookings inquiries on all your social media networks. Check out @repmaxinewaters on Instagram for some inspiration!
    How do you slay at the podium?

    A woman of the bayou pimping my pen because I'm scared of a day job. You can find me somewhere telling stories like Nas and Terry McMillan on April Fool's day. Writing is life so follow me on IG @cococurator

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    Nellie Robert
    Okay Ladies, it's Black History Month and since we're always ready for an opportunity to feel ourselves, why not with a new look? UK makeup vlogger Nellie Robert definitely had us in mind when she came up with this one! The fro, the yellow glittery gold eyelids (that she will show you how to execute in the video), the earrings, are all a WIN. Who knows, maybe this can be your I'm-going-to-kill-it-watching-Black-Panther look! Oh, and if you like, show her some love by sharing, leaving a comment and/or subscribing to her channel...

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    Black Panther Cast
    By Kanisha Parks

    Black Panthercomes out next weekend and it’s already broken Fandango’s advance ticket sales record, becoming their #1 selling superhero of all time. Needless to say, we’ve been waiting for this movie long before its official trailer dropped back in October 2017 but now the anticipation is through the roof. My entire family and I have our tickets and outfits ready. #IssaCelebration. According to The Hollywood Reporter, “Reviews are in for Ryan Coogler’s Black Panther, and they are easily the best for a Marvel Studios project to date, with almost everyone left in awe not only of the movie’s ambition, but its success in achieving that ambition on the big screen. As of Tuesday morning, the film has a 100 percent score on Rotten Tomatoes.”

    The fact that this movie is called Black Panther is reason enough to raise intrigue, but there are several other reasons it's a huge deal for the world, but specifically, the black community.



    Chaswick Boseman & Michael B. Jordan
    1. For Us, By Us. Directed by Ryan Coogler, (who also directed Creed and Fruitvale Station), Black Panther stars Chadwick Boseman as T'Challa/Black Panther alongside fellow heavy-hitters Lupita Nyong'o, Michael B. Jordan, Daniel Kaluuya, Letitia Wright, Winston Duke, Angela Bassett, and Forest Whitaker. “Black Panther marks the first time that a major studio has greenlit a black superhero movie with an African-American director and a primarily black cast” (Variety).

    Our representation in this film is present throughout: from the title to the director and actors. Even though it technically wasn’t made just for black people, we’re definitely laying claims and will likely constitute the greatest support for the film’s sales.

    On whether or not a white director could’ve done Black Panther, Chadwick Boseman told Variety, “Well, is it possible for them to make it? It could be, yes. Would they have his perspective? Probably not. It wouldn’t be nuanced in the same way because they wouldn’t have the same conflict. They don’t have the African-American conflict that exists: Whether you’re conscious of it or not, you have an ancestry that is very hard to trace.”

    Chadwick Boseman
    2. It’s Been a Long Time Comin.’ We’ve had black roles in other superhero movies: Will Smith in “Suicide Squad,” and Halle Berry as “Catwoman,” and do we even have to talk about Michael B. Jordan in Fantastic Four? Other attempts at black superheroes as leads include Meteor Man, Blankman, Steel, Spawn, and most notably, Blade. In fact, Wesley Snipes even wanted to play Black Panther back in the early ‘90s but the vision was remarkably different—focused on cultural diversity instead of centered around black power—and never came to fruition. The time is now.

    “We've been waiting to see ourselves onscreen, flying through the air and running across buildings and dodging laserblasts from bearded colonialists our entire lives. The future is Ryan Coogler, Chadwick Boseman, T'Challa, Black Panther. The future is here on February 16th” (Tre Johnson, Rolling Stone).

    When asked why this is a good moment in history for this movie to be made, Chadwick Boseman responded, “Everybody is excited about the opportunity to do something that we should have already done. People are excited about seeing new stuff, but I think they're extra excited about seeing stuff they should have seen already” (CNET).


    Dunai Gurira, Lupita Nyong'o & Florence Kasumba
    3. Strong. Black. Women. Yes, Black Panther is the lead character, but he doesn’t shine alone: he is surrounded by strong black women, which is truly a positive for black women and girls alike.

    Lupita Nyong’o, who plays Nakia, an undercover spy for the fictitious African nation Wakanda in the film, says, “The man’s power does not diminish because the woman is assuming hers (power). So, just because I have power it does not mean that I threaten the man’s position.” Always an advocate for women and girls asserting themselves, Nyong’o adds: “Little girls watching it will perhaps, they won’t be so afraid of their power. We have four women in this film that are powerful in very different ways and that is really exciting to have that be the thing that our young ones are watching” (Hindustan Times).

    With the current culture of how women are being treated in America, it’s important for women, especially black women, to be appropriately represented in the media. I’m glad that we have the opportunity to see ourselves represented on-screen as we truly are: beautiful, bold, brave, powerful women.


    And I’m even gladder that we finally have our iconic superhero movie, created from start to finish with us in mind. It’s about time.
    Why are you excited to see Black Panther?
    Kanisha is a Christian writer/author based in Augusta, GA. Other than CurlyNikki.com, she has also written for BlackNaps.organd Devozine, and has authored a book of poetry entitled, "Love Letters from the Master." Kanisha can be contacted for business inquiries at kanishaparks@gmail.com 

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    Murielle Liguer Laubhouet 
    There are some women who just have it. That je ne sais quoi that sets them apart from everyone else. Murielle Liguer Laubhouet, the 6'1 (without heels), silver-haired, 50-something-year-old beauty of Ivorian and Guadeloupean heritage is one such woman. She lives life on her own terms, turning heads every step of the way. Find out the hair question that she gets asked the most, what she loves about living in Paris, and how she stays so darn fit!

