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Chloe x Halle Join The Cast of 'Black-ish' Spinoff 'Grown-ish'

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If you haven’t heard the names “Chloe x Halle,” then allow me to introduce you! Those familiar with the young and talented duo may have seen them performing acoustic/a cappella versions of hits on social media. One super important person saw them, though: Beyoncé, herself!

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The sister pair are now signed to Bey’s management company, Parkwood Entertainment and their career has shot beyond the stars! Now, they will be joining the ABC/Freeform family and have been cast in Grown-ish, the Black-ish spinoff starring Yara Shahidi!

Chloe and Halle will be starring as twin sisters Sky and Jazz, who play on Zoey Johnson’s (Shahidi) college’s track team. How dope is that?!

The sisters expressed their excitement on their Instagram page, the home of where their fame truly began:

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Fans of each of the girls are certainly excited about it:





Grown-ish also stars Trevor Jackson, Deon Cole, Chris Parnell, Francia Raisa, and Emily Arlook and is set to start production next week. The series will premiere with a 13 episode freshman season in 2018 on the Freeform network.

Source: Vibe

The sisters are right! This IS going to be fun! What do you think of this cool new casting?
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Tonja Renée Stidhum is a writer/director living in Los Angeles by way of Chicago. She is the co-host of the movie review podcast, Cinema Bun Podcast. She is made of sugar and spice and everything rice... with the uncanny ability to make a Disney/Pixar reference in the same sentence as a double entendre. You can follow her on Twitter @EmbraceTheJ, on Facebook FB.com/tstidhum, and Instagram @embracethej. You can find more of her work on her About Me page, https://about.me/tonjareneestidhum.

You Have To See This Impromptu Gospel Performance At A Hurricane Harvey Shelter

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The tragic effects of Hurricane Harvey in Houston and surrounding Texas areas have been very heartbreaking. Witnessing residents lose their homes and having to wade through flooded waters in order to find some sort of safe shelter is indescribable. Hurricane Harvey’s fury resulted in more than 50 inches of rain and have left roughly 30,000 people with the need to take shelter. So, when there is even a little bit of hope and light, it is an inspiring sight to see.

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The walls of a Houston, Texas shelter reverberated with the sounds of gospel as a woman named Victoria White spontaneously burst out into a rendition of “Spirit Break Out” for the room of evacuees at the Lone Star Convention and Expo Center in Conroe.

Joni Villemez-Comeaux videotaped the impromptu performance and posted it on Facebook, which has garnered over 14 million views at the time of this article. She captioned the video with “So this just broke out in the shelter…”



It certainly had the desired effect as the audience huddled together and swayed along to the music and erupted into applause and praise.

Once White realized just how viral her hopeful voice went, she took to her own Facebook to express her gratitude and reconfirmation of her goal to spread love and hope in a time of hopelessness.

The Lone Star Convention and Expo Center has reached capacity, according to The Courier of Montgomery County. White’s voice exuded love to a packed house and it looked like such a beautiful moment.

Bless you, Victoria White!

Do you need a pick-me-up? Get into this performance!
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Tonja Renée Stidhum is a writer/director living in Los Angeles by way of Chicago. She is the co-host of the movie review podcast, Cinema Bun Podcast. She is made of sugar and spice and everything rice... with the uncanny ability to make a Disney/Pixar reference in the same sentence as a double entendre. You can follow her on Twitter @EmbraceTheJ, on Facebook FB.com/tstidhum, and Instagram @embracethej. You can find more of her work on her About Me page, https://about.me/tonjareneestidhum.

Beauty Vlogger Jackie Aina Wants To Eliminate Struggle of Finding Proper Foundation Color For Black Women

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Popular beauty vlogger Jackie Aina is helping to eliminate the struggle of finding the proper foundation color for black women. On her 30th birthday, she announced an upcoming collaboration with Too Faced Cosmetics. The collection will expand on the 24 Born This Way oil-free foundation shades, creating additional options for deeper skin tones.

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Too Faced co-founder Jerrod Blandino announced the news on her Instagram repost: "This means the world to me, it's so important to me that everyone feels included and knows they're seen and loved; and this is the perfect partnership to do just that," he wrote. "I adore Jackie and am so proud she's going to make our TF world even more beautiful!"

With over 600k followers on Instagram and approximately 1.5 million subscribers on Youtube, this beauty influencer is proud of being part of inclusiveness awareness and is "making her dreams come true! The vlogger made the announcement via Instagram in conjunction with the celebration of her 30th birthday.

it's my birthday!!! finally the big 3-0 is here and I can't think of a better day to announce the biggest project of my career to date. I've been keeping a little secret for the past few months 🙈 but it's FINALLY time to announce that this year I will be working with one of my favorite brands @toofaced to help expand their Born This Way foundation line and create darker AND deeper shades for all of you 💖 I'm so glad that all of the awareness we've created about INCLUSIVENESS is finally being heard and I get to curate these new shades from the FORMULA all the way to the shade names that will be available to all of you in the near future!!! This is literally one of my dreams! And it couldn't have happened without all of you ❤️ This is what happens when you stand your ground and believe in your message and keep your supporters number one at all costs. I'm so happy that Jerrod and Too Faced trust me with this initiative. best birthday EVAAAA 🙌🏾 time to CELEBRATE
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What do you think about this new partnership? What challenges have you had finding the proper foundation color for Black women?
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Monica is a Milwaukee native, wife, mother of two, step mother of one and working professional.  In her spare time she enjoys reading,  shopping and following the current trends of natural hair, beauty and health, all while pursuing her Bachelors Degree in Business Management and Leadership. You can follow her on Instagram@allbeautyandhair and Twitter @allbeautynhair.

Issa Rae's 'Butter + Brown' Web Series Finds Home On Magic Johnson's Aspire TV

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Looks like Issa Rae is winning again! The actress, creator of Insecure is seeing more life from one of her popular web series Butter + Brown. Yesterday, Aspire TV announced that it would air Issa Rae's culinary web series on the network at the beginning of October.

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The series is created and hosted by Seth Brundle and Leslie Robinson and directed by Theo Macabeo and produced by Issa Rae. On Butter + Brown, the hosts share how to make more sophisticated drinks and great food using ingredients they can relate with and likely already have in their home…all while having a few laughs along the way.

Pictured left to right: Seth Brundle and Leslie Robinson

According to Vibe, the new season will feature guests such as Rick Ross, David Banner, Larenz Tate and Carla Hall. The first of nine ordered episodes (in addition to the previously aired pilot) will air on October 3 at 8 p.m. ET.

Catch up on the previously aired series on YouTube below.



