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The Benefits of Keeping Your 4c Natural Hair Stretched

October 5, 2018, 9:12 am
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Type 4c hair, in all its glory and beauty, can admittedly present a bit of a learning curve to naturals who are still learning about their hair. It may take a while to fully understand what their hair needs in order to thrive, and how it may require a little extra love and care to keep it in its healthiest state. While stretching natural hair is a popular method of styling, it can also be added to a regular 4c hair care regimen to make haircare easier and more efficient.

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Why Do 4c’s Benefit From This Method?
Type 4c naturals have the most tightly-coiled hair, and that combined with up to 70 percent shrinkage and difficulty retaining moisture can create the perfect recipe for damage and breakage. The tight curl pattern of the hair makes it difficult for oils and sebum to travel down from the scalp to moisturize the entire hair strand. To be clear, there is absolutely nothing wrong with living your best life and rocking a beautiful 4c wash and go. Shrinkage is a sign of healthy, thoroughly moisturized hair; but for those 4c’s who have difficulty controlling knots and tangles, wash and go’s are just not practical for an everyday regimen--that’s where stretching comes in.

Stretched 4c hair is less likely to curl in on itself, and makes it easier for those natural oils (and added moisturizing products) to travel down the hair strands and retain the moisture, warding off excessive breakage and dryness. Using heatless methods to stretch can also help you avoid frequent use of heat (and irreversible heat damage) and retain as much length as possible.

Shavonnie Scott Wilson, professional New Jersey hairstylist and fellow 4c natural, says that although she likes to wear wigs, she prefers to keep her 8-year-old daughter Cecelia’s 4c hair in cute stretched styles. “Specifically in the summertime, I don’t change her styles much, so it’s easier to maintain braided and twisted styles. And her hair is detangled and protected” she says. Her go-to methods of stretching are banding, braiding, and twist-outs.

Stretching Methods
Some popular methods to stretch natural curls, waves, and coils include:

1. BRAID-OUTS/TWIST-OUTS:
The classic braid-out/twist-out. On thoroughly-moisturized and detangled hair (usually water, a styling cream, and an oil), simply section hair off and twist or braid the hair. Then, take the twists/braids down when they are dry. Check out Halfrican Beaute’s simple tutorial for type 4 hair. Get the Flaxseed and Black Castor Oil Eco Styling Gel she uses here.


2. AFRICAN THREADING:
African threading is done by sectioning the hair off and wrapping thread around each section. This method is good for keeping the natural curl pattern, while still elongating the hair. Youtuber NaturallyPhilo documented her results, check it out below.


3. BANTU KNOTS:
Bantu knots are accomplished by sectioning hair off as desired and twisting the hair, while wrapping it into a small knot. Some people twirl the hair around their finger, while others actually twist two pieces of hair together. Youtuber Ambrosia Malbrough does a two strand twist and then a bantu knot; take a look.


In addition to aiding in hair maintenance, the ability to stretch type 4 hair presents naturals with several different styling options to switch it up and keep things new and fresh. Type 4c coilies can easily transition between a soft, fluffy afro with maximum shrinkage, to a super defined twist out or blown out style. If your coils seem to be dry and knotted regularly and you don’t wear stretched styles, give one of these methods a try.

Do you stretch your hair? If so, what’s your favorite method? Go ahead and comment down below.

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Repair Severe Heat Damage With These Easy Steps!

October 5, 2018, 9:22 am
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There is no turning back time when it comes to the severe, gradual heat damage that happens after too much heat use, at too-high temperatures, with too few heat protectants. But what about that one time you might have just made one too many passes over your hair? Or maybe you know you did everything right, but you're just nervous about the possibility of your curls and coils not bouncing back quite the same way.
But don't worry, all hope is not lost on your short-term straightened hair. Try taking these six steps to rehabilitate your curls after a heat binge. You don't have to do all six at once, feel free to pick and choose which ones may work for you!

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1. Cleanse with Shampoo
As much as we love our co-washes and conditioners, the first wash going back to your waves, curls, and coils after straightening should always involve a shampoo. You can still avoid a sulfate shampoo to make sure you treat your curls gently, but the key here is that you will need a deep cleansing. Try the Bounce Curl Pure Silk Moisturizing Shampoo.


Shampoo is important for a first wash for two major reasons:

One--buildup removal. If you've ever had that semi-frightening moment where you first rinse your straightened hair and it doesn't immediately revert, you'll understand why shampoo is necessary. Most heat protectants and anti-frizz products have silicones and other occlusives that work to keep moisture out of the hair. Many oils and butters act in the same fashion, hence their propensity to seal the hair. Using a shampoo helps lift the moisture-blocking product buildup, so that the water can penetrate the hair and help restore the original texture.

Two--since shampoo has a negative charge (anionic), it binds all of the positively charged (cationic) buildup to itself, removing it from your hair, which also has a negative charge. Since the hair is stripped, the next positively charged conditioner you place on your hair will be more effective than if you had not used shampoo to cleanse.

2. Use a Reconstructor
Heat straightening, combing, and just general wear and tear can cause cuticle damage to the hair. An intensive protein treatment (reconstructor) will help patch up those chips, cracks, and breaks in the cuticle of the hair temporarily. At some level, heat straightening (especially if you cranked the heat up a little too much) can alter the structure of the proteins in the hair, and a reconstructor has the potential to help them bounce back to normal - which in turn encourages your old texture return.

Looking for a good reconstructor? Try:
ApHogee 2 Step Protein Treatment
ApHogee Intensive 2 Minute Keratin Reconstructor
She Scent It Okra Reconstructor
Hydratherma Naturals Amino Plus Protein Deep Conditioning Treatment
Komaza Care Protein Hair Strengthener
tgin honey miracle

3. Deep Condition
Moisture is an integral step in getting your hair to return to normal. And of course, this step will work better if it follows a good cleanse. When hair is blow dried and flat ironed, moisture leaves the hair. And after slathering hair with products to keep frizz at bay, natural hair begins craving moisture. Restoring moisture balance to the hair with a super nourishing and penetrating deep conditioner will put parched strands back on the right track. Although most deep conditioners are designed to reach maximum effectiveness in 30 minutes or less, I recommend that after a flat-iron driven draught, an hour or more is perfectly fine. Just don't deep condition overnight to avoid hygral fatigue.


Looking for a good deep conditioner? Try:
tgin Honey Miracle Mask
Camille Rose Naturals Algae Renew Deep Conditioner
Curl Ecstasy Hair Tea
DevaCurl Heaven In Hair
Giovanni 2Chic Avocado & Olive Oil Ultra-Moist Deep Deep Moisture Hair Mask


4. Do a Hot Oil Treatment
If your hair still isn't feeling or looking quite up to par, a hot oil treatment may help get things back in order. Nourishing the hair with a warm concoction of oils can help restore shine and elasticity, enhance smoothness, penetrate the hair, nourish the scalp, and more. A hot oil treatment can penetrate the hair, moisturizing and nourishing on the inside and out. Different oils can boost the effectiveness of your curl, coil, and kink loving concoction.

-Place the oils inside of a plastic applicator bottle (which can be purchased at a local beauty supply store)
-Melt them together in a hot water bath (don't microwave them)
-Apply to hair and scalp
-Cover hair in a plastic cap or saran wrap.
-You can sit under a dryer with the oil, or use a satin scarf or bonnet to help keep your head-generated heat in.




5. Use the Greenhouse Effect
If your hair still isn't responding like you had hoped, the greenhouse effect may help. A spinoff of sorts of the hot oil treatment, greenhousing involves trapping hair in an ultra-moisturizing environment to aid in absorbing as much moisture as possible. This can be achieved at simplest, by covering damp hair with a plastic cap and scarf.

You can add to the greenhouse effect by incorporating a little bit of butter, oil, or conditioner of your choice to the damp hair, or by steaming your hair with a handheld or tabletop steamer. You can greenhouse your hair for as little as 30 minutes, or as much as overnight. Since the hair is not soaking wet, it is at less risk for hygral fatigue, over-conditioning, and becoming limp and mushy.



6. Last Resort: Cut/Trim
If you've done everything you possibly can and your texture just won't come back, a trim or cut may be in order. Since the ends of the hair are the oldest, it is likely that most of the damage to heat straightened hair is concentrated at the ends. Luckily, that can be resolved with a quick or gradual trimming away. More severe heat damage will require more cutting.

Ultimately, severe heat damage cannot be undone. If you are at this point, determine what method will work best for growing out more healthy hair and getting rid of what is damaged - either with a major or big chop, or long term transitioning.