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    What do you use on your hair?
    I use pure Jamaican black castor oil (carapate oil)

    What question do you get asked the most about your hair?
    People want to know if it's all my hair. (Smile) Yes, it's all mine. No weaves, no wig, nothing.

    How do people respond to your hair and do you let people touch it?
    They are in awe....it’s kinda funny. A lot of people ask to touch it, but no. It’s not sanitary... Do people want people touching their hair? I don't think so.
    Vintage Murielle Modeling
    How long have you been wearing your hair in an afro and what do you love about it?
    I’ve been natural for a long time. I would braid it mostly, but I’ve been wearing an afro for about 10 years now. What I love the most about it is the thickness.


    What do you like about living in Paris?
    I've been living here for about 5 years and I love the food, the wine, the champagne. I love hanging out with my friends at home, shopping, and walking around Paris.

    Murielle Strutting in these Paris streets...
    How do you stay fit?
    I eat very healthy. No fat. No carbs accept for brand and rye bread, no red meat. I like fish, chicken, cheese, vegetables and salad. I stay fit by walking everyday on my treadmill or outside. And I cleanse my body with plants, desmodium for my liver, aloe vera for my over all body and harpagophytum (devil’s claw) for my joints.

    Did you have any positive hair role models growing up?
    Ouiiii!!! My mom’s hair.

    Where does your confidence come from?

    My parents instilled this confidence in me. Nothing or nobody can make me doubt myself. Confidence and joyfullness are my nature. “Never change who you are. Impose it.”

    Murielle giving us Donna Summer!
    Follow Murielle via her IG page!

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    If you'd like to be featured in Naturally Glam- whether you live here or abroad- submit your photos to naturallyglam@curlynikki.com and answer these questions!

    1) Where are you from/live and how long have you been natural?
    2) What products do you use on your hair?
    3) If you have a business, are in school, have a blog, products you sell, a job in a field you'd like to talk about, have initiatives and organizations you'd like to highlight, advice to give, or family that you are proud of and want to share, please do.
    4) How has having natural hair contributed to your life? Your self-esteem?
    5) What's been the best part of your natural hair journey or your hair journey in general?

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    Taneica of Tea with Taneica 

    There's nothing more fun than seeing what celebs wore out and about! On this week's episode of The Fashioning- 5 Mins of Fashion Fodder- we get an eyeful from Daniel Kaluuya, Kelly Rowland, Taraji and more! So give yourself the gift of a quick chuckle as Taneica of Tea With Taneica walks us through it!



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    Rain Pryor & Zeola Gaye
     By Michelby Coco Whitehead

    Quincy Jones's interview with Vulture has been a doozy in every way imaginable. While the interview did provide great commentary on what he thinks about today's music industry and his relationship with Ivanka Trump, it also spilled some messy tea that has left a lot of people pissed off. 

    The super producer has made claims that iconic soul singer Marvin Gaye and comedian Richard Pryor had sexual relations with actor Marlon Brando. Richard Pryor's widow Jennifer Lee Pryor recently said that her deceased husband did have sex with Brando, stating  "If you did enough cocaine, you'd f*** a radiator and send it flowers in the morning."  

    Yikes... 

    Old age is really doing a number on Q because he has forgotten that Black people don't let you just talk about their family members and get away with it. Richard's daughter, Rain Pryor fired up her fingers on social media and had this to say in response to the accusations:

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     Rain Pryor's Response via Facebook:



    The raft of Rain wasn't the only thing coming for Quincy Jones today, because Marvin's sister Zeola Gay snatched a few of Q's whiskers too:  

    Zeola Gaye's Facebook Post:



    Quincy Jones
    To some, Quincy's interview was funny. I have even seen some say it's "for the culture." My question is whose culture? This is February, honey. Black History Month. Marvin Gaye is to us what Elvis, The Rolling Stones, and The Beatles (who Quincy also dissed) are to them. Notice it takes a collective of them to be mentioned in a sentence with Marvin. And yes, Richard Pryor has been caught in a few public scandals, but we still appreciate his legacy. So what is Quincy Jones trying to prove here?  And why isn't he airing dirty laundry on celebrities who are actually ALIVE to confirm or deny his allegations? 

    It's been rumored that PLENTY more goes on than having 22 concubines in Q's Jook Joint, so he needs to talk about that instead! February is a short month, Quincy. Pour us some of your tea sooner than later.  

    Do you think Quincy's comments were detrimental to the legacies of Marvin Gaye and Richard Pryor?
    A woman of the bayou pimping my pen because I'm scared of a day job. You can find me somewhere telling stories like Nas and Terry McMillan on April Fool's day. Writing is life so follow me on IG @cococurator 

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    So excited to share my #Power28 interview!

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    Very honored to be featured with such an amazing group of people! Listen here- http://www.motivationforblackpeople.com . Let me know what you think! #BeHerNow #WeTalkedHurrTooTho 👑❤️✨

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    By Erickka Sy Savané

    Do you know that Heart Disease aka Cardiovascular disease is the leading cause of death among African American women? If not, it goes to show that we aren't necessarily aware of our health issues, let alone what we can do about it. Sooooooo, with this being black history month the National Coalition for Women with Heart Disease is doing their part to get the word out about this deadly disease and asking us to do the same. Here are some facts that we all need to know that can make the difference between life and death.

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    Heart Disease 
    • Cardiovascular disease is the leading cause of death for African-American women.

    • African Americans have a higher risk for cardiovascular disease than Caucasians and are less aware of their cardiovascular risk factors.

    • For African American women over the age of 18, the rate of coronary heart disease is directly related to education, income and poverty status.

    Health Risks 
    • More than 15% of African American women say they are in fair or poor health, compared with 11% of Caucasian women.

    • African American women have higher rates of obesity, high blood pressure, diabetes, stroke, and heart failure.

