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Sometimes we just want to switch up our look a little bit. Maybe to signify a new phase in our life, or to simply refresh our look. How to better do this than give your hair a new color?
Changing up your hair color can add an edge to your look. But sometimes this color high may be short-lived, and your hair may start thinning out, get extra dry, and possibly even fall out.
Hair dye works by opening up your hair cuticle to lift off your natural color and, in turn, deposit the new one. This chemical process can leave your hair strands very porous and in need of extra care to prevent breakage.
Here are some tips on caring for and maintaining beautiful and healthy colored hair!
1. Examine the state of your hair before the dye application
Before you go in for a dye job, first assess the state of your hair. Is it brittle? Dry? Breaking? Healthy? Shiny?
Remember, applying color to hair is a chemical process, so if your hair is already vulnerable, you wouldn’t want to expose it to the potential damage caused by dyes.
To prepare your hair for a dye job, frequently deep condition, moisturize, and seal your hair in the weeks prior to application. Also, snip off any damaged ends prior to your appointment. This will ensure your hair is at an optimal healthy state going into your color process.
2. Use a color-safe, moisturizing shampoo
Chemicals in hair dyes dry out hair, and using the wrong shampoo can dry it out even more. After coloring your hair, be sure to steer clear of shampoos with sulfates because they’ll do more harm than good for you.
Look for shampoos that are not only sulfate-free but also have some strengthening and color-preserving properties in them. One good one is the Aphogee Shampoo for Damaged Hair. It’s gentle and moisturizing, and it strengthens the hair and keeps your hair color vibrant for longer.
3. Keep up with your deep conditioning treatments
Remember hair dyes make your hair strands more porous. This means that moisture escapes your strands faster than normal. To avoid dry colored hair, you need to ensure that you keep up with your weekly moisturizing deep conditioning sessions and your protein treatments every four weeks.
Protein treatments will help strengthen your hair by temporarily filling in the gaps in each hair strand. Mielle Organics Babassu Oil Mint Deep Conditioner is both a moisturizing and protein deep conditioner, and would be a worthwhile investment.
4. Moisturize your hair daily
Apart from your weekly deep conditioning sessions, moisturize your hair daily to help boost its moisture levels and help it stay elastic and healthy to prevent breakage. Spritzing your hair with a water-based leave-in conditioner and sealing it in with an oil like the Cantu Anti-Fade Color Protecting Oil is one way to go about it. This oil not only seals in moisture, but also protects the hair against damage by UV rays, and restores the vibrancy of your hair color. A good choice of leave-in conditioner for colored hair would be the Eden Bodyworks Citrus Fusion Hair + Body Butter. It’s lightweight, hydrates the hair and is a great styling product.
5. Protect your hair
As your hair is quite weak when chemically altered, it’s important to keep it nicely tucked in protective styles more often than not. Simple protective styles will help preserve your hair and allow it to ‘rest’ from the everyday manipulation.
At night, keep your hair protected by sleeping on a satin pillowcase or bonnet. We spend a good amount of time in bed, and placing your head on cotton material will surely suck out all the moisture from your hair. Get yourself a satin pillowcase or bonnet and enjoy lasting moisture and frizz-free curls.
There are a few different types of curl creams – styling creams, curl smoothies, souffles, and puddings all fit into this category. If the color is opaque and it’s thicker than a lotion, but thinner than a butter, it’s safe to say that you’re looking at a curl cream. Some of them are denser than others. They often contain rich butters and oils, like shea, coconut, or jojoba.
Practically all hair types should have a curl cream in their arsenal, but different types are useful for different things. Lightweight creams and curl smoothies are lovely for finishing off your wash-and-gos – the LOC method has a C in it for a reason! Thicker curl creams, souffles, and puddings are ideal for twist-outs, braid-outs, and protective styles.
With so many curl creams on the market, how do you know which one to choose for your hair? We rounded up the 18 top curl creams of 2018. Your curls will thank you!
1. Curl Junkie Spiral Lotion Hair Styling Creme
For lightweight moisture and a boost of volume, reach for this curl cream from Curl Junkie. It’s great for wash-and-gos and can also be used to revive second day hair, adding some much-needed definition into your hair. Type 3s especially adore this cream.
2. Maui Moisture Curl Quench + Coconut Oil Curl Smoothie
This Maui Moisture curl smoothie features coconut oil, papaya butter, and plumeria extract. The rich formula is ideal for type 4 hair. It smooths and hydrates, so your curls will end up bouncy, soft, and frizz-free.
3. Obia Naturals Curl Moisture Cream
The Curl Moisture Cream provides deep nourishment without being too heavy or weighing down your hair, making it ideal for type 4 hair. It contains argan oil, burdock root, and grape seed oil to strengthen your hair while adding shine. Oh, and it’s pH balanced,, too!