How did you repair your heat damage?
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How to Stop Sweat from Damaging Your Hair

October 8, 2018, 8:00 am
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Reader Question:
I have been natural for two years now, but still learning how to work with my hair. For the most part, I wore my hair in braids during my transition period and only wore my hair out long enough for it to breathe before putting braids back in. I work out at the gym in the morning and have heard sites mention that you should wash you hair after each workout because sweat will damage your hair. Is this true? I do lots of braid outs on dry hair and I'm about to style my hair in mini twists for the fall to protect my hair and retain length. With that being said, I will not wash my hair everyday and need advice on how to keep my hair healthy. Help!

Answer: Working out does typically cause sweating, and yes, sweat can be damaging to your hair.

Sweat is the body's way of naturally cooling you down and eliminate toxins. But despite being a natural process, sweat can also bring damage to the hair. Due to the salt content of the sweat, letting it sit in your curls for awhile will definitely cause some dryness in your strands and scalp. But there are a few steps you can take to protect your hair from damage without washing it every day!

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Minimize the amount sweat sitting in your hair
There are some ways to absorb sweat, especially if you sweat a lot in your head area. You can wear a cotton headband to absorb some of the sweat around the hairline. Dry shampoo is another great option to remove excess wetness from the scalp. If your hair is long enough to bun, it's a good idea to pull it back and away from your face to keep you cooler. Even without length though, there are various protective styles that will help you stay cool and sweat less, such as flat twists. Lastly, you should already be drinking water before, during, and after your workouts. Staying hydrated will help you keep cool and also prevents your body from overproducing sweat.

Do a conditioner rinse after working out
In the summer, I typically rinse with conditioner if I'm wearing a puff. Like you, I wore cornrows during my transition. When I worked out I would fill a spray bottle and add shampoo (I'm definitely a supporter of sulfate free shampoos!), and water to dilute it. I sprayed my hair with this mixture and let the shower run over my hair. Now that I'm all natural, I add conditioner to a spray bottle, misting the hair, paying attention to the scalp and then doing a water rinse. I then spray on a conditioner, water, and oil mixture as my leave-in conditioner. You could also use your leave-in conditioner of choice. I think this strategy would work well on your mini-twists. Then take a t-shirt and squeeze the water out of the length of the twists in a downward motion.

Sit under a hooded dryer, then apply a leave-in
Another alternative would be to take a hand-held dryer with a diffuser attachment with you , so that you could gently dry after working out. This question prompted me to plan a new experiment. My daughter starts her swimming classes again next week and immediately after she will be attending music class. I twisted her hair tonight.

I plan to conditioner rinse her twists and use a t-shirt to absorb the dripping water. Since it's getting cooler, I may also take the hand held dryer to make sure that her scalp is dry before going out. The good thing is that restyling natural hair after a workout is easier with natural hair than it is with relaxed hair. Now, sweat just requires rinsing and conditioning. I surely don't miss blow-drying my hair straight and then curling after washing. Hooray for easier post-workout haicare for the girls with curls!

How do you maintain your hair while working out? 
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8-Year-Old Barber Celebrates Passing Barber Training By Giving Free Haircuts to the Community

October 8, 2018, 9:46 am
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via MadameNoire by Marsha B.

Neijae Graham-Henries has a philanthropic spirit that is to be admired. This past summer, the 8-year-old Philadelphia resident attended the Junior Barber Academy lead by P. Michael Boone. Boone created a six-week program to give young men the tools they needed to become a barber.


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Henries younger brother attended the orientation but later decided that fit wasn’t quite right for him. Instead, his sister attended the first day as the youngest girl in an all-boy class. Henries devotion and dedication to her craft, caused her not to miss any days of the program. “I never expected to see a young lady in my class, but she was eager to learn, and I gave her the same guidance I’d give my older students,” Boone told Yahoo Style. Upon her completion, the budding barber and future entrepreneur decided to give back to the community by giving out free haircuts.

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How to Detangle Your Long, Type 4c Natural Hair

October 8, 2018, 10:12 am
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Many naturalistas start off their hair journeys by cutting off their relaxed strands. As they rock their TWAs with pride, many begin to crave length shortly after and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Natural hair bloggers, the web over, are proving coily hair can grow just as long as any other hair texture.

One of my biggest secrets to my long, Type 4 hair is simply focusing on the basics: moisturizing, sealing, and protective styling. However, I know that for many Type 4 naturals, this process involves an understated fourth aspect: detangling. Detangling is the process of gently separating the strands to remove any knots and shed hair. Since our strands tend to form very intricate tangles and knots, this process for many naturals is easier said than done. However, in order to retain length, it is important that we learn to embrace and manage them. Here are six essential detangling tips that I have picked up along my four-year journey:

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Start with stretched hair
Whatever you do, do not try to detangle a shrunken fro. You might end up in tears or maybe even with a pair of scissors. A dry shrunken fro is a detangling disaster. If you have worn your hair in a stretched style, it’s best that you detangle your hair in that state before saturating it with water. Stretched hair is easier to handle because our coils and curls are slightly looser at this point. You can stretch your hair using two strand twists or plaits. You might even try the banding method or African threading technique. Remember, stretched hair is less prone to breakage and single strand knots (ssk) or fairy knots.

Section your hair into 6-8 parts
This is an important follow-up to part one. If you’ve worn your hair in a stretched out style, simply unbraid and detangle each section before moving on to the next. If you’ve been rocking a stretched out fro, you probably want to gently use your fingers to section your hair into 6-8 parts. Braid up each section and hold it back with hair tie or a few bobby pins. When you are done, take down one braid, and completely detangle it before moving on. This not only ensures that each section is completely detangled, but also preserves your sanity.

Apply an emollient-based product
Now, there’s lots of sway among naturalistas on this particular aspect of detangling. Some naturalistas rave about detangling products that add slip to their hair and melt away knots. These detangling products vary in composition, but most are water based. Other naturalistas say that a light oil will do the trick. I have found that whether water or oil based, adding product to my hair greatly aids my detangling process. I simply apply olive oil along the length of my slightly damp hair and proceed to detangle it. I leave the olive oil on overnight to serve as my pre-poo. I wouldn’t advocate for dry detangling, as the friction between my hair and my fingers causes unnecessary damage and breakage.

Use your fingers first
There is a vast array of combs and detangling brushes available releasing knots. I have opted to use my trusty ol’ fingers. Brushes cause too much friction and prominent seams in combs can cause excessive damage. My fingers are more than enough when it comes to regular detangling. Detangling using my fingers takes longer than raking a comb through my hair, but it helps me to retain length. If I must use combs on my hair, I only do so monthly or quarterly.



Start from ends
This is absolutely crucial. The ends of our hair are the most delicate and prone to damage because they are the oldest. It is critical that you nurture your ends if you are serious about length retention. Remember, the oldest parts of our hair have suffered lots of mechanical damage already from simple wear and tear, so treat them like silk. Do not forget to moisturize and seal regularly with a moisturizer and oil or butter of your choice.

Be patient
Detangling is a time-consuming affair. Make sure you allocate adequate time. It takes me two hours to fully detangle my waist length hair from tip to root. I fully detangle my hair once a fortnight, depending on my protective styling routine. On detangling days, I make sure I have my stash of movies on hold - this makes an otherwise exhausting process, more enjoyable.

How’s your detangling process? What are your favorite products or tools and how do you use them?
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This is the Effect of Vitamin A Supplements for Your Hair

October 8, 2018, 10:24 am
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Wouldn't it be great if all our curly problems could be solved with one pill?

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Unfortunately hair care hasn't gotten that convenient just yet.

While many women rush to the vitamin aisle to help with lackluster hair or even dreaded hair loss, it is important to check out the research on the matter before just assuming a vitamin is the answer. One of the most hotly debated and misunderstood options on the market is the use of vitamin A supplements for hair.

And it makes sense, after all, retinol, a prominent member of the vitamin A family is a very common ingredient in both hair and skin care for its rejuvenating properties. But before you stock up on this little powerhouse, there are a few things you need to know first.

The matter of taking vitamin A supplements for hair loss isn't a clear-cut, yes or no type of answer.
While there have been studies that suggest vitamin A can help with hair growth, these studies were typically small-scale studies collecting data too small to be fully conclusive in its findings. It is also important to note that there are studies suggesting that a vitamin A deficiency can lead to hair loss. If a person doesn't have a deficiency in vitamin A, many people think there is no harm in simply doubling up to be on the safe side. However, if you do not have an actual deficiency, taking vitamin A supplements can have the opposite effect and lead to premature hair loss. In a study published in the esteemed journal, Dermatology Practical & Conceptual, it was found that, "While deficiency has not been linked to hair loss, high levels of vitamin A have. In fact, one study found that in a mouse AA model, reduction of vitamin A in the diet actually delayed hair loss onset."

Remember, just because it's a vitamin doesn't mean the more the better.