    • 81.9% of African American women are overweight or obese.

    • 62.5% of African American women do not meet the 2008 Federal Aerobic and Strengthening PA Guidelines for Adults. (consisting of either 150 minutes of moderate leisure-time physical activity per week or 75 minutes of  vigorous activity per week).

    • 46.1% of African American women have high blood pressure.

    • African Americans bear a disproportionate burden of stroke, hypertension-related heart disease, congestive heart failure and renal dysfunction.

    • African American women are much more likely to lack a usual source of care and to encounter other difficulties in obtaining needed care.

    Care and Treatment 
    • African Americans, both men and women, have had a long history of poor access to health care which continues today.

    • African American women, despite their higher risk of heart disease, were 10% less likely to receive aspirin and 27% less likely to receive cholesterol-lowering drugs.

    • African Americans have not historically been enrolled in studies evaluating the treatment of cardiovascular risk factors or outcomes of lifestyle modification in the same numbers as their white counterparts.

    Know the Signs. Know What to Do.
    The most important thing to do if you think you are having heart attack symptoms is to call 911 and tell them you are experiencing heart attack symptoms. They will send an ambulance to transport you to a hospital emergency room as quickly as possible so a doctor can examine and treat you. While waiting, crush or chew a full-strength aspirin (swallow with a glass of water) to prevent further blood clotting.

    Is it a Heart Attack?

    How can you tell if you are having a heart attack, stomach indigestion, or simply arthritis pain? There are definite early warning signs and symptoms of heart attacks. Women can experience all, some, a few, or none of these symptoms. Only examination by a doctor, who will administer an electrocardiogram (EKG) and/or a blood test, can confirm if you are having or have experienced a heart attack.


    Symptoms to be aware of:
    Discomfort, tightness, uncomfortable pressure, fullness, squeezing in the center of the chest lasting more than a few minutes, or comes and goes
    Crushing chest pain
    Pressure or pain that spreads to the shoulders, neck, upper back, jaw, or arms
    Dizziness or nausea
    Clammy sweats, heart flutters, or paleness
    Unexplained feelings of anxiety, fatigue or weakness - especially with exertion
    Stomach or abdominal pain
    Shortness of breath and difficulty breathing
    Some women mistakenly think only crushing chest pain is a symptom of a heart attack and, therefore, delay seeking medical care.

    Others have found that healthcare providers have failed to recognize their heart attack symptoms by attributing the cause of symptoms to other health problems, such as indigestion.

    This is why it is so important to insist that the doctor or nurse administer an EKG test or an enzyme blood test to see if you are having a heart attack. Don't be shy - it's your heart and your life!


    Please help spread the word!
    For more info. visit WomenHeart.org

    Have you or someone you love been impacted by Heart Disease? 




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    Dani G. 
    Valentine's Day is almost here and whether you have a special someone or not, there's no reason not to flex your bomb self and celebrate you! And since we all could use a little fashion inspiration sometimes, Stylist Dani G. captured these fun & affordable looks while on a shopping expenditure at a local Mandee in BK. Check'em out and show us what you'll be rocking this Valentine's Day! 




















    Happy Valentine's Day Lovers!
    Tell us what you think of the looks and show us what you're rocking this V-Day!

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     (Photo: Beyonce.com)
    By Kanisha Parks

    Since the beginning of the month, I’ve been seeing a clip from The Rundown with Robin Thede where she says, “Happy Black History Month . . . or as we call it, Month!” on BET. Quite naturally, I know it was a joke but as most jokes go, it seems to be surrounded by a bit of truth and caused me to ask myself, “Do black people actually celebrate Black History Month?”

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    Growing up, Black History Month was always important to me and personally, I looked forward to it because it felt like the only part of history that was truly interesting and that I could understand. This was the one time of the year when I was immersed in the knowledge and understanding of influential people who actually looked like me after enduring entire curriculums centered around well, mostly white people.

    Zora Neale Hurston
    Even when taking American Literature my sophomore year in college, only two African-Americans were included in the “canon” of writers who made a mark on American history: Fredrick Douglass and Phillis Wheatley. As a result, I made it my business to take African-American Literature the next semester. Every day I was surrounded by my peers and able to discuss my thoughts on important African-American writers such as Langston Hughes, Zora Neale Hurston, Countee Cullen, Ralph Ellison, Toni Morrison, James Baldwin, Richard Wright, W.E.B Du Bois, Lorraine Hansberry, Nikki Giovanni, Maya Angelou, Gwendolyn Brooks, Octavia Butler, Audre Lorde, and many more.

    Each year after that, I participated in the National African American Read-In at my university and felt honored to uphold their memories. These writers, these words, still live with me today and I am grateful for the memories I have from those few months and the opportunity to study them at a time in my life when I was still learning about myself. The experience forever changed the way I look at the world. But as a working adult, I had to learn to continue to honor these historical Black figures and others—and not for the sake of my participation grade or because a paper was due.

    Janet Collins
    When asked if and how they celebrate Black History Month, viral sisters Dani and Dannah shared: “We start off by learning what makes us unique as African Americans and who were some of our pioneers that history books don’t teach us about. Like Janet Collins, she was a ballet dancer, choreographer and teacher. She was among the pioneers of black ballet dancing, one of the few classically trained Black dancers of her generation. We participate in plays and black history programs at our school and church too! Learning about our history is just as important as learning about world history to us! Happy Black History Month!”

    Popular Hair & Beauty Blogger, Romance aka @heycurlie, says that she enjoys going to the library with her son and picking up books and learning more about the exceptional contributions made by African Americans. “It’s a great bonding experience to teach my son about his history.”


    happycurlhappygirl 
    Natural Hair YouTuber @happycurlhappygirl says she celebrates Black History year-round and during February, she participates in special activities and programs with her daughter at school and church to “highlight and celebrate the history and culture of Black people.”