4. Eden BodyWorks Coconut Shea Curl Defining Cream
This curl cream keeps it simple, yet effective. It features coconut oil, coconut milk, and shea butter, which work together to moisturize and define your hair. It works wonderfully for all hair types. Use it for the LOC method or super-defined wash-and-gos.
5. Aunt Jackie’s Coconut Creme Recipes Butter Creme
Looser curl types adore this cream, which is ideal for hydrating and protecting the ends of your curls as well as any damaged sections. It contains tons of nourishing ingredients, including coconut oil, shea butter, avocado, monoi, and rosemary extract.
6. SheaMoisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie
This OG SheaMoisture product remains a staple in many cabinets. When it comes to styling twist-outs, wash-and-gos, braids, and other styles, this curl-enhancing smoothie is as dependable as it gets. It features shea butter along with silk protein and neem oil, and it’s great for all curl types.
7. Mielle Pomegranate & Honey Twisting Souffle
Looking for the perfect curl cream for twist-outs? This souffle results in a secure hold while also moisturizing your curls, so your hair is defined, but still soft. Bonus: It adds a silky shine to your hair.
8. DevaCurl SuperCream Coconut Curl Styler
Type 2 or 3 curls will love this cream, which also doubles as one of the best stylers out there. Infused with coconut oil, the SuperCream results in gorgeously defined, soft curls. It also adds volume.
9. Design Essentials Almond & Avocado Curling Creme
This curl cream smells divine, but more importantly, it’s full of bomb ingredients like avocado and almond oil to make your curls pop. This formula dries quickly and results in soft, touchable, frizz-free curls. It’s light, but it works well for all hair types and textures.
10. Cantu Curl Activating Cream
Ladies on a budget, this one is for you. Cantu’s Curl Activating Cream is available at most drug stores for under $7, and it delivers consistently great results. It’s chock full nourishing oils like jojoba, sweet almond, argan, and avocado. It’s easy to use and versatile enough for all hair types.
11. Redavid Orchid Oil Dual Therapy
Many curly hair routines involve both cream and oil, so why not combine both into one dual product? Redavid Oil Dual Therapy has two sides – one side dispenses oil, while the other dispenses cream. You can use however much you need of each. Brilliant!
12. Controlled Chaos Curl Creme
Controlled Chaos may be a slightly lesser known brand, but this curl cream could be your new secret weapon. It’s wonderful for firmly defining your curls while also delivering a healthy dose of nutrients, including rosemary exact, green tea, aloe, and lavender. Use it for wash-and-gos, finger coils, or to style your second day curls.
13. Briogeo Curl Charisma Rice Amino + Avocado Leave-In Defining Creme
This luscious curl cream is perfect for type 2 and 3 hair. Unlike most curl creams, this one contains rice amino acids, which help seal the hair cuticle to prevent frizz. It also has shea butter, avocado, quinoa extract, and a bunch of other yummy good stuff. This cream is an ideal moisturizer for wash-and-gos.
14. Oyin Handmade Whipped Pudding
How many curl creams also double as a skin cream?! Whipped Pudding can be used for your hair or for dry skin. It contains shea butter, cocoa butter, and aloe vera gel, and it’s great for achieving super-soft twists and braids. Rub the excess on your elbows, and your entire body will smell like dessert.
15. Taliah Waajid Curly Curl Cream
This affordable hair cream from Taliah Waajid has a short ingredients list, which is always a good sign. It contains shea butter, sage, and protein to strengthen, moisturize, and define your hair. It’s best for type 3 and 4 hair.
16. As I Am Double Butter Cream
As you might guess from the name, this is a very rich cream, containing both cocoa butter and shea butter along with jojoba oil, castor oil, and vitamin B5. It’s ultra-moisturizing, making it ideal for type 4 hair. Although the jar says that it’s a daily moisturizer, it may be too heavy for daily use – a little goes a long way! Use this for twist-outs, wash-and-gos, or refreshing older styles.
17. Curls Creme Brulee Whipped Curl Cream
This curl cream smells divine. It provides deep moisture, but the product itself is lightweight and leaves no build-up. This curl cream contains organic ingredients, like aloe juice, shea butter, and sweet almond oil. It’s great for twists and braids.
18. ORS Curls Unleashed Shea Butter & Honey Curl Defining Creme
This thick, yummy-smelling cream from ORS is lovely for wash-and-gos and twist-outs. It also works well for sealing and re-defining the ends of your hair on the second or third day. It’s perfect for type 3 or 4 hair, especially if you’d like to prevent shrinkage.
Representation on red carpets means a lot of different things to Black girls, but one way we love to celebrate one another is through the beauty of our crowns. Yesterday, Danielle Brooks repped for all the natural girls out there when she attended the New York premiere of Tyler Perry’s Nobody’s Fool with her fresh big chop.