Unlike vitamin C, our bodies don't naturally flush (literally!) excess A out of our systems. As it's a fat soluble vitamin, not a water-soluble vitamin, vitamin A takes much longer to leave our bodies, and can build up to toxic levels if you're not careful. As well as hair loss, symptoms of over-intake of vitamin A can include irritability, nausea, severely reduced appetite, spontaneous bone fractures, and liver damage. Not fun stuff, curlies.

So, unless you have a deficiency in vitamin A, you might want to skip adding in supplements, especially less obvious ones that are still high in the substance like Cod Liver Oil. But how do you know that you actually might have a significant amount missing from your diet in the first place? The symptoms of a vitamin A deficiency include dry skin, vision problems such as being unable to see in dim settings, dry eyes, and vision spots or "floaters", as well as frequent infections. If you suspect you have a deficiency or any of these symptoms, consult your doctor. You should never start a vitamin A supplement without checking in with your physician just to be on the safe side—and if you doubt us, scroll back up and read through the overdose symptoms one more time.

If you have consulted your doctor and increasing your vitamin A intake is a suggested method, it is important to note a few things.

If possible, it is better to get your vitamin A through digestion of vitamin A rich foods over supplements. Foods rich in vitamin A, include common, easily found munchables like kale, sweet potatoes, spinach, liver, broccoli, and eggs.

If you do decide to take vitamin A supplements for hair growth or other issues, do remember that supplements are not closely regulated by the Food and Drug Administration (FDA), so a vitamin A supplement may have less vitamin A than it leads you to believe. It is important to carefully read any labels on the supplements to make sure you are getting something that is pure and safe, as well as to read reviews before purchasing anything and to ask questions in communities that DON'T profit from selling supplements. If you still have questions about supplementation, you can consult your doctor or a registered dietician for guidance.

What do you think curlies? Have you ever supplemented blindly or do you always check in with your GP first?
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How to Cope When You Hate Your Job

October 9, 2018, 8:30 am
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via xonecole.com by Bria Renee

Beyoncé ain't neva lied when she said, "All these people on the planet working 9 to 5 just to stay alive, and 9 to 5 just to stay alive, how come?"

The majority of your life consists of earning a living and, believe it or not, many people are unhappy with their jobs. According to a 2016 study conducted by Gallup, a research-based research consulting firm, 9 out of 10 employees are "actively disengaged" from their job. The average American retires between the ages of 62 to 65. So from around 16 to 65, we are dissatisfied in what we do for a living. So are we just supposed to work all our lives at shitty jobs we don't like? Hell yeah, we are! At least, up until we decide to say, “Hell naw" and find what it is that we are passionate about.

Many people hate the lack of freedom, the consumption of irreplaceable time, missing out on events with family and friends, and simply just not wanting to go to the same place day in and day out. The motions of constantly going into work and feeling an instant shift in your mood, thinking about other things while you are robotically doing your job, and constantly telling yourself that working a job you hate is better than having no job at all is not what we all imagined being when we were asked what we wanted to be when we grew up. 

It's a universal truth that everyone wants happiness.

So, how do we find happiness in a place that we absolutely hate?


Create your own reality.

Get over your dislike for your job by using it to fund your dreams. Doing so will help you in creating your own reality. Of course, we would love to give our supervisor a resignation letter one day in advance of quitting but that won't stop the bills from building up or keep the refrigerator stocked. Many of the people that we look up to like Karen Civil, Sophia Amoruso, and Melissa Butler of The Lip Bar would not be who they were if they were not happy with working at places that left them feeling unfulfilled while they worked to achieve their dreams. If they can do it, you can too.


Use what you know and turn it into actions.

If your desire is to start a catering company, find some new recipes that you have never tried and make them. If you fail, don't take it to heart. Failure is expected and I promise it will help you to improve by changing your approach to things. Many people encounter that failure and they will get discouraged, which is expected, but remember to keep your goal in mind.


Do the work.

Whatever your dream may be will require your hard work, sacrifice, and money. Take the time to figure out what makes you happy, how you can help others, and what can you do for free while maintaining your passion. Also, find someone that has the time to commit to helping you, not only professionally but personally. If you can't find someone who will help you reach your dreams yet, read what you can to increase your knowledge and apply it to what you already know.

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Woman Says Her Husband Cheated, Divorced Her, Remarried, And Now She’s His Side Chick

October 10, 2018, 9:25 am
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And everyone wants to know what in the Iyanla: Fix My Life is going on.

Some people just don't need to be on social media...periodt!

In a photo posted to The Shade Room, an alleged mother claimed that her husband once left her while she was pregnant for his mistress. Then in a shocking and somewhat sad turn of events, he re-married his mistress and started having an affair with his ex-wife.

Why the ex-wife thought this was a good idea to post, the world may never know.

Everyone in the comment section was equal parts confused and shadily judgmental.

"Why are you out here bragging about being demoted and degraded???" wrote one person on Instagram.

"Oh so you went back back...ok," commented another person.

"The foot rub can't be that good sis," wrote one Instagram user.

While there are no details about who posted the picture and if its even real, one thing we do know is the world is full of petty, petty people.
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6 Ways to Use Aloe Vera Gel for Your Natural Hair

October 10, 2018, 9:33 am
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Calling all curly coily ladies out there! Are your curls thirsty? Has harsh weather made your hair stiff? You might be overlooking a great natural ingredient that could be your saving grace. Aloe vera is known to promote shine and moisture in hair while also preventing hair loss and dandruff. Grab products with aloe vera or some all natural aloe vera gel to benefit from this amazing plant! Why should you? So glad you asked.

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What are the “ingredients” found in aloe vera gel?
Many curly girls are extremely careful about the ingredients found in the products that they use on their curls...as they should be! With aloe vera gel, there’s no doubt that you’re using a natural product that’s great for your hair. It consists of water, 20 minerals, 12 vitamins, 18 amino acids, and 200 phyotonutrients.

Our Curl Chemist Tonya McKay says "most '100% pure Aloe vera gel' available for purchase is a mixture containing some aloe, polymers for viscosity modification, preservatives and other additives. These additions will necessarily change the impact of the aloe vera on your hair as well." This is even true for one of the most popular brands in the curly community is Fruit of the Earth which you can get at Amazon, Walgreens, or Walmart. So you can use any brand that sells pure aloe vera gel, but just be aware that most will contain additives.

1. Pre-Poo
Use aloe vera gel as a pre-shampoo treatment to reduce buildup dandruff. Aloe vera’s natural enzymes destroy the excessive dead skin cells and fungus that leads to dandruff (malassezia) while also leaving the scalp’s pH level balanced and hair moisturized. Apply to your scalp as a treatment before your wash and give yourself a fresh start!Massage the gel into your scalp and leave it for ten minutes, then rinse before shampooing or co-washing as usual.

You can also use aloe vera juice to the same end. For a lighter pre-shampoo treatment, mix aloe vera juice, coconut milk and wheat germ oil.

2. Shampoo
Aloe vera gel can make a great moisturizing shampoo. Some shampoos (even sulfate-free shampoos) can leave your hair dry and stiff. Check those ingredients and try a shampoo containing aloe vera, or add some aloe vera gel to your current favorite! Its naturally moisturizing properties will leave your hair strong and moisturized.

3. Conditioner
For women with tightly coiled strands, natural oils are trapped at the root. Products with amino acids promote moisture and condition our hair. Aloe vera has 20 amino acids!

You can use a ready-made aloe vera conditioner or you can mix aloe vera gel with the conditioner that you already use. If you’d rather go all natural, here’s a very simple conditioning recipe:

DIY Conditioner
-Cut the aloe vera leaf from the stem upward
-Use a spoon to remove all the gel
-Apply it to damp hair, starting at the scalp and working your way down to the ends
-Wrap your hair in a warm, damp towel and let the treatment sink in for at least 15 minutes
-Wash your hair as usual after the treatment

4. Aloe Vera Gel
Looking for curl definition? Many use aloe vera gel to define and moisturize their curls simultaneously. Defined curls always look the best when they are conditioned well. For Type 4 Coilies, this may not work so test on a small section of hair first to see if you like it.

DIY Styler
-Apply a small amount of aloe vera gel to your hands after washing and conditioning
-Scrunch it into wet hair just before your go-to styler or gel

5. Detangling
If you are looking for natural detangling products that are gentle on your child's or your own curls, you can skip the store aisle and make your own. Simply combine the following ingredients in a spray bottle:

8 oz distilled water
1 teaspoon aloe vera gel
1-2 drops glycerin
1-2 drops essential oil (e.g., lavender, jojoba)
10-15 drops grapefruit seed extract
Then section the hair and apply the mixture to each section as you detangle.