What do you think about the series headed to Aspire TV? Have you watched it online before? Share your thoughts in the comments!
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Mike "Orie" Mosley is the managing editor for CurlyNikki.com and a cultural advocate from St. Louis. He holds a Bachelor of Arts in Arts, Entertainment & Media Management from Columbia College Chicago and a Masters in Higher Education Administration from LSU. He is also the founder of www.afrotrak.com. In his spare time, he's probably listening to hip hop & neo soul music, hitting up brunch or caught up in deep conversations about Black music. You can follow him on Twitter @mike_orie or on Instagram @mikeorie

CN Exclusive: New Platform 'Nappy' Offers Free High-Res Stock Images For Black People

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Image courtesy of Nappy

Every African-American understands all too well that feeling of being left out, especially when it comes to businesses and the way they advertise. Instances like Shea Moisture’s recent ad debacle immediately come to mind, but the issue is and has always been much more pervasive. By and large, ads and websites seem to target only White customers but that might not necessarily mean those businesses aren’t interested in attracting a diverse audience. A lot of times the issue is simply a lack of diversity in stock imagery.

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Enter Nappy.co, the brainchild of Jacques Bastien, a photographer, UI/UX designer, college professor and all-around hustlepreneur who has made it his mission to boost diversity in the business and marketing realm. Bastien’s new stock image website features a cache of slice-of-life photos of Black and Brown people—and all the images are completely free to download and use.

Jacques Bastien, creator of Nappy
“I deal with photos every day. That’s why I’ve always been a fan of websites like Unsplash.com and Pexels.com, which provide high-res photos of all people,” explains Bastien. “We always try to be very intentional about cultural representation in the work that we do at our marketing agency Boogie.co and our influencer management agency Shade.co. However, when searching for things like ‘coffee’ or ‘computers,’ it was always hard to find someone who looked like me in the search results. We all drink coffee, we all use computers, we all eat salads. But still, it was difficult to find photos of us on other stock photography websites (free or not).”
Image courtesy of Nappy
Nappy.co’s launch, therefore, provides a solution to the problem of stock image diversity by providing a cache of beautiful high-res photos of Black and Brown people—and all images are completely free to download and use. Nappy.co’s home page features a menu of the types of photography offered including active, food, people, things and work. Browsers can easily find images of a POC reading the business section of a newspaper or eating a slice of pizza or reading an article on a smartphone. Bastien says that Nappy.co will help both businesses and photographers alike.

“Nappy.co was built to help push our mission of bringing opportunities to POC and help increase representation,” says Bastien. “Businesses get access to beautiful high-res photos of POC for absolutely free but Nappy.co is what it is because of the amazing photographers that chose to gift their work to this initiative. Our goal and hope is to support these photographers and bring exposure to their work.”
Image courtesy of Nappy
Since the images are completely free, the site doesn’t actually generate income—but Bastien is fine with that.

Bastien explains, “Now occasionally, we do expect a few businesses to dig a little deeper in hopes of finding out who’s behind this initiative. Based on their findings, some of them may choose to hire us for one of our other services. So indirectly, we can see some of the financial benefits of a website like Nappy.co, but for us, the impact is more important.”

Image courtesy of Nappy

And the photographers are game as well.

“Early on, I got in touch with some of my dope photographer friends—Mark Clennon, Jarrod Anderson, Tolu Bamwo—and told them about Nappy.co. They were excited to gift some of their photos to this initiative. Now we invite photographers from all over the world to submit their work to be featured, and since launch, we’ve received an influx of submissions.”

Because Bastien is very much committed to promoting diversity both socially and in marketing, he is also genuinely excited to hear about similar sites such as TONL.co entering the marketplace.

Image courtesy of Nappy
“HUGE congrats to the TONL team for their recent launch. It’s amazing to see other people tackling the same issues as us. We also admire that they are a full-time business and have a fee for their services. Nappy.co is a part-time social initiative and we are 100% free.”

What do you think about the launch of this new platform? Have you had a hard time finding high-quality stock images for people of color?
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Nikki Igbo is an Atlanta-based freelance writer and political junkie. She holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts in Political Science from California State University at Fullerton and a Masters in Fine Arts of Writing at Savannah College of Art and Design. When not staring in disbelief at the antics unfolding on CSPAN, she enjoys philosophical arguments with her husband, 70's era music and any excuse to craft with glitter. Feel free to check out her freelance services at nikigbo.com and stalk her on twitter @nikigbo or Instagram at @nikigbo.

This Little Girls Before And After HairDo Is What Every Black Parent Of A Daughter Has Gone Through

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Picture it, you’re whipping up an artful masterpiece on your daughter’s hair, braiding and twisting in a design that’ll make Picasso jealous. Then, you take her to school. Hours go by and then you pick her up.

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And… womp, womp! You see a totally different design… a defacing of your masterpiece! “What happened?!”, you wonder.

This time, Charle-feigh happened. Markeisha Simien is the mother of the five-year-old who sent off her daughter to her first day of kindergarten with an impressively coiffed crown-like hairstyle, equipped with a bow. However, when Charle-feigh returned home, it was an entirely different look.



Apparently, Charle-feigh thought it would be a good idea to put her own spin on the hairdo. Markeisha posted the results on Facebook. She said she initially “lost it all” when she first saw the disheveled coif, but enjoyed seeing the massive interest in the before-and-after pics.

"Thanks everyone! She is really a joy! I was upset, true! But me and my baby laughed together at her hair redo!", Markeisha wrote in the comments.

Going forward, Markeisha asks Charle-feigh if she plans to play with her hair at school before dropping her off each day. Charle-feigh responds with a “no.”

Haha!! Do you believe her? Share your kids' rough hair day experiences in the comments!
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Tonja Renée Stidhum is a writer/director living in Los Angeles by way of Chicago. She is the co-host of the movie review podcast, Cinema Bun Podcast. She is made of sugar and spice and everything rice... with the uncanny ability to make a Disney/Pixar reference in the same sentence as a double entendre. You can follow her on Twitter @EmbraceTheJ, on Facebook FB.com/tstidhum, and Instagram @embracethej. You can find more of her work on her About Me page, https://about.me/tonjareneestidhum.

Does The Knot Genie Actually Work?

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by Mary Wolff

If you have ever worked through your child’s tangles, you know the scene already. It usually ends with one or both of you close to tears with emotions exhausted and a more than a few tantrums thrown about. While this may be an exaggeration of sorts, the truth is that detangling a child’s hair can be a pain for everyone involved. With this in mind, the creative team behind the Knot Genie created a product to try to put an end to this unpleasant scenario. What many parents want to know is if the Knot Genie actually works? Well, first let’s take a look at what it is and how it claims to work through tangles.

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What is the Knot Genie?
The Knot Genie is a brush designed specifically for detangling. The shape is cloudlike to allow for an easy grip in your hand while the bristles are varying lengths. The bristles are made to allow for detangling without adding more stress to the cuticle of hair which prevents breakage. With teeth that are all the same size, you can end up with hair that gets caught in the brush whereas these varying lengths allow hair to slip through more easily to remove tangles. They are available in a few different options from a tinier option to options with handles. Find them here.

Does the Knot Genie Actually Work?