    When I spoke to writer Erickka Sy Savané she acknowledged that she struggled with Black History Month this year. “Given all the blatant racism going on in this country every day I started feeling insulted by Black History Month. Kinda like the government is saying, 'Here’s your month to celebrate yourselves and after that you can go sit down.' But then I realized, it's not about them, it's about us and if we don't take a moment to pat ourselves, our ancestors and each other on the back, not only could history repeat itself, we could lose that pride...that magic.” 

    There’s no right or wrong way to “do” Black History Month as long as you take some time out to appreciate the strides Black people have made. The accomplishments of Black writers, entertainers, scientists, athletes, historians, engineers, activists and entrepreneurs are truly endless. Given our history in this country, we have a lot to be thankful for and proud of.

    Do you celebrate Black History Month?
    Kanisha is a Christian writer/author based in Augusta, GA. Other than CurlyNikki.com, she has also written for BlackNaps.organd Devozine, and has authored a book of poetry entitled, "Love Letters from the Master." Kanisha can be contacted for business inquiries at kanishaparks@gmail.com 

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    The only thing to say about this video is that MsBlackKoreanLady, has A LOT to say about the culture shock of moving to Korea to learn about her other side. See, dad is black and mom is Korean, and though she lived with her mom her whole life, there were many things mama never shared about the culture. And who can blame her, because, like really, life is going on, and what's the use of talking about Korea all the time when you live in America? Plus it would have taken all the fun out of discovering the culture for herself. Lucky for us, Ms.BKL is giving us the inside scoop on Korean culture that we probably wouldn't get anyway else, and it's pretty funny...So get your fingertips ready to press play, and if you like, please show her some love by sharing, commenting and subscribing to her channel!

    Thoughts?

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    By Ta-Ning Connai

    We all have a past. Some are tainted by shattered dreams, lost love or unbearable regrets. Others have enough scandal, dirt and drama to beat EMPIRE in the ratings. Fortunately for me, I'm just glad I didn't catch a case like Cookie or be left for dead like Lucious, 'cause that could've been me with my formerly crazy self! Whatever the case, the past can be haunting, with a grip that can cripple us and keep us from forging ahead.

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    Our minds have a way of reliving a matter over and over again until we manage to make it worse. Whether we're beating ourselves up or making excuse after excuse, the overthinking never ends. All the "coulda woulda shoulda" in the world won't change what was, nor should those words be allowed to contaminate the rest of your life. So when God comes to pull you out from the hold of yesteryear, do yourself a favor...Don't Look Back.

    Lot and his family had a chance to escape a city doomed for destruction (Genesis 19:15-26). Right before the fire and brimstone were about to fall, the Lord sent angels to guide them to a place of safety. "Run!" and "Don't look back!" were the simple instructions given, yet for Lot's wife it was evidently just too much to ask. Looking over her shoulder took her one step backward. And that one step backward was her last step ever. She allowed the familiarity of the past to forfeit her future, by mediating on the way things were just a little too long. For rejecting God's grace and His gift of a second chance, she was turned into a pillar of salt.

    Now, whether you take this as a true story like I do, or prefer to call it a myth, the moral remains the same. When God tries to move you forward by leaving your past behind, Don't Look Back. When God invites you into a brand new future full of new ideas and new plans, Don't Look Back. As we can see, a one minute pause can end up lasting forever. So do not hesitate and do not linger, unless you wanna stay stuck. I was once stuck for years…

    A hot summer night in the 80’s, I was out joyriding with my criminal-minded boyfriend. That would have been bad enough, but I had the nerve to drag my lil' brother Mark with us. See, I was on punishment AGAIN, but because my bestie was having a birthday party right across the street, moms said we could go.

    Midnight was our curfew, but by 10 the party suddenly ended with a bang...a bang from a GUN! Frantically, everyone scattered like wild cattle and, one by one, we all made it back safe to my boyfriend's car. Whew! You'd think we'd just go home early and be happy to be alive, but no, I had 2 more hours of freedom and I wasn't about to waste one minute of it! So true when they say "an idle mind is the devil's workshop"! And it's even worse when you have a bad influence you wanna impress. So, off we went to appease our boredom by being mean to innocent strangers. It was the joyride I'd live to regret.

    There were only 3 simple steps to my induction into the Hall of Shame:
    #1 Buy a 7-Eleven Big Gulp
    #2 Speed wildly down a popular boulevard
    #3 Throw drink out the back window into someone's face

    Yes, I did this. And in front of my little bro! Oh how could I???!!! Now, I could go on to explain the various things that led to my desperate need for acceptance, but I won't because reasons are not excuses. I thought I'd feel great after proving I was so "cool," but going to such drastic lengths to be someone I'm not proved to be so so wrong.

    If only my cherry soaked casualty would've just flipped me off or cursed me out, I could've handled that. Anger, bring it on. But the pain in his eyes, it really had me shook.

    I had never seen such an expression of vulnerable helplessness before. And when I looked to my boyfriend for a moment of collaborated remorse, all he did was laugh. Nothing funny about watching your victim take on shame and embarrassment for something they don't deserve, but since I was the one who “pulled the trigger” so to speak, all I could really do was pretend it was alright. But it wasn't alright, and neither was I for a very long time.

    It would be DECADES before I could actually forgive myself. One day I just closed my eyes, pictured my victim’s face and asked Jesus to relieve him of any lingering trauma that I may have caused. I asked the Lord to touch his heart and supernaturally reveal to him my sorrow and regret. And since I really believed that God could do it, I've been at peace ever since. Won't He do it!