6. Hair Growth
YES! We all love to see our hair gain some length. Use aloe vera on your “special” areas that need a little extra help, or even bald spots. The enzymes in aloe vera will attack skin cells clogging your hair follicles leaving two gifts (moisture and shine). While helping to unclog your follicles the nutrients that promote hair growth can do their thing.

Do you use aloe vera gel? How did it work on your hair?
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The Dos & Don'ts of Deep Conditioning

October 10, 2018, 9:40 am
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If your deep conditioning sessions consist of a lot of trial and even more error, then you need these no-fuss dos and don'ts of successful deep conditioning:

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DO KEEP IT REGULAR

Hair that is deep conditioned regularly is more manageable, softer, less prone to breakage and frizz, and is able to retain length.

Remember that whatever "regularly" means is determined by you. Some naturals and transitioners deep condition their hair every 3-4 days. Some, every 2 weeks. I personally aim for once a week, twice a week if I'm lucky. My recommendation is to start out weekly - if your hair begins feeling weak and limp, lessen to every two or three weeks. If it still feels dry, pump it up to twice a week.

DO HEAT IT UP

If you want your deep conditioner to work double duty and make your hair feel super soft and smooth (or super strong if it is protein based), heat it up. According to this article by JC of The Natural Haven, heating your deep conditioner up to 35 degrees Celsius (95 degrees Fahrenheit) increases the amount and effectiveness of adsorption (the good stuff that sticks to the hair) of said conditioner. Long story short, warm conditioner works better.

Try heating your deep conditioner in a hot water bath instead of the microwave for best results.

DO ALTERNATE

One of the keys to healthier hair is a proper protein to moisture balance. Alternating your deep conditioning sessions between moisture and protein will help keep your hair soft, strong, nourished, and minimize breakage, aiding in growth and length retention. For moisture and softness, stick to conditioners that have fatty alcohols like cetyl, stearyl, and cetearyl, plus emollient butters and oils, humectants like glycerin and aloe vera, and ceramides. For strengthening treatments, look for ingredients like hydrolyzed proteins, amino acids, keratin, and henna.

DO GET STEAMY

My pre-poo, detangling, and deep conditioning life forever changed when I got my hands on the Q-Redew. Steam is one of the major ways I keep my hair hydrated and give myself a moisture boost during deep conditioning sessions, and for mid-week refreshing. Steam not only heats up conditioner (bounce back to #2), but it also lifts the cuticle gently to allow for better penetration of conditioning ingredients. Steaming hair while covered in deep conditioner also helps improve elasticity, and moisture retention. Even if you don't have a steamer, you can DIY your own at-home steam treatment when you follow this tutorial.

DO FOCUS ON YOUR ENDS

Have you ever actually read the directions on the back of your jar of deep conditioner? Most of them say to start and concentrate on the ends of your hair first. I know personally, I'm guilty of the exact opposite. However, starting with the ends of your hair is the most beneficial, because your ends are the oldest, driest, and most prone to breakage and splitting. By starting with your ends, you allow them a little more time to soak up and adsorb all of the deep conditioning goodness your product has to offer.

And now, for the don'ts...

DON'T...

DON'T OVERDO IT

Don't deep condition overnight or for hours on end. The obvious exception to this rule is treatments like henna, that require hours to take to the hair.

But for your everyday run-of-the-mill deep conditioner, it should begin to work instantly, and reach maximum capacity at around the 20 or 30 minute mark. If your deep conditioner doesn't work after 30 minutes, it's time to ditch it for one that's more effective. Also, there is a such thing as over-conditioning the hair that can result in mushy, weak hair that has a more fragile keratin coiling. This is called hygral fatigue.

DON'T MULTI-TASK

Don't use your DC to co-wash or as a leave-in conditioner. Deep conditioners are specially formulated to be especially adept at what they do - providing intense conditioning to the hair. And while they may feel nice in the hair, and can in some cases make pretty sweet curl definers, using them to cowash or as leave-ins is generally a no-no. Deep conditioners tend to contain higher concentrations of cationic surfactants (their primary function is to stick to the hair), and will likely lead to even more buildup if used as a cowash or leave-in.

DON'T BLOW YOUR BUDGET

For the most part, deep conditioner base recipes tend to be the same:

-water
-fatty alcohol (ceteryl, stearyl, cetearyl)
-gentle surfactant (behentrimonium chloride, methosulfate, etc.)
-humectant (glycerin, propylene glycol, honey, sugar, aloe vera, etc.)
-emollients (oils, butters)
-hydrolyzed protein (optional)

The order in which these ingredients appear may differ, as will the concentration and types of ingredients. This does not mean all deep conditioners are the same - these variations in formulation can mean the difference between a holy grail product and a horror. What this does mean, is to be price savvy. Take some time and compare the ingredient lists from your favorite expensive deep conditioners with a few drugstore brands. Often times, you'll discover the cheaper brand will be just as good, if not better.

DON'T INVITE BACTERIA

Don't let your DCs sit in storage long-term. Whether it's a DIY mix of avocados, greek yogurt, and Hello Hydration, or you stir your two favorite conditioners together, it is never a good idea to keep mixes for longer than a few days.

Refrigeration may buy you a week but no longer -- unless it is a henna mix that you can freeze for months. The general idea here is that all store-bought conditioners are formulated with a certain concentration of antimicrobials and preservatives that keep them from molding on the shelves. Home DIY mixes have no preservatives, unless you just happen to keep food grade preservatives on hand (essential oils only last so long). To keep the mold away from your mane, only mix enough deep conditioner for a single use every time, and use clean kitchen utensils to mix and stir.

DON'T BE FOOLED

Don't be fooled by marketing gimmicks and pixie dust. As you may know, only the first 5 ingredients after water (with a few exceptions) have the most impact on your hair.

Given point #3 about most deep conditioner bases being similar, spending tons of cash may not be the wisest thing. Add to that, not falling for marketing gimmicks and pixie dust. There are tons of products that will showcase exotic ingredients and extracts emblazoned across the label, but when you turn that label over, said ingredient is 32nd on the list right before the preservatives. Unless the miracle ingredient you're looking for is in the top 6 (top 10 to stretch) ingredients, you're setting yourself up to become a victim of a marketing ploy. If it is an oil or butter you're after (like coconut, jojoba, olive, macadamia, or sweet almond), you might be better off buying a cheapie conditioner and adding said oil in pure form yourself.
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10 Drugstore Products to Try This Fall!

October 11, 2018, 7:03 am
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Whether it’s makeup, hair, beauty, or skin, the drugstore is that tried and true friend who’s always got you covered. We all know the beauty aisle is filled with a variety of go-to and lesser-known brands, most of which rival high-end products. Ready to change up your look or try something new? Here are some drugstore beauty products to look out for this season, because you deserve to look luxurious on any budget.

All of these products are available at stores such as Walmart, Ulta, CVS, and Target.

1.) Soultanicals Knot Sauce Coil Detangler (paraben-free, phthalate-free)
This is a curly/coily favorite with impressive reviews. This hair lotion makes detangling day much easier with a lot of slip and a host of plant-based ingredients, including coconut nectar and broccoli seed oil. On top of that, it will leave your hair smelling like a sweet vanilla cupcake.
Price: $16.00

2.) Carol’s Daughter Coco Crème Velvet Cream Hair Mask (silicone-free, paraben-free)
For curlies with dry hair, Carol’s Daughter’s Coco Creme Velvet Hair Mask may help you get through the colder months. When added to your normal hair regimen, the Coco Creme Velvet Hair Mask can add extra moisture and hydration for soft curls and coils.
Price: $13.97

3.) NYX Professional Makeup Can’t Stop Won’t Stop Foundation
Looking for a new foundation? This lightweight liquid foundation gives a matte finish while being advertised as suitable for all skin types. Even better, it comes in 45 shades, from the lightest Pale to Deep Ebony.
Price: $14.99

4.) African Pride Moisture Miracle Honey, Chocolate & Coconut Oil Conditioner
This sweet-sounding conditioner contains real honey, chocolate, and coconut oil that will replenish and restore moisture to your hair after shampooing. It’s also water-based.
Price: $5.49

5.) Tropic Isle Strong Roots Red Pimento Shampoo
For curlies who need a more moisturizing shampoo, the Tropic Isle Living Strong Roots Red Pimento Shampoo removes buildup from the hair while adding moisture. It also sports an all-natural and fairly short ingredient list, including coconut oil, olive oil, and Jamaican black castor oil.
Price: $13.99

6.) Taliah Waajid Protective Styles Hairline Help 2-In-1 Plus Bamboo & Biotin Edge GrowthCurlies/coilies who wear protective styles may want to wear sleek styles with smooth edges, without the fear of thinning. With the 2-In-1 Plus Bamboo & Biotin Edge Growth you can have your cake and eat it, too. The product promises to keep edges and fly-aways in place with no flaking, and stimulate thicker, fuller hair.
Price: $4.99