Now that you know what a Knot Genie is, let’s look at whether or not they work. While some products may be marketed as friendly for all hair types, but then don’t offer the same result for natural hair, this product is actually great for natural hair. There are many reviews by naturals that claim the results were great for working through tangles, even on thicker hair. With mostly positive reviews on Amazon, this brush has become a favorite for both young curlies and adults looking to work through tangles with more ease and fewer lost strands. For a closer look at how the brush works on natural hair, check out this video.

Insecure, Open Marriage, And The Willing Side Chick?

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Insecure's Molly & Dro
By Mwabi Kaira 

Fans of HBO’s 'Insecure' have been introduced to Molly’s childhood friend Dro and his wife Candace this season.  Molly runs into the couple picking up cupcakes and then into Dro at spot called Kiss and Grind.  They take to the dance floor and playfully battle until things go slightly left when some grinding is involved.  Our girl Molly recognizes the danger signs and pumps the brakes because this is disrespectful and inappropriate to Candace, but Dro informs her that Candace would not mind because they are in an open marriage.  This information shakes Molly because in her mind Candace and Dro come in 3rd behind her Parents and Joseph and Mary as far as marriage goes.

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As shook as Molly is, she is intrigued by it.  How does such a “happy couple” see other people?  She sticks to her convictions even as Dro makes it known that he wants more.  Molly’s world crumbles the night she discovers her parents’ marriage isn’t the perfect fairy tale she deemed it to be her entire life. To add insult to injury her Aunt lets the detail slip out at their 35th anniversary vowel renewal ceremony.  In true a true made for TV moment, Dro is Molly’s knight in shining armor and talks her off the ledge while driving her home.  Our girl Molly is hella vulnerable and takes Dro by the hand and leads him to her bed.

When I watched the scene of Dro talking to Molly about his open marriage, I had one thought; this is how an educated, six-figure-earning, has-it-all-together-on-paper woman can become a willing participant in another’s marriage.  My second thought was you cannot be in an open marriage with people you know, it’s too messy.

Open marriages do exist. Back in 1972, Nena and George O’Neill published “Open Marriage: A New Life Style for Couples,” where they focused on emotional openness.  They didn’t recommend outside sex but said it shouldn’t be avoided either.  Tammy Nelson, a sex and couples therapist in her book “New Monogamy” gives this definition; “Within the new notion of monogamy, each partner assumes that the other is, and will remain, the main attachment, but that outside attachments of one kind or another are allowed — as long as they don’t threaten the primary connection.”

Divorce is real and we all know someone who is divorced.  Infidelity and lack of communication top the list of reasons for divorce.  With an open marriage, the couple takes the proactive approach and decide and agree to give permission should a physical urge arise for either one of them to go forward with it and still come home to a happy marriage.  They see it as just that; a physical urge. It sounds crazy but it is a practical approach and it works.  We can cite morals and quote bible verses all day long but how many people in marriages sneak and lie to their partner about their infidelity and sit right up in the front pew come Sunday morning?  Ask anyone who has been cheated on and they will tell you that the physical act of the affair isn’t what hurt them, it was the deceit and secrecy behind it.  Open marriages aren’t for everyone but kudos to those who understand what they can do to safeguard a marriage and in turn make it stronger and happier.

Insecure has us talking about open marriages in the African-American community.  The show has brought hot button topics to the forefront and it has been great to hear all the views at the water cooler, on twitter threads and on memes.  Our girl Molly ain’t about that life. We could have told her that.  Dro makes it clear that his wife Candace takes precedence over everything even a candlelit rub down in a bathtub.  Dro giving his wife undivided attention at a dinner party finally wakes Molly back up.  Molly is a boss and we could have told her 3 episodes ago that she can’t play second fiddle to no one.

Would you or have you tried and open marriage. Do they work??? 
 
Mwabi Kaira is an African girl navigating her way in an American world.  She is of Zambian and Malawian heritage and moved to the USA in 1993.  Writing has been her passion since she could put a sentence together on the page. Mothering her sons is her pride and joy.  She has been an avid runner since 2013 and has run 10 half marathons and a full marathon.  Keep up with her at http://africanbeautifulme.blogspot.com/



This Black Cosplayer Is On A Mission To Banish Nerd Culture Stereotypes

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Cosplayer Mica Burton
 This article first appeared on Essence.com By Erickka Sy Savané
Older folks say, “She got it honest,” when a kid takes on the mannerisms or likes of a parent. This couldn’t be more true of 22-year-old cosplayer Mica Burton, who got her first taste of the cosplay world while picking her dad, actor LeVar Burton of Star Trek: The Next Generation fame, up from San Diego Comic Con.

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While cosplay- the global phenomena where people dress up as their favorite anime, video game or comic book super heroes- might be foreign to many of us, it’s a normal way of life for Mica.
“I say that I was born into a Star Trek family because the influence has always been there,” says Mica, who received her first costume as a child, and would wear it everyday while watching her favorite TV show Sailor Moon. Video games, a pastime she picked up while bonding with her dad, would also play a big part.
However, it was in junior high, when a friend took her to her first cosplay convention, that everything Mica had been exposed to growing up, would begin to make sense.
“The convention really spoke to me because I was able to see people who were into the same thing that I’m into,” explains Mica, who often felt like an outsider growing up, when some of the black kids would call her ‘oreo’ for her interest in nerd culture. Still, Mica found herself drawn into the cosplay world, where she could express herself creatively.


Armed with sewing skills she inherited from her grandmother, and tips from her makeup artist mom, Mica attended her first cosplay convention in high school. And she kept it up while attending the University of Michigan, where she eventually received a BFA in Acting.
“The builds and projects were all on a smaller scale, due to space and funds, but I never wanted to lose my passion or my skills I’d worked so hard for,” she explains.
 It was a chance meeting at a restaurant in L.A. that lead Mica to her current position as a content creator and on-air talent at a popular YouTube gaming channel called Rooster Teeth.
“I was a fan of Rooster Teeth since I was a kid, and coincidentally, one of my favorite members of the company was at the same restaurant my family and I were in in LA. My dad helped me work up the courage to say hello, and after that we kept in touch.”
From there, Mica attended one of their conventions, met the founders and some other employees. Before long, she was cast in their feature film and offered a full time position straight out of high school. Today, Mica is a popular cosplay model with a huge social media following, but if she could have one wish, it would be to see more cosplayers of color.
“Right now, about 2% of cosplayers that I see at conventions are African American, and there are even fewer professional cosplayers,” says Mica, who believes that part of the issue may stem from the fact that African Americans don’t typically feel uncomfortable showing their nerd side in public. Then there’s dealing with off-putting comments like, “you look good in that costume for a Black girl.”

So, what does Mica’s future in cosplay look like?

“At some point, I’m going to move home to L.A. and continue my acting career. I’m not sure if and when my acting career takes off I’ll be able to continue it as seriously, but I’d like to try,” she says. For now,  she’s super excited to be guesting at the Raleigh and Florida Supercon conventions with her dad.