    God wants you to say farewell to all those skeletons in your closet. It's time to close the door on all the crap that's been wearing you down; that bad break up with what's his name or your decision to drop out of school; maybe it's the job you should've taken or the kids you had too soon, or didn’t have at all. Whatever your yesterdays, there's a better tomorrow waiting for you. When you accept God's Heavenly Do-Over, your bad choices become valuable lessons and your life gets filled with joy. All ya gotta do is let go of the past, forgive yourself, expect a better ending and PUH-LEEZ quit looking back!

    Are you holding on to something that you need God to release you from?
    TA-NING is a former model and clothing designer who one day got the "call" to leave the fab world of fashion behind. While in Bible College, she discovered her knack for mixing her quirky style of writing with her gift to teach. TA-NING'S TELL IT TUESDAY is a weekly column (originally launched on Facebook) that uses doses of pop culture to tear down the walls of churchy tradition, change the face of Christianity, and present its message in a lively way. Ta-ning resides in Santa Monica (by way of Brooklyn), is obsessed with dogs, and is an old school Hip-Hop junkie!

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    By Brenda Alexander

    There isn’t an episode of Martin that I don’t find hilarious. The show has classic episodes and one-liners: from Pam’s buckshots to Tommy’s lack of employment, Martin was the classic fool.

    Aside from the comedy, Martin and Gina’s relationship made the show great. They were the original #RelationshipGoals for the young 20 somethings of the 90s. From the beginning, their on-screen chemistry was lit and remains unmatched since its time. You couldn’t tell me Martin and Gina weren’t a real thing. But if you wonder why such a successful show ended seemingly before its time, that may just be the reason why. According to Tisha Campbell-Martin, Lawrence took their on-screen love affair and tried to have life imitate art.

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    Long before the “Me Too” movement’s breaking news articles of Hollywood Executives and Music Moguls being accused of chasing their subordinates around office chambers and cornering them in trailers on set, at the height of Martin’s success, Campbell-Martin filed a sexual harassment complaint against Martin, HBO (the parent company of the FOX Network at the time) and the show producers (Lawrence was also an EP), claiming that Martin was an intimidating predator who caused an uncomfortable work environment.


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    JET Magazine profiled the lawsuit in their January 1997 issue. Campbell-Martin alleged the conditions she worked under were “intolerable” and that she “was subjected to repeated and escalating sexual harassment, sexual battery, verbal abuse and related threats to her physical safety” by Lawrence. She claimed that since the show’s first season, Lawrence asked her out on dates and she declined. As seasons progressed, she alleged that Lawrence’s behavior worsened with tantrums, outbursts and threats when he didn’t get his way on set. She even went as far as requesting that writers stop incorporating scenes featuring she and Lawrence in bed together, saying that Lawrence took their love scenes too far with excessive groping and using tongue while kissing against her wishes. Lawrence denied the allegations and accused Campbell-Martin of using him as a pawn for her contract negotiations.

    In November of 1996, the talented costar left the show and its 6.7 million viewers, leaving the producers to find creative ways to film without her. Her absence called for episodes that were interesting, to say the least. There was the episode where Martin and Gina planned to go on a cruise but Gina misses the boat, leaving Martin with a crazed vacationer played by Lynn Whitfield, a promotional ploy on his movie A Thin Line Between Love and Hate. They even tried to highlight the supporting characters Pam, Tommy and Cole with episodes focused on them. The damage was done. Without Martin and Gina, the show’s ratings dipped and was subsequently canceled in its 5th season. Even in the final episode, Campbell-Martin refused to film with Lawrence. The two-part finale featured no scenes with either of them together, despite both appearing in the episode.

    There was little backlash against Martin compared to what we see with the likes of Bill Cosby and others who have suffered tremendous career blows. Martin continued with box office successes post the Martin era with Bad Boys II, Life and the Big Momma’s House franchise. There has been minimal interaction between Martin and Tisha since, at least publicly. Co-stars have even alluded to there still being tension and tip-toeing around definitive answers. In interviews with the cast, the lawsuit was never mentioned and reunions were shot down. Maybe that’s the brilliant work of publicists or a gag order was in place, it’s hard to tell. The only cast member who touched on the ordeal at all is Tichina Arnold. In a 2012 appearance on Watch What Happens Live, she said,
    “The lawsuit was a very interesting thing to be a part of. Tisha and I have been friends since childhood, and Martin and I are still friends. There’s a point where you have to be professional and a point where you have to be personal, and I was very well aware of separating the two, and Tisha always respected that. It was very weird, but I handled it as best I could.”
    Fast forward to February 2018 and black twitter’s prayers were finally answered with a simple picture:


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    Tichina Arnold, Martin Lawrence & Tisha Campbell-Martin

    I am just as excited as everyone else, but I have questions:

    · What about the lawsuit and allegations?

    · What come to Jesus moment took place in this meeting that warranted kisses on cheeks?

    I consider myself a woman of faith and believe in the power of forgives. But ma’am, if I suffered anything close to what Campbell-Martin claims, I doubt I would fix my lips to kiss that said man on the cheek. Is this a happy ending for the fans? Hell yeah! Give me a two-hour special, some appetizers and cocktails and I’m content; but, I am slightly concerned for what this says for this current rise of women speaking out against abuse in the workplace. I’m eager to see how or if this will affect the promotion of the reboot. Especially, since the demise of the show has been attributed to theabuse allegations.

    Is this a happy ending or what? Chime in!
    Brenda is a Philadelphia native with a love for Marketing, Creative writing, wine and Jesus. Her work has been featured on Mayvenn’s Real Beautiful blog and she is the co-author of the book Christmas 364: Be Merry and Bright Beyond Christmas Night (available for purchase on amazon). Follow her on IG @trulybrenda_ and trulybrenda.wordpress.com

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    AminaMarie
    Let's face it, we all love a little color sometimes, but highlighting natural hair is tricky. One slip and years of healthy hair maintenance can go right down the drain along with those once beautiful strands. Hair vlogger AminaMarie has learned the hard way the do's and don'ts of coloring and lucky for us she's all about sharing the love. So if you're thinking of adding a little pop of color to your mane, give this vid a look to save yourself any unnecessary heartache! And if you like, please comment, share or subscribe to her channel!