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7.) Head & Shoulders Royal Oils Instant Soothe Scalp Elixir Treatment (sulfate-free, paraben-free)
Itchy scalp, be gone! This treatment is designed to be used in between washes to give relief to those who suffer from a dry, itchy, or flaky scalp. This no-rinse formula is applied directly to the scalp and is part of the Head and Shoulders’ line of products designed for natural hair.
Price: $13.92

8.) Covergirl Queen Natural Hue Mineral Bronzer
A dramatic bronzer, perfect for a sun-kissed look on deeper skin tones. A single product that can amp up your look. Comes in three beautiful shades.
Price: $6.64

9.) Love Beauty And Planet Shea Butter and Sandalwood Shea Velvet Body Lotion(vegan, paraben-free, silicone-free)
This environmentally conscious lotion will keep your skin smooth and moisturized this fall while giving off a relaxing sandalwood and shea butter scent. Love Beauty And Planet even sources their shea nuts ethically from Ghana and Burkina Faso.
Price: $10.99

10.) L’Oreal Paris Nourish & Soften Pure Sugar Scrub
Keep your skin glowing and fresh this fall season. This lip and body scrub contains three different sugars, crushed cocoa, and coconut oil. The sugars exfoliate the skin while coconut oil nourishes, leaving a soft and smooth finish.
Price: $8.53

Let us know what drugstore finds are on your radar this fall. For more affordable products, take a look at these curly girl approved items.
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Miracle Grow: Supplements That Actually Stimulate Hair Growth

October 11, 2018, 7:06 am
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I wish my hair would stop growing...said no one, ever. Curly and wavy women especially can relate. Even when our hair grows at a normal rate, tight curl and wave patterns make it seem as if the length barely budges. Sigh.

But before you Google “hair growth supplements”, we need to have a chat. Slow-to-grow hair probably isn’t the reason you’re longing for Rapunzel-level length (or just a lob that makes it past your shoulders). As we age, hair can become thinner and even starting falling out, which often tricks us into thinking that our length is the problem. These nine supplements have been shown to promote thicker, stronger hair that looks fuller, healthier, and yes, longer.

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VITAMIN A
Vitamin A is an antioxidant that promotes skin regeneration and collagen production, making it ideal for healthy hair, skin, and nails. It is said to promote thicker hair and stronger hair follicles through keeping the scalp moist, which in turn stimulates growth. However, too much Vitamin A can have the opposite effect, essentially causing hair follicles to go into overdrive and resulting in hair loss. Make sure to read the vitamin label and avoid taking multiple doses so you don’t overdo it.

SAW PALMETTO EXTRACT
Paradi Mirmirani, M.D., a dermatologist at the Permanente Medical Group in Vallejo, California, tells NaturallyCurly.com that saw palmetto extract may improve the growth and fullness of hair. In one study, 60 percent of patients taking saw palmetto extract saw an improvement (whereas only 10 percent of the placebo group reported any improvement). This is another supplement to be careful with, though, especially if you’re taking birth control pills: saw palmetto has been shown to “decrease the effects of estrogen in the body” and thus, potentially decrease the effectiveness of birth control.

VITAMIN D
“The vitamin D receptor helps regulate your hair cycle,” says Dr. Mirmirani, who has her patients take vitamin D supplements whenever their levels are low. Even though experts aren’t exactly sure how the body’s vitamin D levels influence hair growth, most agree that it’s an essential vitamin for skin and hair health.

BIOTIN
Biotin, which is part of the Vitamin B family, is one of the most-recognized supplements for improving the strength and thickness of hair. Although the data from studies of biotin is inconclusive, Doris Day, M.D., a celebrity dermatologist in New York City, says, “I have some very happy patients taking biotin right now. Even though the data is mixed, there’s at least enough to support trying it out.”

FOLIC ACID
If you do decide to take biotin, you can increase your body’s absorption of it by pairing it with a folic acid supplement, as well. This study from the University di Bologna shows that folic acid helps the body metabolize biotin, boosting its effects.

VIVISCAL
One of the most respected hair growth supplements on the market is Viviscal, a Scandinavian supplement made with silica, Vitamin C, and fish protein. Dr. Day tells us, “I’ve observed it help with hair thickness and regrowth, especially around the temple area.”

Celebrity hair stylist David Babaii is a fan of Viviscal, as well, after witnessing its effects on a client. “Within a month, I noticed growth of new hair and after six months, her hair was even thicker than before she started taking it,” he says.

COLLAGEN
As we age, the body’s natural production of collagen slows, which can result in wrinkled skin and thinning hair. Adding collagen, which is actually a protein, to your daily routine can counteract these effects by helping the body produce more keratin protein (which, by the way, makes up 90% of our hair). Collagen also stimulates blood circulation, which supports hair health by helping the body deliver essential nutrients to hair follicles.

GLA
GLA, also known as gamma linolenic acid, is considered an essential fatty acid of the omega-6 variety. Even though we need omega-6 fatty acids for a variety of reasons–including healthy hair and hydrated skin–the body cannot produce it on its own. Nuts and seeds, like almonds and pumpkin seeds, are great sources of GLA–but if you don’t get this essential nutrient from your diet, you can take it in supplement form to stimulate hair growth and keep your scalp moisturized.

FENUGREEK
Fenugreek is a herb that promotes healthy hair in two ways: you can take it internally or use it topically. Part of the Indian Ayurvedic tradition, fenugreek (sometimes called “methi”) has been shown to strengthen hair at the roots, preventing hair loss and thinning hair. You can take it as a supplement, or make a hair mask by mixing equal parts fenugreek seed powder and water and applying it from root to tip. Although there aren’t studies that prove fenugreek’s benefits, many people swear by it to promote hair growth, prevent dandruff, and add shine.

Of course, the best way to promote thick, healthy hair is through a well-balanced diet. First, add these hair-healthy foods to your daily routine; then, supplement with vitamins as needed.

Have you taken any of these supplements and noticed hair growth? What are some others that you might suggest for your fellow curly girls? Share them with us in the comments below!
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My Vegan and (mostly) Alcohol-Free Lifestyle... and WHY.

October 12, 2018, 10:00 am
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Hola Chicas!

So I've been vegan off and on for the last year, and stay sharing pics of my favorite dishes on IG.  The DMs and emails have been so serious, that I thought I'd share here!

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Y'all: How long have you been vegan?

Me: I called myself a flexatarian up until May 2018, but have been fully vegan ever since-- my longest stint yet! I'd go back to fish on occasion, and one time fell all the way off the wagon into a plate of Dominican chicharron and ox tail.  Bomb.  And after a cup of fish nibblers from White Castles back in late April, I decided I was all the way done, and haven't craved meat, fish, dairy, or eggs since!  I'm also mostly gluten free due to the gastrointestinal distress.

Do you miss meat? 

 As someone who could eat fried oysters, shrimp and clam strips for breakfast, and go ham in the Honey Baked Ham store on any given non-holiday day, I would say that it has been a long and arduous journey to actually 'loving' veggies.  I'm not a salad person... so I'm not 'that' kind of vegan.  Between mushrooms (grilled, smoked, or sautéed), jackfruit, and the magnificent meat substitutes they've rolled out, I'm good.  Beyond Meat has a brat now... and it not only snaps like a brat (they got that skin/casing down!), it tastes like one.  And I wept.

Why, tho?

Fat-ass hamburger arteries. I've had slightly elevated cholesterol since I was 18, 'cause bacon. At my last yearly physical, despite my healthy appearance and weight (I'm the weight I was pre-Gia), my cholesterol was still hitting border line high... mostly because of the Dominican restaurant in walking distance. That, plus I'm a heavy researcher.  I knew what I was supposed to be doing.  *Just like you know what you're supposed to be doing!* I threw out all the cakes, cookies, and pies, and other processed unnecessaries way back in '08.  I had seen the documentaries, but would still go back to the terrible-awful.  I think I hit a turning point after my experiments with juice fasts-- I would feel so energized and clear, that I knew that if I cut out the heavy animal products, I could enjoy this clarity, while also eating actual food.

Also, mucus. I had mystery, non-allergy related, post nasal drip for years, and always knew it was dairy, but couldn't give it up.  Since going vegan, the green monster has vacated. Unless I eat too much wheat, and then he sets up camp again.

What do you eat? 

EVERYTHING! Except animal products, to include honey.  Honey was the last and hardest thing to give up.  I'd still probably take some in my tea if the agave or sugar ran dry.  Despite my vegan or plant-based label, I still enjoy ice cream, spaghetti, tacos, burgers, brats, enchiladas, quesadillas, fried 'fish', fried 'chicken', and other greasy deliciousness.  But most of my diet is comprised of rice, quinoa, stir fries (heavy on the shrooms), fruits, and nuts (and buckets of french fries and hashbrowns, I tell no lies).  I drink a lot of water (with a splash of cranberry juice), quite a bit of tea (Black with almond milk and a little sugar or agave), and a dose of Amazing Greens, daily.