“It’s kinda like a dream-come-true because we used to talk about the day that we’d both be guested at the same convention. He has his fans and I have my younger geek friends and fans that he’ll be meeting for the first time. It’s going to be a lot of fun!”

Do you or your friends ever cosplay?  What do you think about it?






Benefits Of Putting Okra In Hair

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by Mary Wolff

Okra is one of those things you probably only ate as a kid because your mother told you to eat your veggies. Did you know there are benefits of putting okra in hair instead of in your stomach? What makes okra so great for hair? How do you do it?

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The Many Benefits of Putting Okra in Hair
Okra is rich in all sorts of healthy things that can make your hair happy. Rich in vitamins A, C, and K, as well as minerals like magnesium and folate. According to goodhairdiaries.com, “The protein and oil contained in the seeds of okra serves as the source of first-rate vegetable protein. It is enriched with amino acids on the likes of tryptophan, cystine and other sulfur amino acids.” All of these nutrients work together to create a hair cure-all that covers a range of concerns. It is usually used as a hair gel since it offers great definition to curls and can offer lasting hold without crunchiness.

Here are a few of the many benefits of putting okra in hair:
  • It fights frizz. Since it can be used to smooth the cuticle the same as other oils, hair will be frizz free!
  • It can moisturize strands. The amino acids and vitamins can leave hair hydrated while the oil of the boiled okra can act to keep moisture locked in.
  • It has antibacterial properties. This helps the scalp to stay in balance and healthy.
  • It may help with growth. There are lots of naturalistas that claim it helps with hair growth, though there is little evidence to support this. However, it may help by keeping the scalp healthy since the scalp is the bedrock of growth.

DIY Okra Hair Gel

Ingredients


  • 6 okra pods
  • 1-2 tablespoons of marshmallow root
  • Peppermint essential oil

  • To create this okra solution for your strands, simply place the okra pods into about a cup of boiling water. Then add the marshmallow root and stir. Next, add a few drops of peppermint oil to help mask the okra smell. Let the contents boil for 10 minutes or so before letting it cool for about 30 minutes. Next, strain the contents of the pan into a small glass bowl. This will remove the gel so you can use it. Place it in a sealed container to refrigerate it overnight. This will help to make it thicker and easier to apply to your hair. For a detailed look at this recipe, check out this video, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vFSZFtaMq3c

    Sources
    http://www.goodhairdiaries.com/2011/02/okra-for-your-hair.html

    Would you try okra in your hair? What non-traditional things do you use in your hair? 

    Sanaa Lathan Goes Beyond Natural With Her New Baldie

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    Sanaa Lathan

    Like Beyonce dropped Lemonade, Sanaa dropped us a video of her new baldie for the movie “Nappily Ever After’ and the internet hasn’t been the same. What’s the big deal? Women cut their hair everyday. Let's take closer a look. 

    Let’s be real, it’s not everyday that a woman shaves her head. When Britney Spears did it back in the day she was banging out car windows with a baseball bat. Though many of us have no problem going natural, going bald is truly the next frontier. 

    It’s crossed my mind. Especially, on those days when I’m just tired of my hair. Tired of twisting, braiding and the endless search for my ‘natural’ curl. Let's not even talk about texture wars. Then I think about my head shape and how I’ve never seen my scalp. I mean, I was a bald baby for the longest, but I can’t really expect my head to look the same. Plus, what if I’m one of those women who just looks better with hair, like those hairless cats? Once I cut my hair really short and my grandfather said I looked like a rat.

    My friend Sidra who went bald over 15 years ago because she was tired being a slave to every type of hair weave, says it’s the best decision she ever made. She’s got more time to do the things she loves and when it comes to attention she says, “I get more attention bald than I ever got with a weave.”

    Judging by the sheer force of attention and love being cast Sanaa’s way, it’s easy to believe. Peep her instagram. 


    But it’s not just that Sanaa cut her hair off and looks amazing- no, better than ever- that has everyone’s panties in a bunch. It’s the discovery of who she is. If you thought you knew what Sanaa was about, think again. Look at the video and even she seems to be discovering herself too, which makes sense because how often do we see ourselves without our protective layers?

    Women who have shaved their heads say every woman should do it at least once. Like they know something we don’t...I’m starting to think it’s true. I'm starting to wonder what's beyond natural, what's a next step? What does it look like?

    It looks like Sanaa Lathan. Free as a bird.

    “I feel so light, I could fly away,” she says, like the perfect end to summer.


      Soooooo, would you ever shave your head or have you? What's it like?

    Erickka Sy Savané is the managing editor of CurlyNikki.com, a wife, mom, and freelance writer based in Jersey, City, NJ. Her work has appeared in Essence.comEbony.com, Madamenoire.com, xoNecole.com,and more. When she’s not writing...wait, she’s always writing! Follow her on Twitter, Instagram or  

    Get Your Money Right With 'The Woke Woman's Guide To Building Generational Wealth'

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     xoNecole.com By Erickka Sy Savané

    Try to escape a conversation about money.
    Whether it’s a new poll showing that blacks aren’t prepared for retirement, actress Kerry Washington urging women to be “financially literate,” or Jay-Z rapping about generational wealth – conversations about money are all around us.
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    Honestly, these are topics that I’ve avoided like Trump speeches for years based on bad financial choices from the past. But burying my head in the sand won’t change anything and, the truth is, black women are winning in business. It can’t be said enough that we’re the fastest growing group of entrepreneurs in this country and our businesses generate $51.4 billion in revenues. Those are the kind of numbers that motivate a girl to get it together. That and my kids. I want to give them a better life than I had and enough money to never have to struggle when I’m gone. So, how do I get there?

    According to financial advisor Lola C. West, who has been educating people about money for over 20 years, building the type of wealth that can be passed down to future generations is easier than we might think. In fact, a lot of it has to do with awareness and the right mindset. Fortunately, she’s broken down some gems about building generational wealth that can strengthen our financial literacy IQ exponentially, whether we’re new to the conversation or just brushing up. So, in the spirit of sharing, here’s the Woke Woman’s Guide To Building Generational Wealth!

    It's Never Too Late To Start Saving 
    It’s never too late to start building wealth. First, you have to know how much it costs to be you. If you spend more than you make, then you have to look at your daily habits and create a budget. At least, 10% or more of your income should go into a savings that you don’t touch, and it’s critical to have at least six months of living expenses saved up in case you lose your job.Also, the first day you start a job, take out the max (in 2017, $18,000 per year, and $24,000 for 50 years of age and over) for your retirement account. By taking out the maximum amount, it could put you into a lower tax bracket, which could save you more money. You could also speak to a financial advisor about setting up an SEP IRA. A Simplified Employee Pension Individual Retirement Account allows entrepreneurs, or anyone with freelance income to open an account and make tax-deductible contributions. Like a traditional IRA, the money in a SEP IRA is not taxable until withdrawal and business owners can contribute up to 25% of income, or $53,000, whichever is less.