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    By Kanisha Parks

    Whoever said that Valentine’s Day is just for couples should really have several seats! While Valentine’s Day has an interesting history rooted in romantic ideals, it isn’t meant to be celebrated by couples alone, but to show love to the important people in your life. You remember giving Valentine’s Day cards to all of your classmates as a kid, right? That tradition is still continuing now, so why is that when we grow up, we think we need a “boo” in order to participate? Girl, before you prepare to stay in and rock yourself to sleep while watching romantic comedies in your PJ’s, here are a few ways you can actually enjoy Valentine’s Day, even in your singlehood!

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    1. Do something special for your family!

    In my family, we’ve always done something for each other on Valentine’s Day. I have four sisters and even though we are all grown, we still give each other gifts on V-Day! It’s not everyone’s cup of tea to make what seems like a romance-driven holiday about family, but you’d be surprised how good it feels to just show love to the ones that are close to you on this day. Plus, if you have children, giving them something on Valentine’s Day is another way of reinforcing the fact that they don’t have to look for love because they already have it from you!

    Anybody can pick up a card and some chocolates from WalMart and throw a generic “I love you” on top. Instead, try to go out of your way to do something extra special, like baking when you never cook, or planning a fun family activity when you typically stay in. You’d be surprised how good it makes you feel to do something special for someone else.

    2. Go out with your friends!
    Chances are you aren’t the only one of your friends who’s single and sis, there’s no way you’re about to be out here third wheelin’ it on Valentine’s Day. So make it a Galentine’s Day! Link up with some of your other single friends and instead of having a group pity party, be thankful that even though you’re single, you’re not alone. You can do a gift exchange, Secret-Santa style, so that everyone gets something, regardless of whether they’re in a relationship or not.

    Even if your friends aren’t single, you can still plan to have a good time if they’re up for it. If you can’t get together during the week, there’s always the weekend (and Black Panther comes out Friday, so you definitely have at least one thing to look forward to!)


    3. Treat yo’self!

    Valentine’s Day really is just about love, and first and foremost you must love yourself! There is absolutely nothing wrong with making this day all about you—maybe a spa day or cheating on that diet you’ve been so dedicated to lately. You work hard and you deserve a break! So what if you don’t have a significant other? You are significant enough as you are and what better time than Valentine’s Day for you to show yourself the love and appreciation that you deserve?! Now sis, you don’t have to break the bank, but there’s nothing wrong with having a little fun. Make a list of all of the things you love about yourself and why! Have a mini stay-cation and spend a day exploring your town. Drop some bath bombs and take a long, luxurious bath. Take a spin class! Binge watch your favorite show that you keep missing because you work so hard. Or unplug for a while and stay off your phone for a few hours. Girl, eat some ice cream (or gelato). Go get your hair done and maybe even do something different with your style this time! Do a little shopping and take advantage of those Valentine’s Day deals! In other words, you don’t need anybody else in order to celebrate and love yourself.

    So stop thinking that Valentine’s Day is just for couples because it’s not! You are the one who makes Valentine’s Day what it is (or isn’t).

    What are your plans this Valentine's Day?
    Kanisha is a Christian writer/author based in Augusta, GA. Other than CurlyNikki.com, she has also written for BlackNaps.organd Devozine, and has authored a book of poetry entitled, "Love Letters from the Master." Kanisha can be contacted for business inquiries at kanishaparks@gmail.com

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    T.I. & Family (photo: MichaelWalker/UmeekImages)
    By Mwabi Kaira

    Tip Harris aka rapper T.I. teamed up with Walmart to give away free tickets to an advance screening of Black Panther in Atlanta last night, and it was fiyah! Walmart chose to partner with T.I. because of his unwavering commitment to his community and because the movie was shot in Atlanta. Lucky ticket holders came to Regal Hollywood in Chamblee and filled 2 theaters while enjoying the movie in 3D. Atlanta Mayor Keisha Lance Bottoms brought her family and joined Atlanta celebrities including T.I. and his family, television host and author Egypt, Sheree Whitfield of Real Housewives of Atlanta, Tye White of Greenleaf, and Ms. Juicy of Little Women, just to name a few...

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    Gowns on fleek! (photo: MichaelWalker/UmeekImages)
    The atmosphere was electric; when 2 ladies entered the theater in their African material ball gowns, there was a collective gasp from everyone. Some even took to their social media live feeds whilst in the lobby to share their excitement and atmosphere with their friends.

    Mayor Keisha Bottoms (photo: MichaelWalker/UmeekImages)
    Mayor Bottoms expressed her gratitude by saying,
    “I thank Marvel for believing in Atlanta, this movie was shot all over Atlanta not just the popular places like Midtown but even in Vine City.” Black Panther generated more than $83.9 million to the local economy and contributed more than $26.5 million in wages to more than 3,100 workers across the state. I’m so excited about the power of an African-American cast that will engage audiences, this is a great lesson for girls to see that we can do it all from being a Mayor to being so powerful on the big screen.”
    T.I. (photo: MichaelWalker/UmeekImages)
    T.I. is known as a walking Thesaurus on social media with his use of big words. Seeing him speak in person, I must add that he is an amazing orator that commands his audience. He gave red carpet interviews expressing the importance of seeing superheros on the big screen that look like us and how imperative it was that our children know that there’s greatness inside them that just needs to be activated but it was his short speech before the movie started that got us all going. Most notably T.I. said, “I thank Walmart for giving people in our community a way to see this movie. There’s a superhero inside all of us and the superhero is you.”