According to the Orange is the New Black star’s Instagram, this is actually her first big chop ever. The 29 year old has definitely rocked textured looks on red carpets before, but this is the first time we’re getting a glimpse of her own gorgeous curls.
Kori's Story, as told to Brenda Alexander:
Although I hate to be categorized, if I have to check a box on a US Census form, I would identify as lesbian. I always have.
I've been in long-term committed relationships with women and despite my mother's desire for grandchildren the "natural way" and her loving skepticism regarding my "lifestyle," I've always been confident in my partnerships. And that has been accepted from those who love me.
However, I do not conform to normalities.
It seemed like a set up from the beginning. I had just gotten out of a dysfunctional relationship with my ex-live-in-girlfriend of several years. It was one of those relationships where one took on the role of teacher, or as my mama would say "a clean up woman," where you work tirelessly to mold and groom your significant other into the person you believe is a true representation of their full potential. But the drama it took to get them there was a complete and utter turn off that left you drained and eager for a spiritual cleanse to get rid of them.
My birthday was approaching and I figured a girls trip to Vegas would be a great way to celebrate being single and ring in my personal New Year. I booked my flights and Airbnb and was determined to take Vegas by storm! We were all flying in from different cities and since I was traveling alone, I figured I deserved the absolute most. When the service attendant asked me if I wanted to upgrade from coach to first class for a small fee upon check-in, I said, "Yes."
With free champagne and a meal, I was off to a good start. And then I saw him.
While walking to my seat, he called my name. "Kori," he yelled.
Caught off guard, I turned and gave him a hug when I recognized it was him. We shared a mutual friend who he went to college with. We hung out over the years and he was always into me but I never gave him the time of day. But, that didn't stop his pursuit of me. Whenever I did see him, he'd always remind me, "I know you aren't interested but if you change your mind, I'm here," he'd tell me. Our friends thought we would be perfect together. I thought he was nice looking, a cool and sweet guy but paid him no mind. I NEVER saw him in that way.
We chatted for a moment. He told me he was headed to Vegas on business and ironically knew from our friend's social media that I was headed there for pleasure. "Maybe we can all link up at some point," he said, hopeful. That was the end of our conversation. I went to my seat, sipped on my prosecco, and mellowed out before takeoff.
This wasn't your usual party all day and night Vegas experience. Instead, I wanted to bask in my new freedom with some adult-like excursions. We traded three nights worth of club hopping for a helicopter ride over the Grand Canyon, wine and bourbon tastings, high tea at the Cha Garden, and a host of lunches, brunches and even a four-course dinner. Cocktails flowed consistently and there were many outfit changes accompanied with Instagram postings for my followers to envy.
Then came the night in question.
On our final night, instead of paying a cover charge and waiting in line with 4-inch heels to get into the latest hotspot on The Strip that we would have to Uber to and from, it made more sense to me to throw a kickback-style shindig at our Airbnb, fill up the fridge with some gin and juice, and top it off with bottles of Hennessy X for us to share, which I later learned was the Devil's nectar.
Happy (almost) Halloween!!!!!
I knew yesterday when Nicki hopped on Queen Radio to declare that the knot on Cardi’s head was caused by her friend Rah Ali, I knew that Cardi was going to have a response. One because it was in direct contrast to what Cardi and all witnesses had said about the incident and there was no footage to corroborate that.
Either way, after Nicki’s radio show, Cardi got on her Instagram page and posted a series of videos not only denying Nicki’s claims but clearing up a few other rumors associated with the two women.
A thorough hair care routine can seem exhausting when you are in hurry. With so many of us running short on time and trying to find ways to multitask, performing two tasks at once may seem like a good idea.
Hair is more vulnerable
Hair is more vulnerable when it is wet. Hair that is damaged, already fragile, or in a compromised state becomes even more prone to breakage when wet. Even hair that is relatively healthy can take on damage from combing hair in the shower. Combing through tangles in the shower can lead to more hair shed than what is considered normal or healthy.
Hair tangles more easily
Part of the problem with combing your hair in the shower is that wet hair tangles more easily than dry or damp hair. This is a double whammy because while you may think brushing in the shower is getting knots out easier, it is actually contributing to more hair loss. Essentially, you are creating additional tangles.
Hair clogs your shower drain
When you wash your hair, you may naturally lose a few strands. Comb your hair in the shower and you are looking at twice the strands lost. Where do those strands usually end up? In your shower drain creating clogs and costly plumbing issues.
How to detangle in the shower
Despite this, many curlies do find that their hair benefits from the slip of detangling hair when it is wet. If you prefer to detangle in the shower, here are a few tips to help save your strands. Note that these will not fully protect your hair from the damage caused by wet brushing.