    Educate Your Kids About Budgeting and Good Money Habits 
    We have to look at the conversations we have at home about money and what we are teaching our children. For example: giving a child as young as five years old a $5 weekly allowance can build their understanding of money. 1/3 of that money could go to a savings account, 1/3 could be for philanthropy, and 1/3 for spending….NO CANDY!
    By taking a child into the bank, they understand this is an institution. An ATM does not leave that impression. Explain that if you buy something with a credit card today, a bill will be at your doorstep in 30 days, and if you don’t pay on time there are late fees. You can also give them things to budget. For example: give them the amount of money you plan to use for back-to-school clothes and let them help make the list based on how much you have to spend.

    Invest In Your Child's Future 
    Also, establish a 529 College Fund account when your child is born, and every birthday, Christmas, and holiday that your child gets money – at least 50% of it should go into a savings vehicle. If you have significant assets or a child with special needs, establishing a trust with the support of a qualified estate attorney can be a powerful way to foster the longevity of assets and/or protect the welfare of your child throughout their lifetime.

    Multiple Streams of Income and Diversifying Investments 
    I always use the analogy that if you’re in an elevator that has three cables and one of them breaks, the other two will still hold it up. It’s the same with multiple streams of income. If one stream doesn’t work, the others should help balance. It’s also the strategy behind diversifying investments between three asset classes: stocks, bonds and cash. Stocks are the equity that you buy when a company is selling shares.  You can buy one, two, or many.  Bonds are considered fixed income.  For instance, a company says if you give me $1,000, I will pay you 4 percent interest for the year. At the end of the year, I will give you back your $1,000 and you will have received $40 for letting us use your money.
    Cash is the money you put in a bank that they pay you interest on. Interest rates for savings accounts are low now, but save anyway! You continue to earn because of the compounding effect of interest, which is interest on top of interest earned when you don’t withdraw your money.

    Property Investment 
    People often ask if buying a house is still a good investment? Yes. Because it allows you to build equity. You build equity in a house as you pay down your mortgage. The less you owe on the property, the more equity you have. When you have equity in your home, you can “borrow” money against it – we call that refinancing your home. The danger is mortgaging your home to its market value. You will then have no equity in your home. Property is one of the main assets that are passed from generation to generation.

    Deeds And Setting Up A Will 
    A deed and a will are very important. A deed establishes ownership of a piece of property. If you and your partner buy a house, it’s important that both names be on the deed so there are no issues when transferring the property to someone else. Because of the complexity of federal and state laws, we recommend working with a qualified estate attorney to draft your will to lessen the possibility of family conflict. Be specific in terms of what you want each child to have, even children you don’t wish to leave anything, so that your will won’t be contested. For example: each child should be mentioned by name and left something, even if that sum is $1, so it is clear that the child was not forgotten, and he or she can’t contest your will.

    Study Wealth Building 
    One of the best ways to build the wealth you desire is research. Attend workshops, study online, find a mentor, etc. There’s a great book called 50 Billion Dollar Boss: African American Women Sharing Stories of Success in Entrepreneurship and Leadership that I strongly recommend because it highlights how successful black women worked through the challenges of creating their businesses. When you look at generational wealth beyond dollars and cents, it’s also our stories of resilience that we want to pass down to future generations.

    Lola C. West is a co-founder and managing director at WestFuller Advisors.



    Defending DACA Against America's War On Brown People

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    I remember first seeing the commercials for NBC’s 'Superstore,' a comedy starring America Ferrera about a superstore, and thinking that it would never work. The joke was on me, I laughed through the multiple episodes I binged.  There was an episode where Mateo, the Filipino immigrant finds out quite by accident that he is undocumented.  The superstore, Cloud 9, is celebrating The Olympics and Mateo proudly displays his Philippines lapel pin to which his boss Glenn says he should be loyal to the United States.  


    As the day goes on, Glenn keeps trying to show Matteo all the American things he wouldn’t be able to find in Manilla.  Jonah, another coworker, tries to cover for Glenn and how he means well and ends up asking Matteo if he is an American citizen.  Matteo takes offense because Jonah is asking simply because he is Asian. Jonah explains that he has heard about Parents bringing their children to the United States and not even telling them that they are undocumented.  Matteo says he has plenty of documentation and even remembers going to the “Green Card store” with his Grandmother and getting his documentation.  Jonah unlike many Americans, seems to know a little about the immigration process and makes an unsure face which prompts Matteo to call his Grandmother and ask.  He only learns the truth from this conversation.  

    This is not an unlikely scenario. In fact, this episode was based on the real-life story of Jose Antonio Vargas who left the Philippines at age 12 to live with his Grandparents in California.  His Grandparents were naturalized US citizens but he was not.  He attended Middle School and High School and did not learn about his immigration status until he was 16 applying for his driver’s license.  The DMV clerk suggested his papers were not legitimate and he learned the truth.

    President Barack Obama introduced Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals (DACA) in 2012 after the failure of the DREAM Act, a legislative attempt to provide dreamers with a path to citizenship.   The reasoning was always to protect children who are not to blame and have made lives for themselves in the US and consider it their only home.  DACA is the protection of undocumented immigrants who were brought to the United States as children, otherwise known as Dreamers.  To be eligible, applicants had to have arrived in the US before age 16 and have lived in the US since June 15, 2007. They could not have been older than 30 when the Department of Homeland Security enacted the policy in 2012. Among the accepted applicants, Mexico is by far the biggest country of origin, followed by El Salvador, Guatemala and Honduras.  To date almost 800,000 have been approved for the program with an overwhelming acceptance from Mexico.

    Qualifying immigrant youths had to meet very strict criteria: They were required to have been enrolled in high school, have a high school diploma or equivalent, or have been an honorably discharged military veteran.  Approval means being legally able to work in the US, go to school and to live without the fear of deportation.

    During a press conference Attorney General Jeff Sessions announced Tuesday that the program would be rescinded.  The administration’s decision to end DACA means that U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services won’t consider new applications, but will allow anyone who has a DACA permit expiring between now and March 5, 2018, to apply for a two-year renewal by October 5.

    The rescinding of DACA by the Trump administration was met with outcry and disapproval by the public because it appears to be targeting the largest number of its recipients who are Mexicans.  These approved recipients are law abiding and went through the Homeland Security process and paid the required fees as requested.  To punish them for something they were approved for makes very little sense. And to only say that they found the program unconstitutional with no supporting evidence makes even less sense.  According to the Associated Press, fifteen states and the District of Columbia sued the U.S. government on Wednesday to block President Donald Trump's plan to end protection against deportation for young immigrants, saying it was motivated by prejudice against Mexicans.