    Black Panther is an absolute gem. No stone was left unturned. Director Ryan Coogler and the entire cast - Chadwick Boseman, Angela Bassett, Forest Whitaker, Michael B. Jordan, Danai Gurira, Lupita Nyong’o, Daniel Kauuya, and Letitia Wright will leave you wanting more. I left the theater feeling  many emotions, the most prominent was pride. Black Panther will be in theaters on February 16th.

    More red carpet photos!

    Sheree Whitfield (photo: MichaelWalker/UmeekImages)
    Egypt (photo: MichaelWalker/UmeekImages)
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    Tye White (photo: MichaelWalker/UmeekImages)
    Ms. Juicy (photo: MichaelWalker/UmeekImages)
    Do you have your Black Panther tickets yet?!?!
    Mwabi Kaira is an African girl navigating her way in an American world. She is of Zambian and Malawian heritage and moved to the USA in 1993. Writing has been her passion since she could put a sentence together on the page. Mothering her sons is her pride and joy. She has been an avid runner since 2013 and has run 10 half marathons and a full marathon. Keep up with her at http://africanbeautifulme.blogspot.com/

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    Photo of Kourtney Dandridge via Benny Harlem's IG
    By Erickka Sy Savané

    Hey, we all show our love in different ways, for Benny Harlem that meant helping turn his wife's baby hairs into full-grown adults! Not only was the note he shared on his IG, along with this photo sweet, it was kinda shocking to see that baby hairs don't have to stay babies- I mean, look at that length!!!

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    For those who follow Benny Harlem, the New York-bred, Los Angeles-based Dad, Hubby, Natural Hair enthusiast, and now, entrepreneur, seeing baby hair length for the Gods is not a surprise. After all, Benny broke the Guinness World Record for highest high top fade last year, and he, his wife and daughter Jaxyn are hair goals to half-a-million followers, and counting. 

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    Benny & Daughter Jaxyn via Benny's IG
    So how do they maintain that length? Benny told Paper magazine last year,
    "I mean we have a regime. We wash our hair every week. We make our own shampoo and stuff like that, which consists of natural [ingredients like] coconuts and certain berries and things. I think it's really just what most people do to their hair. [But we also] take care of [our] bodies. I think a lot of it is positive self-image and great thinking. What we consume in our minds and our spirits has a lot to do with our hair as well. People might not believe it, but I really think that's the truth. Of course, take care of yourself, take care of your hair, wash your hair. Really, I'm not going to make up some elaborate thing. Other than the castor oil and coconut oil that we use, there's really no secret."
    Well, obviously, there IS a secret, and he's sharing that now...Find out how to buy his hair care kit, which comes with a 3-month regimen, on his facebook page!  

    Benny trended recently on youtube just walking into an elevator. We see you Benny!!!

    Will you be trying Benny's hair care kit? If so, be sure to let us know how it works!
    Erickka Sy Savané is managing editor of CurlyNikki.com, a wife, mom, and freelance writer based in Jersey, City, NJ. Her work has appeared in Essence.comEbony.com, Madamenoire.com, xoNecole.com, and more. When she’s not writing...wait, she’s always writing! Follow her on Twitter, Instagram or  ErickkaSySavane.com

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    Teneica of Tea With Taneica
    With New York Fashion Week coming to a close you know Teneica of Tea With Taneica had to bring us 5 mins of fashion fodder aka the best and worst from the red carpet! Take a look and if you like, please share, subscribe to her channel and drop us a comment!!!

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    Yhá Mourhia Wright, U’Moriah Walters and Yasmine Castillo
    By Sharee Silerio


    In a nation where opinion is often viewed as fact, now, more than ever, it’s important for people of color to tell their stories, from their perspectives, truths, and experiences. A popular show that is doing this and so much more is #Love My Roomie, a web series created by screenwriter, producer, and director Yhá Mourhia Wright.

    A dramatic comedy, #LMR follows the lives of three millennial roommates – Giselle Carter (African-American), Yasmine Castillo (Afro-Latina) and U’Moriah Walters (African-American) after they lose their apartment in Harlem.




    Wright says of why she created the series,
    “Entertainment influences our culture. It influences how we treat each other. It influences implicit bias. It influences unconscious bias. It influences the ways we function in the workplace; how we are in the grocery store; all of these things. It's so important that we’re in charge of our narratives, that we are controlling what stories are being told. It’s about literally informing people of how complex, how beautiful, how diverse, how human we are. I feel like it's important for our humanity.”


    Taking cues from the 90s and 2000s favorites Living Single and Girlfriends, Wright wrote and produced the dramedy’s first season, which premiered in December 2016, receiving over 35k views on Facebook and YouTube combined. The second season of #LMR explores how they – a songwriter, wannabe socialite and recently unemployed professional – find friendship, learn to cope in the midst of social and cultural expectations, and build lives that they love, all while discovering and rediscovering themselves.

    Wright says,
    “It’s about three black women who you don't really see on screen. They're all social outcasts. They’re late bloomers in their mid-to-late 20s and don't quite fit in. Call it a coming of age story – not for teens – but for women in their 20s, which is so often missed. It's like an entire decade gets skipped over.

    I take situations that I know women of color have dealt with, that we talk about with each other and the things that we don't talk about, which to me, is even more interesting – how we can have best friends and there's certain things that they just don't know about us, because culturally, there are still some of us that struggle with being vulnerable in that way."
    In a society that does its best to silence black women, it’s important that we uncover and confront the issues we face. The more we do this, the more courage we will have to love ourselves, exactly as we are. So if you’re looking for a web series that will make you think, laugh, cry, encourage you to heal, become your best self, and find love, then #LoveMyRoomie is the series for you! Check out the Season 2 official trailer.