1. USE A WIDE-TOOTHED COMB OR YOUR FINGERS
Your fingers are the gentlest detangling tool, but a wide tooth comb is the next best option if you want to save time. These can help work through tangles to help eliminate some of the strand breakage.
2. DO NOT COMB HAIR WHILE UNDER RUNNING WATER
This will add to your tangles and breakage. Instead, turn off the faucet while you thoroughly detangle.
3. APPLY CONDITIONER FIRST
To help your fingers or wide tooth comb slide through any knots or tangles, generously apply conditioner to your strands first. Be sure to purchase a conditioner that provides plenty of slip.
If you are struggling with hair growth, you have probably found yourself in an internet hole of information, reading about and discerning what reported solutions actually work. Recently, we have been hearing the natural herb ginkgo biloba being linked to hair. And while this herb has many proven health benefits, whether or not it aids in hair growth is greatly contested. Here are a few things you should know about ginkgo biloba before you try it!
So what is it?
For centuries the herb ginkgo biloba has been used for cooking, drinking, and as a healing salve. There have been several studies about how this herb interacts with the body, and thus affects our hair. One of the most notable ways it aids the human body is by improving blood flow and circulation. The more blood flow and circulation the scalp has, the easier it is to for the follicle to become stimulated. Once the follicle is stimulated by the circulation, hair growth can take place. Essentially, the herb cannot directly cause hair growth, but it does promote stimulation, which can create a healthier environment for better and faster growth. This is one of the reasons it is one of the best-selling herbal supplements in the U.S. and Europe.
Essentially, the herb cannot directly cause hair growth, but it does promote stimulation
Where's the Proof?
The connection between circulation and hair growth is nothing new and there are many reports to back this up. According to a study performed by Massachusetts General Hospital, the increase in blood flow is directly related to healthy and shinier hair. Using a protein, which stimulates blood vessel growth in skin, the researchers treated the hair follicles of mice. Their findings show a total increase in hair volume by an astounding 70% with hair being thicker and more new growth occurring. Another study cited on the US National Library of Medicine National Institutes of Health, reports that ginkgo biloba is a recognized blood flow simulator. The study was conducted on cerebral blood flow and patients in the study showed signs of increased blood flow across the board. With circulation of blood being such an important factor for not only creating new growth, but also better growth, it makes sense to add a blood flow simulator such as ginkgo biloba to your diet.
Check with your doctor - You should always check with your doctor before adding new supplements, even if they are over-the-counter. There may be reactions to current medications or health conditions.
Start small - If you are new to ginkgo, you may want to start with a lower dosage, after your doctor approves it. A great way to start adding this herb into your routine is by making an herbal tea out of it. You can find it in individual supplement form, or as an ingredient in hair supplements like the Mielle Organics Adult Healthy Hair Formula Vitamin. If you do choose to take the supplement in pill form, make sure you drink plenty of water and take it with food. This allows it to absorb easier, as well as protects your stomach from irritation.
by Julia Austin via MadameNoire.com
Meditation is a powerful thing. Just look at all of the successful and high profile individuals who love it. Can we say that they got to where they are thanks to meditation alone? No, but it probably contributed quite a bit. Meditation can bust feelings of self-doubt, at the core of your being. They can help you think clearly. They can help you better understand what it is that you want. They can give you more mental energy to accomplish your goals, while also instilling the patience it might take to get there. You can quickly see how those are all things that could contribute to one’s success. But, not everyone takes to meditation easily. The entire concept of sitting cross-legged or lying in a dark room for a long time doing nothing makes some people uneasy. Ironically, once you get into it, meditation will be the thing that makes you feel the most at ease. Here are your excuses to not meditate, squashed.
There are probably a lot of things that take you 10 to 20 minutes that you do each day that you don’t need to do. You’d be better served to meditate for 20 minutes a night than to watch one more episode of that sitcom. And, when meditation starts to work, you’ll notice that you do all of your tasks more swiftly—you feel less sluggish—so you actually gain time.
You’re too stressed out
Well, that’s a whole mess of an excuse. The whole point of meditation is to help you de-stress. If you’re so stressed out that you can’t meditate then, you need to meditate more than anyone.
When I look in the mirror, I see a woman with a large head of hair. Sometimes it behaves and curls right, but other times it protests and does its own thing. Either way, I smile at my reflection and make nice with it, because it’s mine and here to stay. My 3-year-old daughter watches this exchange between me and my reflection. This is our morning ritual while the house scrambles to get ready for the day ahead. Once I move from the mirror, she comes, takes my place and interacts with her reflective twin; smiling and chatting like old friends.
I smile at my reflection and make nice with it, because it’s mine and here to stay.