    Trump has been very vocal about building a wall along the Mexican border to keep Mexicans out.  During his campaign he painted Mexicans as rapists and very dangerous. He also constantly repeats this rhetoric of Mexicans taking Americans jobs, which is not true. Just last month The Washington Post published an article about a factory in rural Wisconsin turning to robots due to 132 job openings and an unreliable American workforce.  Surely if Mexicans were taking jobs they would have filled these openings.  His recent pardon of Sheriff Joe Arpaio convicted for unlawfully profiling Latino's in Arizona is just another example of Trump’s displeasure with brown people.  He keeps playing into fear tactics and sadly Americans are none the wiser and just go with these lies instead of doing their own research and finding the facts.  DACA is just the latest in a list of this administration's war against its number one target – Mexico.


    Do you think the DACA decision is a target against Mexicans? 

    Mwabi Kaira is an African girl navigating her way in an American world.  She is of Zambian and Malawian heritage and moved to the USA in 1993.  Writing has been her passion since she could put a sentence together on the page. Mothering her sons is her pride and joy.  She has been an avid runner since 2013 and has run 10 half marathons and a full marathon.  Keep up with her at http://africanbeautifulme.blogspot.com/

    The Girlfriend's Guide To A Natural Childbirth

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    Either you’re all for a natural birth or you think that women who go that route are crazy. Really, why would any woman want to go through that much pain when they don’t have to? Well, I was one such woman. In fact, my epidural was planned way before I was even thinking of getting pregnant. For me, pain has always been the enemy. However, once I did get pregnant and discovered the benefits of birthing naturally, (less chance of interventions that can lead to more interventions, the baby is born more alert, and a faster recovery time), I was hooked, and had two births sans medication. But it was a process, and it couldn't have happened without my girlfriends who held me down. So if you’re thinking of having a natural birth, or you plan to give birth one day, consider this information when you're making your decision.

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    On the first thing a woman can do…  
    Daphne Wayans (5 births; no medication): I’d look at the timeline history of childbirth techniques, notice when pain medication was introduced (early 1900’s), and ask yourself, ‘How did women have babies up until that point?’ I’d urge you to look at the birthing techniques of other mammals.

    Find a supportive doctor…
    Ailia Coley (2 births; no medication): Decide whether you want to have a natural birth at home or in a hospital. If you go to a doctor make sure she delivers naturally- not every doctor will do it. She’ll tell you what hospital supports it, and then you do a tour. You plan it as if you would a wedding.

    Do your research…
    Erickka Sy Savané (2 births; no medication): Watch ‘The Business Of Being Born,’ read up on epidurals, learn everything you can about giving birth so you can make an informed decision.
    Daphne: It would be important to hear from a variety of women on their personal experiences, especially those who had both styles of delivery.

    Get a support team…
    Ailia: Whatever peace, sanctuary, or person supporting you is your Dream Team. Even while pregnant. You can’t wait until you’re 30 days out. You have to prepare for this.
    Erickka: The first time I had a doula coaching me throughout my pregnancy and then in the delivery room. They have their bag of tricks. The second time, I more or less, knew what to expect so I got my best friend. Both worked.

    Dealing With The Pain…
    Daphne Wayans: What kept me focused on delivering with no pain medication during the most excruciating times was, ‘there is an end to this. My foremothers lived through this.’
    Erickka: I prayed.

    Expect the unexpected…
    Ailia: You can do everything you can to prepare for it, and then anything can happen. It’s impossible to prepare for every scenario.
    Nicole (2 births, C-Section): I did set out to have a natural birth, but my daughter wasn’t progressing so I was induced (at the highest dose), and sent home. Still no contractions, and I didn’t dilate, even though I was almost 41 weeks. I went back to the hospital and was given an epidural that finally put me to sleep and I dilated, but when they woke me up to tell me it was time to deliver I was incredibly tired. I pushed but nothing was happening. My daughter’s heartbeat started dropping because she was in distress. Then she got stuck. The doctor asked my mother what she wanted to do and she screamed, ‘Get that baby out of there!’ so they wheeled me to the operating room and I had a C-Section. It was disappointing. I thought, maybe I shouldn’t have had the epidural. But then again, I'm glad the C-Section was an option because it saved my baby’s life.
     

    This article first appeared on Essence.com 


    What do you think about natural childbirth? Would you try it? Have you?

    Erickka Sy Savané is the managing editor of CurlyNikki.com, a wife, mom, and freelance writer based in Jersey, City, NJ. Her work has appeared in Essence.comEbony.com, Madamenoire.com, xoNecole.com,and more. When she’s not writing...wait, she’s always writing! Follow her on Twitter, Instagram or  

    Being Mary Jane And Messy Love Triangles In Your 60's

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    (Photo: Richard Roundtree, Margaret Avery, Fred Williamson) 
    By Mwabi Kaira

    We hear about getting older and not caring about what people think. Look at our beloved Queen Maxine. I can’t wait to be like her when I grow up.  They say you finally get it together the older you get and I believe this but as with everything there are exceptions.  Being Mary Jane showed us this with the recent love triangle between Mary Jane’s parents Helen and Paul and an old friend Frank.


    Mary Jane is quite the mess when it comes to men and in the last few episodes we see that she’s not the only Patterson woman who is a mess.  When we were first introduced to Helen Patterson in season 1 she was bed ridden and very ill.  Now she’s out here taking no mess, meddling in her children’s lives and moving the most vital piece in her Jenga puzzle just to watch it all come tumbling down.

    When Frank, played by Fred Williamson shows up announced to pay his old friend Paul a visit, Helen keeps her cool and lets the fellas catch up and gives them their space.  Frank is back in town to rekindle his bromance with Paul but it is Helen who can’t keep her excitement on the low and proceeds to risk it ALL.  Homegirl suddenly pulls out her Jane Fonda VHS tapes, leotard and leggings and proceeds to get her body right. She starts cooking dishes Paul ain’t seen in awhile and can’t hide her disappointment when Frank doesn’t come around again.

    Helen lies to Paul and goes to see Frank in his hotel room.  A trip down memory lane reveals that Paul was Helen’s second choice after Frank took off running and never looked back.  Helen can’t resist Paul’s charm and they end up in bed. And so the love triangle begins.

    The biggest loser in this triangle is Frank.  How do you still have these playa tendencies this late in the game?  How do you show up to a couple’s house just because you’re in town 40 years later? How do you try to insert yourself into a married woman’s life without thinking about her family and the life she has made? What kind of friend are you Frank?  And why are you still calling a home phone and hanging up in 2017?

    Nothing about Frank is genuine.  He is in town to see about his sister and is bored. If he really cared about Helen he would have come to see her when she was sick and bedridden.  Instead he sees an opportunity to mess up a good thing and goes for it.  Helen misses the signs and risks it all by falling for it.  How can she be this grown and fall for such a player move?  

    Frank ups the ante and asks Helen to run away with him after Paul kicks her out and asks for a divorce.  Playas say anything to get what they want. Where are you taking her Frank? Do you even have a home?  Frank strikes me as a wanderer that still lives here and there and that is not for Helen.  And Frank really reveals his playa self mere hours after being rejected by Helen by already having a new woman in his bed.