Fun fact-- I gave up my near nightly glass of Pinot Noir back in January. I still had 10 pounds of baby weight that wouldn't budge. I was eating clean... not working out (but I never really do), but damn sure eating clean, except for when I wasn't haha. I googled 'alcohol and weight loss' and realized that it isn't just the calories that's the problem, it's the way your body processes alcohol.  Your body sees it as a toxin, and immediately gets to work trying to get it out of your system, which pushes everything else, like fat burning, down the priority list.  I kept googling 'I can loose weight AND still drink', but I knew what had to be done.  It wasn't even 3 weeks later and all the weight was gone without any other tweaks to my diet or lifestyle. I also feel much clearer every morning, and have a natural high.  I still drink when we go out-- I can't eat al fresco and NOT drink, lol.  I tried, and it's not fun. Life's too shawt!

At any rate, bottom line, if you're stuck at a weight plateau, giving up the wine might help!  You can commence libations after you reach your ideal poundage.

What about your family?

My parents have been vegan since May (thanks to yours truly, and the Netflix documentary 'What the Health' a friend made them watch). Dad is down 25 pounds with a normalizing blood pressure (this is all diet, he can't workout due to an injury), and mom has dropped 2 pant sizes!  And anybody that's been following me knows we LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to eat!  So it's been so cool watching them flawlessly and (almost) effortlessly make the transition, despite decades of bad habits!  I say almost, because there's actually quite a bit effort if you want to be successful... you have to get in the kitchen and cook! If not, you'll find yourself eating for convenience again. Dad became a chef years ago, so he just swapped the steak for portobellos and he's in there!  Gene (hubby) is a flexatarian but vegan most days (fried chicken on others), and the kids are slowly transitioning.  Max is like 90%, but Gia doesn't want to do anything I'm doing apparently, she's only 8, but acts 15!  I'll keep you posted on this front!

What are some of your favorite store bought items?

Whole Foods
Beyond Burger (gluten and soy free, plus non-gmo... best fake burger out there) 
Beyond Bratwurst (gluten and soy free, plus non-gmo... best fake brat out there)
Double Cream Chive Vegan Cheese Wheel (this right here... with some fig or a date + a gluten free cracker... thank me later. This cheese tastes and spreads like a good goat cheese.) 
Frozen Jasmine Rice (I'm lazy, and this is the solution. 1 minute in the microwave = delicious and fluffy rice)
Daiya Cheese Shreds (melts beautifully on pizza and in quesadillas! If cheese is a 10, it's like a 7.5)
Pure Blends Coconut-Oil Plant Based Butter (spreads, looks, and tastes like butter)

Trader Joes
Chickenless Orange Chicken
Chickenless Chicken Strips 
Snickerdoodles  (the first time I bought these, I purchased 2 boxes. The cashier told me how good they were, and I proceeded to the car. After a minute or so, I came back in the store with a guilty look on my face. The cashier saw me, smiled, and asked, 'you opened a box didn't you?!' He was right! I tried one, and NEEDED to buy 5 more boxes just in case! They're vegan, gluten free, and taste like Christmas!) 
Jackfruit -- My dad fashioned a can of jackfruit into faux pulled pork sandwiches, and his brothers (all fierce meat eaters) ate the shit out of them! Google some recipes.  Bomb. 

Other
MorningStar Buffalo Wings (I do my best to avoid soy, but these suckers, here? At least they're non gmo... I pair w/ dill pickle and onion, and dip them in Daiya brand vegan Ranch, and then I die and go to heaven.)
AlmondDream Ice Cream (tastes just like the real thing, unlike some other brands)
Teriyaki Bok Choy Sautee Kit (hands down the best pre-made stir fry kit. When I can find it, I buy it by the barrel) 
Ripple Pea Protein Milk (I mix a little of this and a little Califia Farms Almond Milk together for Max and he loves it! High in protein and calories, and none of the BS) 
Aldi's Chickenless Patties 
Aldi's Chocolate Ice Cream

As I think of more, I'll add it!

Love y'all!
Nik
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Ask & Ye Shall Receive! This is the Prayer Nicole Ari Parker Used to Snag Boris Kodjoe

October 14, 2018, 11:30 pm
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My best friend and I were having a conversation about prayer one day, and she said to me, "You have to be SPECIFIC with your prayers to God; don't leave anything out!" That really stuck with me, because prior to this, there had been so many times I've prayed or meditated over something, and while sometimes I received what I asked for, most of the time it wasn't quite what I thought I wanted.

I prayed for a new job, but that new job didn't end up fulfilling me. I've prayed for new opportunities, but when the opportunities came, I would often pass on them because, again, they weren't quite right. I even prayed for a new man, and girl, you can imagine how that went since I wasn't SPECIFIC.

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The way the dating game is set up nowadays, some of us are out here really trying to figure out the secret weapon that will land us the man of our dreams. We see other couples flourishing and are left to wonder, how did they do it?

Nicole Ari Parker and Boris Kodjoe's relationship reflects the stuff that dreams are made of: beauty, brains, long-lasting passion, kids, and success. The acting duo married in 2005, and for 13 years we've been screaming "#Relationshipgoals." Outside of the obvious, many may have wondered what Nicole did to conjure up such a catch like Boris. So much so, Nicole even responded to one curious commenter in a recent post on Instagram detailing exactly what she did.

The comment read, "Can we get that prayer you said for Boris??!!??" And in response, the 48-year-old gave us all the instructions we need when praying and manifesting the man of our dreams:

"Me: Dear Lord, What should I do?

GOD: Make a list.

Me: A list?

GOD: Yes. Write down EVERYTHING you want. Even the parts you don't want me to see. 😒

Me: okay.

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GOD: The spiritual stuff, the heart & mental stuff, the physical and the financial.

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Me:😲umm okay: Loving, warm, WANTS to be a husband & father, Fine 😜, WANTS to provide, mentally, physically and spiritually strong, AFFECTIONATE, curious about the world, likes to travel, likes music, likes history, likes art, likes the theatre, big hands, big feet🤔, sexy, really smart, funny, fun, got jokes, makes the highest & best choices for himself, has that "no-matter-what-I-got-this" spirit cause ish is gonna happen, respects his mother, forgives his father, loves himself and knows God. 💛

GOD: Okay now REALLY take that in. SEE him, FEEL him in your mind. SIT WITH THAT...ENJOY THAT..Now ask yourself.. Is he perfect for you?

Me: (inhales and exhales deeply) Yes..Lawd..I mean Lord. YES.

GOD: Now ask yourself... if he enters the room RIGHT now..Are you perfect for him?

Me: (takes reallyyy long pause).....Proceeds to get mind right & affairs in order, rereads Their Eyes Were Watching God, goes to therapy, examines issues, forgives herself & others, calls parents more often, renews passport, goes to church, does a sit up and goes for a run, dusts off that business idea i had🤔, remembers to laugh, buys nice lotion and rubs it all over body EVERYDAY, then buys some more, stays grateful for all her parts, cherishes friends, dances in her room, balances checkbook, makes green juice, loves herself. (Sidebar: At that point...after all that..i was good either way..happy, confident and moisturized.)

💛 and THEN

here he comes... 💛

GOD: Boop."

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How to Fix Severely Heat Damaged Hair

October 15, 2018, 2:00 am
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Most curlies and coilies love the versatility of their natural tresses. Sleek chignons, voluminous twist outs, and bold Bantu knots are just a few of the vast styling options that can be easily achieved on textured hair. Some curlies also like to wear it straight, but sporting this look can be detrimental if done too frequently or achieved improperly.

Question:
I have severe heat damage, should I big chop or transition for a while ? I should also add that I am in college and where I go to school there isn't and hair stylist near by. So I am left to deal with my hair myself.

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Answer:

BIG CHOP
I highly encourage cutting the heat damaged ends. If you are not comfortable cutting your own hair, then I strongly suggest scheduling an appointment with a stylist or save money and schedule time during the school year. Anytime the hair is damaged, whether it is chemical or mechanical, it cannot be reversed. Whenever you see products with advertising claims to remedy split ends, the products formulated with PEC technology are only meant to temporarily fuse the split ends together. When the hair is damaged and the ends are not trimmed, there is an extremely high potential for that damage to travel up the hair shaft. Coming from the experience of working in a salon, I have witnessed women long-term transition with relaxed and heat damaged hair and have to cut more than they expected because the damage traveled beyond the point of demarcation. In my opinion, you can either cut now or potentially cut more than you expect later, which defeats the purpose of transitioning.