I made the choice [a personal decision] to go natural four years ago. At the time, I didn’t realize the important stand I was taking or the influence this decision could have on my children. How I see it — this was a declaration of self-love and pride. My hair reflects my personal beauty, and the beauty of my culture and its rich roots. My natural hair provides a story filled with bold colors, vivid smells, and a long list of ancestral ties.
Emboldened by this new perspective, I prepare myself daily to take on the world, hair first. There was a time I wouldn’t dream of wearing my hair curly in my corporate job. That would’ve been too brazen of a move and I certainly thought the world was not ready to see this side of me. That was a look I reserved for more casual settings or during vacation. Those memories make me chuckle. Times have definitely changed.
My mother was a large influence on my confidence. I would watch her get ready, similar to how my daughter now watches me. As a stay-at-home mom, she was still the most chic of all the moms in the school yard. My mother wasn’t afraid to push boundaries with style. She was elegant and trendy. As I think back, she wasn’t doing anything overtly outrageous, but she was no ponytail-and-jeans kind of mom. She would drive me to school every day — hair coifed, lipstick perfectly done, and chin high.
Today, I conquer the world with my hair. I slay dragons and topple mountains with my curls. When my day is through, I go home to find two beautiful children waiting for me with smiles. My son will ask me “Mommy, how was your day” and pat my head. My daughter will motion for me to pick her up and holds me close. She always reaches for my coils, playing with them gently.
My children may not fully understand what I do daily at work or what I endure throughout the day, but what they do know is that their mommy wakes up every day and smiles at herself. They see that I am comfortable with what I see in that mirror. They see that my large head of hair is part of who I am when I walk out of the door. They see that I hold my head up high. What I manifest to them is that I am smart, beautiful, and bold. I am comfortable with who I am and what I look like. I don’t fit the mold for anyone but my own. They too, will grow up and be comfortable with their natural beauty. They will like what they see in the mirror and they, too, will hold their heads high with pride.
One thing I've learned from years of experimenting with my hair is that your deep conditioner should always remain in your regimen. I am big on deep conditioning and I feel that it is definitely essential in any season. Let’s take a look at the two types of deep conditioners, protein deep conditioners and moisturizing deep conditioners and which one may be right for you.
Why do you need to deep condition?
Several naturals have told me that they don’t deep condition often and I give them a blank stare. Girl you need to be deep conditioning your hair on a regular basis! Deep conditioning is a very important step in your natural hair regimen and should not be overlooked or rushed through. Deep conditioning helps to moisturize and strengthen your hair, protecting it from breakage and everyday styling. If you are a natural who has color-treated hair or any type of damage, then you definitely want to learn about deep conditioning your hair on a regular basis.
What is a protein deep conditioner?
Protein deep conditioners are used to infuse our hair with hydrolyzed protein and sometimes ceramides. If you have color-treated hair or show signs of dry brittle hair, then you need to try a protein deep conditioner. Protein deep conditioners are also referred to as treatments because they help strengthen weak strands and increase the elasticity of our natural hair and appearance of your hair. Protein deep conditioners should only be done once every 2-4 months. I like to use Mielle Organics Babassu Oil & Mint Deep Conditioner when I need to use a protein deep conditioner on my hair.
What is a moisturizing deep conditioner?
Moisturizing deep conditioners are used to help attract condition and moisture to our hair. Moisturizing deep conditioners will contain water as a first ingredient. My favorite is TGIN Honey Miracle Hair Mask. I use a moisturizing deep conditioner every week, paired with my steamer. I can tell you that I have noticed a major difference in the moisture of my hair by using a steamer. Nadling Pollard, master stylist at Salon Pressure in Chicago, says, “Deep conditioners are an awesome tool for replenishing or rebuilding the hair. Moisture masks are useful in the colder and dryer seasons of the year. Some people have (a hard time moisturizing) hair, so these conditioners tend to be heavier and very useful.”
You should really take a look at your regimen and the state of your hair before deciding which deep conditioner is right for you. I deep condition with a moisturizing deep conditioner at least once a week. I only deep condition with a protein deep conditioner every few months, because it is not needed as often. It is important to choose a protein treatment depending on the state of your hair health.
How you start your day can very well determine how it will go and even how it will end.
Kicking off your morning with self-affirmations can be a major game changer for your entire day. It can up that confidence and help you accomplish so much more because you'll feel the strength to do it. I know I've had so many mornings when I just wake up in a funk, and that messes up my attitude for an entire day.
As women, it's so easy to think we're not doing enough. We're constantly facing this battle and balance between self-care and providing for everyone else around us, and that's before rejection is thrown into the mix.
Having an off day can definitely make any woman come down way too hard on herself and make her feel like she's slipping. Having this daily reminder that you're not just enough but that you're more than enough can serve as a constant notice that you're doing an amazing job.