    The winner in this love triangle is Paul. He shows us how a grown man handles foolishness. He refuses to be played for a fool. He loves Helen but she has made her decision and he chooses not to be her second choice again.  He married her knowing he was her second choice, he raised Patrick as his own child even though he is not his biological child, and he made a home with her.  Paul ultimately chooses himself and his happiness as any grown person should.

    Do you know any messy old folks?
    Mwabi Kaira is an African girl navigating her way in an American world.  She is of Zambian and Malawian heritage and moved to the USA in 1993.  Writing has been her passion since she could put a sentence together on the page. Mothering her sons is her pride and joy.  She has been an avid runner since 2013 and has run 10 half marathons and a full marathon.  Keep up with her at http://africanbeautifulme.blogspot.com/




    Mango Hair Mask

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    by Mary Wolff

    We all know that what we eat plays a role in how our hair will look and feel. Fruits are a great way to eat healthy while giving hair the nutrition it needs to stay healthy. Mangos are one of the healthiest fruits to add to your diet, but this fruit can also be used in your hair care routine directly! With a mango hair mask, give your strands and scalp a sweet treat with lots of benefits.

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    Eating mango is good for your overall health and your hair in a variety of ways. Since it’s high in vitamins A and C, it helps with blood circulation of the scalp which helps with hair growth. According to hairsentinel.com, “These are both important nutrients in the battle against hair loss. They keep the hair supple and help prevent breakage by supporting the body's production of 'sebum', the oily substance in the hair follicles. Sebum also keeps the scalp healthy, preventing dandruff and itching.” While eating a mango is great for your health, applying it to your hair has some of the same benefits. It is also a great way to moisturize your strands and scalp.

    Here are a few of the benefits of doing a mango hair mask:

    • It can treat dandruff without further irritating the scalp. Mango is rich in vitamins that help to balance the sebum production which plays a role in dandruff.
    • Since it helps keep the scalp healthy and the blood circulating, it can help with hair growth at the follicle level.
    • The vitamins found in mangos can help to strengthen the keratin bonds which makes hair stronger and less prone to breakage.
    • It is super moisturizing! Since it’s a juicy fruit, it should come as no surprise that mangos are 82% water. This makes them super hydrating for your strands!
    So, how do you do a mango hair mask? Take a look at this video for the inside scoop, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_5JBKqtzTs

    If DIY isn’t your thing, mango has been added to all sorts of hair care products to give you the same benefits. Here are a few great products that use mango:
    • Creme of Nature Mango & Shea Butter Ultra-Moisturizing Leave-In Conditioner
    • Inahsi Naturals Mango Hemp Restorative Hair Masque Deep Conditioner
    • TRUE by Made Beautiful Hydrating Hair Butter
    • Klorane Mask with Mango Butter

    Sources 

    Mango feature photo amac.us

    http://www.hairsentinel.com/hair-loss-nutrition.html

    http://www.seriouslynatural.org/2016/08/5-major-benefits-of-mango-for-hair-care.html

    https://www.sharecare.com/health/health-value-of-foods/the-nutritional-value-mangoes

    Should Kids Call Mom's Boyfriend Dad?

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     By Erickka Sy Savané

    Should your boyfriend discipline your kids? “Hell, no!” says my aunt. Never one to hold her tongue, she tells me that it reminds her of women who let their kids call their boyfriends ‘daddy.’ “If that ain’t your daddy, don’t call him that,” she says, adding that she’s seen women with so many boyfriends/daddies that the kids don’t know who their real father is. She’s got a point.

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     You can’t just give that title away. Feeling super chatty and thoughtful this particular evening, we try to come up with reasons as to why some women do it. She says that it probably feeds a mom’s desperation to have a ‘family.’ If the kid starts calling the boyfriend dad, maybe he’ll start acting like one. I speculate that the mom doesn’t want to break the kid’s heart by saying, “That’s not your father!” especially, if the real dad isn’t around. I mean, what kid doesn’t want a daddy?

    It’s tricky for me because I never had a daddy. I mean, I did have a man whose sperm helped create me, but we only saw each other a few times a year, and I only called him by his first name. Daddy? No way. That title is special. But still, we can’t say that it’s never appropriate for a boyfriend, can we? I decided to get off the phone with my aunt and go directly to a source, the daughter of my BFF. She’s in her mid-twenties and has a 2-year-old son that calls her boyfriend daddy. I was curious to see what she had to say.

    “I never told my son to call my boyfriend daddy, he just started doing it,” explains T. “Da-Da" was the first words out of his mouth.”

    Okay, but what about his father?

    Basically, she met her son’s father while broken up with her boyfriend of 10 years. The friendship quickly turned sexual, and before she could figure out that he wasn’t about sh*t, she was already pregnant with his 8th kid. From there, things fell completely apart. He only saw her once the entire time that she was pregnant, and only spent 15 minutes at the hospital when his son was born. The straw that broke the camel’s back occurred when she called to tell him that their son was in the hospital about to have emergency surgery and the phone went dead. He never called back. To date, he’s seen his son a hand-full of times. And while she doesn’t regret having her kid, because she loves him unconditionally, getting involved with his father, she will tell you, ‘was the dumbest mistake of my life!’ Back to the boyfriend…Obviously he was crushed that his childhood sweetheart was pregnant by another man. However, he held the baby when he was just a few days old and felt an instant connection. In fact, he told T. that he loved the boy before he was even born. Incidentally, he was at the hospital when the baby required surgery and he’s been in his life ever since.

    “You can’t tell him that’s not his son,” T. says of her boyfriend. “His parents love him too. Actually, they’re out-of-town with him right now.” She says that it’s possible that she and her boyfriend will marry one day, and they’ve talked about the possibility of him adopting her son. While it may not suit everybody, clearly there are some instances where it is appropriate to call mom's boyfriend dad. Especially, if bio dad is not around.

    What do you think? Yay or Nay to calling mom's boyfriend dad? 


    Erickka Sy Savané is the managing editor of CurlyNikki.com, a wife, mom, and freelance writer based in Jersey, City, NJ. Her work has appeared in Essence.comEbony.com, Madamenoire.com, xoNecole.com,and more. When she’s not writing...wait, she’s always writing! Follow her on Twitter, Instagram or  

    Why Black People Need To Start Growing Our Own Food

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    By Alma Hill 

    I remember the day I realized the grocery stores in communities of color sold a completely different kind of food than the grocery stores in “better” neighborhoods.

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    I used to live in a small suburb of Orlando called Winter Park. The population was pretty diverse, both in skin color, and income levels, mostly because of a few schools in the area. Winter Park as a whole however is known as one of the wealthier suburbs. Our local grocery store had a produce section took up half the store.

    My fiance worked at a mall across town in a lower-income neighborhood predominately Black and Latino. One day he had a short shift so I decided to stay in the area and do my grocery shopping instead of making the 45 minute commute each way.