PREVENTION

Cleanse the hair
You do not want to fry product buildup, debris, oil, and dirt on your hair. Clarifying your hair is important for the straightening process, so make sure to use your clarifying or moisturizing shampoo to start the process off right!

Use a moisturizing protein treatment before and after
Yes, these do exist. For protein sensitive curlies their hair tends to become dry and hard after using a protein treatment, but this can also be a result of how strong the protein treatment is. By using it before heat styling you are helping to strengthen the hair for the process, and using it afterward will rejuvenate your curls.

Reduce straightening frequency
There is no proven number of times that guarantees heat damage will occur, but based on my observation most curlies and coilies try to keep it to a three to four times a year, if that. Yes, we all know the anomalies that straighten every week and can rock a wash and go with curls intact, but that is not everyone and I do not encourage you to find out.

Lower the temperature
The lower the temperature, the less likely the hair is to experience damage. Usually the rule of thumb is the thicker the strands, the higher the temperature. Most curlies try to stay under 350 degrees or 375 degrees. It may be challenging to achieve the fresh-relaxed look but at least you are not compromising the health of your hair.

Use a heat protectant
Although a lot of curlies and coilies are anti-silicones, this is the time to load up! Silicones will not only reduce the potential of damage from the direct heat of the plates, but they will also help to reduce the amount of moisture in the air from penetrating the hair shaft and reverting your curls. You want to apply the heat protectant while the hair is damp and before the blow-dry process in order to seal in moisture.

Stretch before straightening
Typically before straightening people use a blow-dryer but lately many naturals have been using the banding method. If you do opt for a blow-dryer, try the tension method.

Blow-dry on damp, not wet hair
If you opt to use the tension method or blow-dryer with comb attachment to stretch your hair prior to straightening, make sure the hair is damp and not wet. Blow-drying wet hair is equivalent to frying the hair, which is very harsh on the hair.

Seek straightening alternatives
YouTube is full of roller set and roller wrap tutorials if you want to learn how to straighten your hair without heat. Again, you may not have the same finish as your would with a flat iron but there are healthier option.

Check these tutorials:

Roller Set (Type 3) and Roller Wrap (Type 4)

What is your straightening regimen? How do you prevent heat damage?
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Fotki Days and Boy Mom Life

October 15, 2018, 7:52 am
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Hola Chicas!

Two things:

1. When I first started blogging (Oct 2008... 10 years ago last week!), it was the Fotki days.  The original IG! I'd snap a pic of myself first thing in the morning to share some essential hair revelation, and wouldn't think about the fact that I was completely bare faced... we didn't have filters... no apps to smooth out ya shit... there were no IG eyebrows... I was usually in a robe or sweatshirt.  Hell, I was barefaced (save for a neutral lippie) at my own wedding in Aug '08!

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Fast forward to today. It almost feels as if you can't take a 'fresh face' pic unless you explicitly state the reason why you'd do such a thing (to show off how good and youthful your situation is, or as a 'brave' gesture of self-love). The only problem is, I'm 'fresh face' everyday... I only wear makeup when I have something major to do that involves cameras or a public appearance.  So when I take a pic, I feel like, I look like who I am-- a tired, but happy momma, doing the best she can.  I worry that I look like Alicia Keys during her zero makeup phase... beautiful, hella powerful, but... a little sleepy? I stay greasy like Tyra, tho.  Not vaseline, but Epionce's Renewal Facial Cream.  Love, love, love!  It keeps me glowing.

I've been back on IG for about 6 months now, and I mostly share words.  When I do share a pic, it feels like a whole thing. Sometimes I even draw an end on my struggly brows and swipe on a little BB cream (I never wear it cause I hate washing it off). Am I alone in this?  Or do you love getting dolled up to snap a selfie? Do you don a whole, full face most days? Did you just start? Like one day you just turned a corner and had a 1 hour morning makeup regimen? Let me know in the comments!


2. Requisite Fall pic!  Max was over it. He's generally jaded on everything.  Very different from Gia. Very much about wrecking ish.  But when he's giving kisses and hugs, I melt, and all is forgotten.  Boys, tho.  This is a whole 'nother situation.  Why didn't y'all tell me?!!!!! What is the effective form of discipline when all you're saying is 'no! stop it! Max, sit down!' all day? He's a great listener, and fully understands what we ask him, but like Gia says, 'he's like me, he just wants to do what he wants to do, that's all!' SOS!

Later Gators,
Nik
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Here's How to Make Your Own Curl Cream

October 16, 2018, 9:30 am
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As a curly hair blogger and enthusiast I naturally am a bit -- ok, huge -- product junkie, which can become very expensive when you have to buy products with natural ingredients and get through conditioners quickly!

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Because natural, healthy hair care can be expensive, a lot of curlies and transitioners might go for cheaper products with harsh ingredients that in the long run will damage the hair. An alternative to this is to DIY! Make your own hair products. After some research online I found an easy and cheap recipe for a 'curl cream' leave-in conditioner. Check out the steps to make it and my results below.

This is my day 3 hair.

I will be refreshing it with water and the DIY curl cream. To make the cream you will need just 3 ingredients, coconut oil, shea butter and aloe vera gel, which came to around £15 to 17. Keep in mind that I will only be using a small amount of each for the curl cream.


We will be mixing 2 tablespoons of each ingredient in a bowl for the cream and you want to start with the thickest product (Shea Butter) as the base. I am using 100% natural unrefined shea butter, which was very hard to mix and came in clumps, so it did take a while to break down!

Step 1: Apply 2 tablespoons of shea butter to a bowl.
I prefer wooden bowls as the product doesn't stick to them as much.


Step 2: Add in 2 tablespoons of coconut oil.
Mix both the oil and shea butter together until you get a soft creamy consistency, try to smooth out any clumps of shea butter.

Step 3: Once the consistency is smooth add in the last 2 spoonfuls of aloe vera gel.

This is in a way the LOC method mixed together. (LOC stands for liquid, oil, cream, with the liquid here being the aloe vera gel. Once the aloe is mixed in you will get a very creamy and white looking consistency, which is ready to apply to your damp or wet hair!


Step 4: Apply the final mixture to damp hair (a little goes a long way) so I was left with a lot of cream after!
This is amazing as the 2 tablespoons is hardly anything from each ingredient so you should have a curl cream lasting for at least a month. With a huge amount of ingredients left to make more and more curl creams until your heart is content! And plus, it is super cheap.

Check out my final results below, my hair was immediately moisturized so this is amazing if you ever are out of product and your hair is dry and needs to be replenished. I did feel that it may have been just a bit too heavy for my hair to give it the greatest definition but would work well for styling a bun of even twist or braid-out.




Let me know how this curl cream works for you!
If you have another tried and true DIY, tell us which mixture you would recommend for the best-defined wash and go in the comments below.
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5 Ingredients that My Type 4 Hair Loves

October 16, 2018, 9:38 am
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I have been doing this natural hair thing for a long time but it has only been the last three or so years that I have discover what works for my hair. I look beyond the front of the product bottles and like to delve into the ingredient list to determine what will give me shiny, defined curls. With so many products and ingredients with long and complicated names, it may feel impossible to narrow down which ones your hair likes and does not like. But anyone can do it when you start making looking at the ingredient list a priority. If you are new to the language of labels, here is a guide for what to look for.

Here are the five ingredients that I have found my hair loves.

1. Jojoba oil
Jojoba oil is extracted from the seeds of the Simmondsia chinensis or jojoba plant. I love this oil and make no bones about how much of it I use. It has replaced my coconut oil as my favorite oil to use for just about everything including for my oil cleansing method to cleanse my face. Jojoba oil has a similar chemical makeup as sebum, a very long shelf life, and is a great asset to any hair recipe. I add this to my deep conditioner before warming under my heat thermal cap or use as a pre-poo whenever my hair is tangled. Many claim this oil to be pricy but I always buy mine at Amazon.com and pay no more for it than any other oil. When low on body oil I use it as my body oil too.

2. Cetyl alcohol and cetearyl alcohol
I learned a long time ago that not all alcohols are bad. Cetyl alcohol and cetearyl alcohol work as emollients, emulsifiers, and carrying agents for other ingredients in the products without the drying effects of ethyl alcohol. They work to condition and soften the skin, scalp, and hair and quite often used in moisturizers, conditioners, and anti-aging treatments. My hair loves this and when I see either of these in a product I know I will have no problems with that product.

3. Coconut oil
This fatty oil obtained from the coconut has a unique combination of fatty acids. It is a star in the kitchen and the bathroom. Most curly, wavy, and coily girls love coconut oil but as jojoba oil has taken its place in my favorite oil for hydrating and conditioning. I use it for the oil cleansing method and for moisturizing and conditioning my hair and scalp. Coconut oil stays on my list of Holy Grail products. I keep it around and sometimes use on my body I know that with my favorite products and what I gravitate to, I will always have coconut oil in my hair in one form or another. I still have several products that have coconut oil in the top five ingredients.