One night this week my husband and I had the smallest disagreement you can think of. I woke up the next morning and thought, "Am I still supposed to be mad at him?" I couldn't even remember what happened. I told him, and we laughed it off, but we haven't always been able to do that.
When it comes to marriage, work, or anything that can be an unexpected challenge, it's so easy to sweat the small stuff and make it a much bigger deal than what it is. Going beyond just making the decision to not overexaggerate little things, and literally confessing that you won't do it, can help you laugh off the small conflicts that could have otherwise brought down your entire day and spirit.
Before you take on the day, say and believe that anything you go after will be successful. It doesn't have to be like every other seemingly ordinary day.
While this affirmation is pretty self-explanatory, it also calls for action, because you can't be successful at something if you don't know what success looks like for you. Think about writing down everything you want to accomplish. Later, you'll be able to look back at the day and see it as a great one. Then, go after every aspiration that you wrote down with the belief that you can do it.
If it doesn't turn out the way you plan, at least you'll be one step closer and can try again tomorrow.
The morning seems to be the time where self-doubt and insecurities reign supreme. While we should be bright-eyed and twerking in front of the mirror from excitement about what the day will bring, it's easy to find ourselves picking apart every little detail of our inner and outer features.
At some point, we just have to tell ourselves that we're perfect the way we are. Saying this affirmation will help you start the day with confidence instead of anxiety and self-doubt. Feel free to repeat it when you're tempted to look into the mirror in your car and examine every part of you. Whatever flaws you have, doesn't mean that you're not worthy of self-love.
While it's easy to hate fear, it's even easier to let it rule over us. With it, we tend to stay in the box that we've always rocked. Without it, there's no limit to how far we can go.
I've always heard the statement fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. So what are we afraid of? Confessing this affirmation about fear at the beginning of the day can help you tap into your bravery for something small like trying new food that you would never eat, to something major like starting a business.
This affirmation is an amazing one because it not only makes it clear that you'll be happy no matter what situation you're in but also says you don't plan on staying there.
It presents this perfect balance between being content and striving for more. It's a reminder to you that your life is an amazing one, but that there's so much more out there for you to experience. Saying this can not only make you feel better but inspire and push you to go after better.
While some might prefer thinner or nowhere-to-be-seen brows, most of us want to go thick. And for those of us who weren’t blessed with a lot to work with, we need some ways to create the illusion of plenty.
“The trend right now is thick eyebrows—the thicker, the better,” says Sam, co-owner, along with Azi and Nilo, of Brow and Blowdry in Beaverton, Oregon.
Here are a few tips to get you on your way to fuller brows.
1. FIND THE BEST EYEBROW SHAPE THAT FITS YOUR FACE
If you do just one thing new and nothing else, choose the correct eyebrow shape that flatters your face.
“The best shape that will work for you is the one that is closest to your eyebrow shape,” says Sam. “Straying too far from your natural brow shape is what can cause over-plucking, and an eyebrow that is less than desirable, i.e, the ‘tadpole’ brow. Our number one recommendation before coming in is to come with full outgrowth so we can have maximum hair to work with.”
Martha Bianco, owner of La Bellissima Expert Lash, Brow, and Beauty, says she will assess her client’s face shape (oval, round, square, triangle, heart, long), important facial markers (such as distance between eyes), eye shape, and nose length and shape.
“As a certified PhiBrows artist, I use a measuring tool to ensure that the golden ratio exists between head of brow and arch and between arch and tail, ensuring that the tail does not drop below the head,” says Bianco.
2. AVOID OVER-TWEEZING
This advice is pretty consistent across the board, but seems counterintuitive. You tweeze to make things perfect, right? Wrong.
“Sometimes it’s our best friend for those stray hairs, but it’s an eyebrow nemesis when it’s overdone,” says Sam. “Tweezing can create ingrown hairs or cause hairs to grow the opposite way so that it becomes a hook shape. Very uncomfortable and unsightly.”
“Over-plucking and even waxing can eventually damage the papilla at the root of the hair follicle,” says Bianco. “And never pluck gray hairs. If they’re graying, chances are they are thinning as well. Tint or put makeup on them.”
3. FILL THEM IN
Part of creating amazing eyebrows is filling them in with a product, such as pencils, eyebrow gels, highlighters, etc. Brown and Blowdry prefers using powders to fill in brow and offers a complimentary fill after every brow service.
“We’ve found that powder works best for us as it leaves a softer and more natural finish, and is light enough that it doesn’t clog pores,” says Sam. “Our go-to powder is Young Blood Artiste Palette in brunette. It’s mineral-based, which means it’s suitable for even the most sensitive skin, and comes with an angled brush, a must have for everyone’s makeup bag.”