    The second season of #LoveMyRoomiedebuts on Saturday, March 3rd at the BRIC Ballroom in Brooklyn. Purchase your tickets here. Follow Yhá Mourhia Wright on Instagram and keep up with the series on YouTube, Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.
    Have you seen Love My Roomie yet?

    Sharee Silerio is a St. Louis-based freelance writer, Film and TV writer-producer, and blogger. When she isn’t creating content for The Root or The St. Louis American, she enjoys watching drama/sci-fi/comedy movies and TV shows, writing faith and self-love posts for SincerelySharee.com, relaxing with a cup of chai tea, crafting chic DIY event décor, and traveling. Review her freelance portfolio at ShareeSilerio.com then connect with her on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

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    Zara 
    Hi Guys,

    Nigeria is very dry as the current season is “Harmattan.” Depending on the region it can last for what feels like 4-5 months. During this season, my skin and hair are extremely DRY so I’m showing you how I keep it soft and moisturized. Since it's ultra low porosity, I take certain steps during the week to re-moisturize but this method is effective for anyone! Keeping water, a low pH leave-in, and a sealant, constant, are the keys to success! I hope you enjoy!
    Best Wishes,
    Zara “EfikZara”

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    "Cookie"
    By Kerika Fields Nalty

    As a woman of a certain age, my primary life goal at this moment is to evade the lure of Auntie-ism. What is Auntie-ism? Glad you asked. It’s when a woman over 40, whether an actual auntie or not, begins to dress, behave, look and sound like one of their beloved aunts. It starts with the sweats, or that favorite pair of yoga pants. And if you’re not careful it can escalate to the notorious “mom jeans” or even a moo-moo dress. Once it sets in, constant and inappropriately timed complaints about bad knees and hot flashes are soon to follow...


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    Jephte and Shawniece
    By Veronica Wells

    I love me some “Married At First Sight.” While most of the couples on this Lifetime series eventually divorce, it’s fascinating to watch two strangers come together and unite in Holy Matrimony the day they meet each other. Each season, the show usually finds one Black couple to feature. Naturally, it’s the Black couple’s story I’m the most interested and invested in. But since the show’s inception, none of the Black couples have stayed together.

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    This year, the Black folk are Jephte and Shawniece. The couples are matched by a panel of experts and are supposed to complement one another. But from the day Jephte and Shawniece met, I knew there were some drastic personality differences that would eventually cause some problems. Chief among them being Jephte’s cautious reserve, his hesitancy in opening up compared to Shawniece’s extroversion, affection and need to be affirmed and desired. Honestly, it is downright cringeworthy to watch. After one episode a couple of weeks ago, I questioned the reason Jephte decided to be a part of this process in the first place. I mean, if you have a problem with strangers, marrying one might not be the best strategy for your life.

    But all of that is for context. We’re here today to speak about something entirely different. While the show is about love, marriage and the conflict that can arise within them, the discussion around Shawniece has been about appearance, specifically hair.

    Shawniece is a cosmetologist working to eventually open up her own salon. And for the most part, on the show she wears her hair in an afro. On their wedding day she had it expertly slicked back into a bun. But in the days since, on their honeymoon, in their move back to Boston, it’s been in a fro.


    In addition to the fro, she generally wears minimal makeup. I think she’s cute. Not to mention, with all of Jephte’s stuff-- causing her to cry because she feels rejected by him, her hair and makeup haven’t been at the forefront of my mind. But you know how it is with Black women and hair---especially when a Black woman appears on national television. All of a sudden she’s representing all of us. And if we don’t like it, we attempt to disassociate ourselves from the Black woman who can’t manage to take care of her hair. The response to her hair on Twitter has been everything from interesting to downright hurtful with women blaming Shawniece’s hair for the problems in her relationship.







    I could go on but you get the gist. That last tweet is particularly important because on their wedding day, Shawniece’s mother told Jephte that she wanted him to get to know and love her real daughter, not the one dolled up for their wedding day but her daughter with her real face and real hair.

    But apparently the people of the internet want something different. All of this discussion just reminds me of how far we still have to go when it comes to embracing our full, Black selves and our Black looks. I don’t think it’s any secret that, for all the progress Black women have made with our natural hair, there are still certain styles and textures that are acceptable and the rest are not. This discussion of Shawniece’s hair reminds me of the time when Solange was wearing her fro out and she had to tell strangers, fans, people who didn’t know her to stop suggesting she do a twist out because she didn’t like to wear her hair that way. It reminds me of Gabby Douglas and Black women telling her her edges weren’t slicked down properly. There’s a lot of micromanaging and focus placed on hair when it’s not the main story. It wasn’t for Gabby, Solange and it certainly isn’t for Shawniece.

    Her husband keeps reminding her that she’s a stranger, that he doesn’t know her. He won’t speak about certain subjects, refuses to sleep in the same bed/room with her. She’s always the one initiating affection but it’s her hair that’s holding them back.

    I can’t help but feeling like this is yet another example of women going out of their way to absolve men of guilt or fault in a relationship, no matter how they behave, and attribute the union’s failings solely to the woman.

    The comments about her hair have been so prevalent that Shawniece eventually responded to them, in a series of very classy tweets.






    Precisely. Not to mention based on tweets from both her and Jephte’s Twitter accounts, it seems like they stayed together, meaning she found someone who liked it.

    Do you feel we unfairly criticize black women's hair in media?
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    Veronica Wells is the culture editor at MadameNoire.com. She is also the author of “Bettah Days” and the creator of the website NoSugarNoCreamMag. You can follow her on Facebook and on Instagram and Twitter@VDubShrug.