4. Stearamidopropyl dimethylamine
This replacement for silicones is water soluble and derived from vegetable oil. It is often used in hair conditioners and shampoos as a conditioner and anti-static agent, but it also binds to the surface of hair and gives excellent slip without causing excessive buildup. I love the slip this ingredient gives me whenever I use it in the TRESemme Naturals Aloe Vera and Avocado Nourishing Moisture Conditioner. Whenever I want silky movement, I grab this conditioner with no worry about buildup.

5. Marshmallow root
Marshmallow root or Althea officinalis is a polycrest herb that has been around for centuries and is used for medicine as well as being a wicked slip ingredient in several hair care products. It is the main reason I have had Kinky-Curly Curling Custard as my staple gel for years and why I will forever keep a jar of their Knot Today in my shower for those massive tangles I sometimes get.

TAKE AWAY FROM MY LIST
My hair thrives on natural ingredients. I align my arsenal with products and lines that use natural ingredients like natural oils, herbs, or derivatives of natural ingredients. No, I am not Mother Nature nor do I only use rainwater to wash my hair but once I reviewed the ingredient lists, I began noticing certain ingredients my hair responded well to.

Which ingredients does your hair love?
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Natural Hair Growth Remedy: Black Seed Oil

October 16, 2018, 9:46 am
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What is Black Seed Oil?
According to Oil Health Benefits, Black Seed Oil has strong medicinal benefits when used as part of a regular regimen. This highly concentrated oil is made up of tiny black colored seeds that are commonly called "black cumin" but are scientifically called nigella sativa.

It is dissimilar from popular natural hair oils like coconut and olive oil because it is an essential oil. Natural lifestyle enthusiasts call this the "cure for everything except death."

When it is 100% pure, unrefined, and cold-pressed, black seed oil is sourced from Indian or Turkish seeds made up of powerful Nigellone, and Thymoquinone--two antihistamines.

Other common names
nigella sativa oil
black cumin
Roman coriander
fennel flower
nutmeg flower
black caraway

Black Seed Oil benefits
Since it is anti-inflammatory, black seed oil is great when diluted with a carrier oil to soothe scalp conditions that cause inflammation, flakiness, and sensitivity. It also kills viruses and fungal infections, so those with lice can benefit. Like lavender, citrus, and rosemary essential oils, black seed oil is an adjuvant, meaning it works well with other ingredients to provide therapeutic effects. Put a few drops in a fragrance lamp or mist some on your pillow and linens to give you a restful, relaxing night. You may also put a few dabs of your diluted black seed oil to your temples to ease a headache and lower your blood pressure. Black seed oil is anti-rheumatic, so it is extremely effective in giving relief to joint issues that come with age and athleticism.

As far as natural hair goes, black seed oil may help in regrowing certain thinning areas on your scalp. Massage 1 part black seed oil with 2 parts olive oil vigorously onto your bald patches to encourage hair growth. Rinse out afterwards with a cleansing conditioner.

DIY Black Seed Hair Loss Remedy

-Try this recipe from The Blessed Seed to regrow your thinning edges using black seed oil.
-Add 2 handfuls of black cumin seeds to 5 cups of water.
-Boil for 10 minutes. Let it cool down.
-Strain the seeds.
-Pour the black cumin water into a glass jar.
-Add 1 tablespoon of extra virgin olive oil.
-Massage this mixture to your scalp at least twice a week.
-Let it stay on your scalp for 30 minutes to 1 hour and then wash your hair.
-Keep the mixture in the refrigerator for 2 weeks maximum (without preservatives).
Black Seed Oil Products
Here is what reviewers have to say about these black seed oil products.


Sweet Sunnah Organic Black Seed Rosemary Carrot Hair Oil, $11.99

"This oil is truly amazing, I have hair loss and a bald area on the top of my head. I have been using this oil for 2 weeks, there is new growth in that area already. And my hair is getting thicker also. I am amazed and so happy with these results, when I researched this oil at the manufacturer's website its stated that it would accelerate hair growth. But products don't always live up to their hype. This is a genuine hair growth oil. The smell is a little strong, but I don't mind it and it really moisturizes." - Amazon.com user M. Barth

"I use this product when I do hot oil treatments and i will oil my scalp with it at night. I use it every other night to moisturize my edges before applying my scarf. I have not seen any additional or extraordinary hair growth. I think that it is a good moisturizer and very healthy addition to my regimen. Unsure if i will continue to repurchase, The container is small." - Amazon user D. Taylor


Amazing Herbs Cold Pressed Black Seed Oil 500mg Softgels, $12.80

"I mix black seed oil with virgin coconut oil and use it on my skin and hair and it's truly miraculous. As nearly prohibitive as the price is, I'd be a fool NOT to cut it but the black seed oil shines right on through the coconut oil. I put some of my mixture on my son's skin with his eczema and chronic itchy skin and it kept his skin moisturized, healed his scratch marks where he'd scratched his skin up in his sleep and left him with a wonderful glow. I use it on my skin and hair as well and I love it. I also consume the oil on sprouted grain bread. The oil has a peppery/citrusy taste and is quite different from any other oil that I've ever tasted but there is no denying that if you care about your health, you must have this oil." - Amazon.com user Me, that's who


Halal Every Day Pure Black Seed Oil, $24

"I've been using black seed oil for about A month now and I can definitely see changes. I mix one teaspoon of black seed oil with one teaspoon of virgin olive oil and rub it on my face everyday. My skin is smoother to the touch and all of my blemishes are fading, all together my skin looks healthier and cleaner. I also drink a glass of freshly squeezed orange juice with one teaspoon of black seed oil every other day and my energy has sky rocketed. The mornings before my workout (Cardio) I mix about one teaspoon of black seed oil, natural honey, cinnamon and a very small amount of water. This mix is said to boost energy and burn fat fast. This oil is amazing!" - Amazon.com user Smith, Q

Would you try black seed oil?
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Regina King Offers the Secret to Gaining True Power & Success

October 17, 2018, 5:30 am
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by Michelle Schmitz via xonecole

Nowadays, everyone wants to be a boss.

From social media influencers to the women side-hustling just to make ends meet, there are so many different definitions of what being a “boss" really means. But when you take a closer look at the most successful, most impactful business women of today, there is one factor that they all have in common: the ability to empower others.

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Whether it's through their words, their actions, or their ability to use their platforms in order to help others find hope for a better future, empowering others has played a pivotal role in any boss babe's success story.

Variety recently held its annual Power of Women event in Beverly Hills to honor women who inspire and influence change through their work in their careers and in the community. As one of five honorees at this year's luncheon, Emmy winner Regina Hall took the time to highlight the idea that there is no such thing as power without the ability to empower others. The 47-year-old told the crowd:

"You can't feel and understand real power unless you feel and understand what it means to empower… Civility, respect, the ability to make a difference in someone's life by supporting or lifting them up, are qualities I don't take lightly."

And for every success story, there are tales of someone else inspiring them to run towards their dreams in pursuit of greatness. The Seven Seconds star says that she wouldn't be where she is today without the tribe around her--including her mother--encouraging her to dream big. She told the audience:

"I wouldn't be standing here right now if I didn't have a mother who encouraged me and my sister to dream beyond the sky."

Regina isn't all talk and no action. The actress currently works with the "I Have A Dream" Foundation - Los Angeles, whose mission is to provide children and youth in underserved communities long-term support and financial resources. This allows them to understand the value of higher education and, in turn, pushes them to reach their full potential.

In a world where it's almost impossible to avoid the constant onslaught of negative news and salacious headlines, empowering news stories are few and far between. However, over the last year, we have seen an insurgence of women sharing their experiences and supporting one another. Women are using their voices and banding together in an "all-inclusive sisterhood" that the world really hasn't seen before. For Regina, this movement is another example of power. She says:

"There is an all-inclusive sisterhood that's happening right now. Women are supporting, loving, and protecting each other outwardly on a grand scale… It's a beautiful thing, and it makes my heart smile. And that is powerful."

In an intimate, behind-the-scenes video of her cover shoot with the magazine, Regina also reminds us that we are individually created to fulfill our own personal destinies. Our paths are intended to be unique, and when we try to compare ourselves to others, we rob ourselves of the chance to be our true, authentic selves.

She told Variety that we shouldn't try to "outbloom the other flower"and, instead, we should focus on how awesome we already are.

"Don't compare yourself to the person next to you. A flower just blooms, it doesn't try to outbloom the other flower… I think we get so consumed with what someone likes about another, instead of just kind of focusing on, 'You're pretty fantastic in your own skin.' The world needs to see your fantasticness."

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