4. DYE OR TINT THEM
One avant-garde way to make your brows look fuller is to dye or tint your brows. One caveat; it’s something that you should take as seriously as dyeing your hair.
“Always go to a professional and ensure that your brow artist is a licensed esthetician in the state that you live,” said Bianco. “Sometimes hair stylists will offer to dye eyebrows using hair dye. This is inappropriate. Brow tints use a different strength of developer than hair dyes.”
“An professional eyebrow tint will give you a filled in look and works wonders on brows that are lighter as it picks up on all the light hairs to give the appearance of fuller brows,” says Sam.
Bianco advises that if you can’t a brow artist to tint your brows, use pencil and powder or colored brow gel to get the color you want.
5. DON’T MAKE THEM LOOK EXACTLY ALIKE
Try not to pluck and shape them them into uniformity. Unless you were created in a factory, nothing on your body looks alike to that extent. However, they can still look uneven to someone else.
“Our mirror image is a reflection, and our eyes flip that image, hence why sometimes if we have eyebrows that are slightly uneven, we can’t detect it ourselves,” said Sam. “When we look at your brows, we can see the whole image. But remember: ‘eyebrows are sisters, not twins’”.
6. EYEBROW TATTOOS
Don’t think that someone is tattooing eyebrows on your face. It’s much more detailed and intricate than that. The results are strikingly realistic. There are three types: microblading, ombré/power with a machine, and a combination of both procedures, what Bianco calls “Blade and Shade.”
“Microblading consists of hairstrokes created by a manual tool, with a blade on one end that is really 18 or so tiny pins,” said Bianco. “I pre-numb the skin and begin making hairstrokes by cutting into the skin and depositing pigment.”
The cuts aren’t deep, so the procedure is considered semi-permanent. Sun exposure, natural exfoliation, and very oily skin will cause the tattoo to fade over time.
“For clients with more oily skin, which can be the case for darker complexions, or anyone with a more fuller look, I recommend the Blade and Shade,” said Bianco. “The hairstrokes may fade, but they’ll also have the ombre/powder shading.”
After the procedure, Bianco says it’s very important to keep the area clean and put sunscreen on just as you would with the rest of your face. For those with curly eyebrow hair, she recommends using Stridex pads, which have an exfoliating agent that will help avoid ingrown hairs and bumps.
This week, I want you to prioritize the Silence. Make yourself the 'quiet vessel' and 'get out of your own way', so that you may hear HER thoughts, and unfold HER path. 5-10 minutes every morning is all you need, before you get out of bed and start your day... but every day, though. No excuses. No exceptions. Will you commit?
Fun Fact: In a random interview I stumbled upon today, Oprah shared that 'Discover the Power Within You', by Eric Butterworth changed her life early on, helping her discover the presence of the Kingdom within. It was one of the first spirituality books she read! So naturally I Googled it, and when I saw that the queen, Maya Angelou, had written the foreword to the 40th anniversary edition, I had to have it (if Maya mess wit chu, I mess wit chu!). I'm well into the middle of the book and I HIGHLY recommend it!
I also came across a great 6 minute talk by Butterworth on his Christian-based definition of mediation and I couldn't agree more. Check it out ASAP (and peep the battery analogy-- I LOVE IT!) and commit to emptying yourself out to make room for the Bliss!
Love you so much and know that this week is your week, HER season! Own it! Smile. You got this!
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When I look back at photos from when I was only co-washing, my hair looked dry, the ends were stringy and I didn't have any definition or volume. After doing further research, I noticed that I had significant product build up from only using conditioner in the three steps of my wash day process. This consisted of deep conditioning my hair as step one. Next I "cleansed" my hair with a conditioner like Trader Joe's Peppermint Tea Tree Conditioner, and finally, I used a rinse out conditioner like my current favorite, Organix Quenching Coconut Curls Conditioner to wrap up my wash day process.
I later realized that the products I was using were not truly cleansing my hair and were only layering moisture, which stunted my hair growth progress. So I decided to go back to the drawing board and start cleansing my hair weekly with shampoo! This was a game changer! In addition to getting an amazing haircut, my hair and scalp were clean which helped my hair to begin flourishing again. My curls had more definition, my holy grail products were working again and I was finally happy with my hair. I realized that as long as I was using sulfate-free shampoo, which my hair responded well to, it would not end up stripped or dry but would be able to properly absorb moisture from the products I was using.
When to wash
One of my favorite curly girls and fellow Denver native Sabrina Perkins, shared these 3 simple rules when it comes to washing hair:
1. Wash when hair is dirty
2.Wash when you have build up
3. Experiment on wash day schedules
The first two are pretty self-explanatory but the final step is a major key. If this were a perfect world I would wash my hair bi-weekly, rock a protective style for two weeks and retain length like crazy, sadly it is not. None of these things work for me, but trial and error has helped me identify this. I learned that while my lifestyle may make me want to stretch the time between my wash days, the dry climate that I live in (Denver, CO) makes it important to infuse moisture in my hair on a more consistent basis. More specifically I now make it a point to wash and deep condition my hair at least once per week and with the addition of a true shampoo, my hair is retaining the moisture until the next wash day and my styles look much better!
Keep a journal
Now we all know that everyone's curls are different, so I encourage you to keep a hair journal, take photos and pay attention to what your hair responds to. It may be beneficial to go longer between washes because your hair thrives in protective styles or it may be more beneficial to wash more frequently because your hair loves products that may leave build up after a few days.
With that being said, I do strongly believe that a good shampoo regimen is very necessary to create happy curly hair. So here a few of my favorites, all sulfate free!
1) Ouidad Curl Recovery Ultra Nourishing Cleansing Oil
After getting my first carve and slice haircut at an Ouidad training event, I was gifted this cleanser and fell completely in love! While this isn't your typical shampoo, the cleansing oil is the perfect consistency to cleanse gently and help in restoring moisture to the hair. It doesn't hurt that it smells amazing!
2) OGX Moisture Plus Vitamin B5 Shampoo
This shampoo is one of my holy grail products for getting my hair squeaky clean after using more product than usual. It is infused with vitamin B5 and not only does it help retain moisture in the hair, it also strengthens and improves hair elasticity.
3) OGX Quenching Plus Coconut Curls Shampoo
This entire Coconut Curls line is a dream come true, but the shampoo will always hold a special place in my heart. The creamy texture feels more like a conditioner and it provides slip that is rare with shampoo. But it cleanses to perfection and never leaves my hair feeling stripped!
It’s currently 10:38pm here in Houston, TX. My son should be in bed by now, I should be wasting away scrolling through my Instagram feed, but neither of us is following our regular routine this evening. No, this night has taken on a much more somber tone. About 34 minutes ago, I watched Andrew Gillum, one of the strongest candidates Florida Democrats have had on their ticket in years, concede to a man knowingly supported by white supremacists. An hour before that, I watched as Democratic Senate hopeful Beto O’Rourke did the same, congratulating Republican Ted Cruz on his win. And with exit polls spelling out an unfortunate reality in this country by highlighting the fact that Black voters were the only racial demographic to vote overwhelmingly against blatantly racist candidates, it’s tough to cloak myself in blind optimism and expect a better America for my son. My Black, autistic son that is. I’ve never been totally oblivious to the realities of these United States. Growing up in a socially conscious household resulted in a radical tinge thats only intensified in my adulthood, one that’s become far more acceptable given the “woke” craze. But more recently, I’ve come to accept that I cannot save this country. Not alone, not with my community in tow, and likely not ever. Not because I’m unwilling to put in the work or to sacrifice, but moreso because we lack the support. As we all sit stunned at the results of these mid-term elections, seeing other races vote overwhelmingly in support of candidates who’ve openly expressed their devotion to a racist imbecile, it might be time to accept the fact that we are completely in this fight alone.
The exit polls were a reminder that the unity everyone had been ranting about since our most recent presidential election was a joke, nothing more than a talking point. It wasn’t actually unity the country wanted. If it were, Black people wouldn’t have been the only ones voting for it. With the Latino vote being split in each state’s Senate race, it served as a somber reminder that we cared more about the wellbeing of the other minority communities than they seemed to care about themselves. The Asian communities, the Arab communities, they too split their votes down the middle. Only further exemplifying that these minority communities, the same ones who demand our solidarity anytime an issue arises reminding them of their non-white status in this country, just as quickly chose self-preservation when expected to do the same. With Black people making up only 12% of the population in Texas and 14% of the population in Florida, I thought to myself how the hell were we expected to pull this off alone? Who designated us as the change agents in this country? A country that’s still dragging its feet to recognize our humanity as a whole. It was unrealistic to begin with. And furthermore, it allowed other communities to enter the polls guilt free, with only their nuclear needs on their minds. All while we entered carrying the weight and burden of an entire nation. I shouldn’t be surprised, but every election I sit stunned at the many communities who would demand black bodies at their rallies and call for black voices at their protests just so they can climb on our backs and prop up their own interests when it comes time to return the favor. This was the election for white women to make their voices heard against an administration that seeks to treat women like mindless breeders. This was the election for Hispanic men and women to make their voices heard against an administration that seeks to evict them from lands historically their own. This was the election for everyone to return the unity they’ve had on loan for the past 400 years and once again, we see that was asking too much. If we didn’t know we were on our own before now, this election certainly left no doubt.