    “It’s the same grocery store.” I thought to myself. “Can’t be THAT different.”

    It was what I found inside the grocery store that made me question my surroundings.

    In this neighborhood, I walked in and was greeted by a literal wall of Cheese Puffs. While searching for the produce section, I found an entire portion of the store dedicated to junk food. It was in its own corner, and had three aisles plus a wrap around wall filled to the brim with chips, candy, popcorn, cookies, soda. It took me a full ten minutes to find the produce section. It was tucked away in the back corner of the store, and had one wall of green veggies, and two fruit stands. Those were the only vegetables.

    I wish I was exaggerating just a little bit, but the sad fact is, I’m not. There is a genuine disparity between the quality of food in Black and Low Income neighborhoods and wealthier, predominantly White neighborhoods. I won’t speculate on the reasons WHY this is, but the fact is, this is the reality. This lack of access to healthy food actually directly affects the health of Black Americans.

    According to a study published by FoodTrust.org, “Since 1990, numerous studies have proven that low income communities and communities of color have less access to healthy food than higher-income and less diverse communities.”

    The same study also found that living closer to healthy food retail is associated with decreased risk for obesity and diet related diseases. These SAME diseases are the ones that run rampant in Black communities. Diabetes, Hypertension, High Blood Pressure, High Cholesterol. All of these diseases are related to poor eating habits.

    It’s fair to say that the evidence suggests that available markets have no vested interest in the general health of Black Communities. It’s come to a point where we have to realize that it’s time for Black communities to take control of our health and end the inequality of food. Time for us to grow and buy from our own locally sourced communities.

    Now many reading this may be thinking “It sounds easier than it is.” which is true, but it’s also true that there are Black Americans who who are proving everyday that it can be done, cheaply and efficiently.

    Take the Libertad Urban farm community located in New York City. The South Bronx is the last place you’d expect to see a black owned farm, but the Libertad Urban Farm is here to challenge your expectations. Tanya Fields, the founder of the the small farm, worked for six years to get the rights and the land to grow her own food for her community.

    “This is about human rights.” Fields said to The Root, in a video interview. “We should all have the right to eat food that does not slowly kill us.”

    Fields was inspired to grow her own food because she realized there was a lack of healthy food options in her community. According to National Geographic, the Bronx has the highest rate of food insecurity in the country, with 37% of it’s residents not having access to adequate nutrition.

    Figures like this can be found all over the country, but they mostly appear in low-income communities and communities of color. Fields, and others like her, are looking to end these kinds of statistics at the source, and have become the face of the Black Food Revolution.

    Fields embodies the mission, and the mission of all those who want to take control of their health with one simple phrase.

    “The ability to say, I grew some of my food, and I had some control over what went into my body, and I made the decision as to what that was going to be. That is radical. That is revolutionary.”

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    Alma Hill is a freelance journalist, actress, and mother living in Orlando, FL. A frequent contributor to online and print media publications, she believes that the words from our mouths will change the world. Born in Charlotte, NC, she's a millennial with an old soul who appreciates a good meme as much as a Miles Davis album. Brave souls can follow her on Twitter @_mynameissoul,but you have been warned. 

    5 Things I Learned When I Quit My Corporate Job

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     By Sharee Silerio

    Two years ago, I was sitting at my desk, trying to wrap my head around all of the work I had to complete, with very little time or support from my colleagues. I felt trapped, undervalued and overwhelmed. For several months, I had been trying to perform with the same enthusiasm and detail as I did when I started the job, but with the workload of two regional representatives, it was too much. On a Friday, my supervisor sent an email about my inability to catch up on my tasks, and I had had enough.

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    The toxic environment, refusal to offer assistance and disregard of common sense broke my last straw. I didn’t have another job lined up, but I needed to get away from there as quickly as possible. I took a leap of faith, and the following Monday, I put my notice in. Since then, I have been freelancing as a writer, editor and media professional. Although it’s often a stressful hustle to pay bills and maintain my finances as a business owner, I’d choose working for myself any day. In a matter of days, I was free from the job that stifled my creativity; took all of my energy; left me with nothing to give to myself, family or friends; and made me feel like I was dying inside, to total freedom. I’ve faced so many challenges on this self-employed journey, and I have learned so many valuable lessons. Here are a few nuggets of truth and wisdom that life taught me after I quit my 9-to-5.

    1. Freedom can be debilitating.
    This is the most peculiar dynamic I’ve ever experienced. Now I know that it might not make sense that freedom can hold you back or keep you from doing something, but it can, if you don't realize its purpose. In other words, having the freedom to do what you want, when you want and how you want means that there are so many choices. Sometimes there are too many decisions to make, and you don't have time to process or figure out what to do. This is especially true if you need to make sure you “adult”, aka pay your bills while being your own boss.

     2. What I can, can’t, will or won’t accomplish is up to me.
    Quitting my full-time job opened a world of opportunity for me. I could literally go in a thousand directions, and my ability to choose and be successful at anything that I tried was up to me. If I didn’t believe that I could do it, then I was the one holding myself back. Everything begins and ends with the mind when it comes to turning visions into reality, or nothing into something.

    3. Intuition is everything. 
    It’s so easy to get caught up in what you need to do versus what you are called to do. It’s so easy to get sidetracked, and end up doing things for money versus passion. The same goes for what other people see you doing as opposed to what you feel your gut is telling you to do. It’s important to tune in to what it is you really need and desire, and take a hard look at what will truly make you happy.

    4. When things don’t work out, choose a different route.
    Sometimes I feel like I need to do more to make up the income I lost when I left my 9-to-5. However, everything I have tried – applying for jobs on my own, with creative talent agencies, etc. has not worked out. These doors have been closed to me repeatedly, so I believe that this is a sign that I need to stop trying and focus on finding and doing more of the work I love. The money will come.

     5. Being well is essential. 
    Working for yourself immediately rips the mask off of you and your life. Life becomes a mirror. When everything is on you; when you've broken out of the box; you realize that the life you live is a reflection of your spiritual, mental, physical, financial and emotional health. Choosing the freelance life revealed unresolved pain, issues and insecurities. I couldn’t hide behind my cubicle, position, or working 40 plus hours a week. It’s also difficult to ignore yourself, your emotions and how life is affecting you, when everything you desire is linked to your overall well-being. You must be healthy – emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally to make your new life work for you.


     Did you leave your corporate job? How did it impact your life? Are you thinking about leaving your 9-to-5?

     
     Sharee Silerio is a St. Louis-based freelance writer, Film and TV writer-producer, and blogger. When she isn’t creating content for The Root or The St. Louis American, she enjoys watching drama/sci-fi/comedy movies and TV shows, writing faith and self-love posts for SincerelySharee.com, relaxing with a cup of chai tea, crafting chic DIY event décor, and traveling. Review her freelance portfolio at ShareeSilerio.com then connect with her on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

    How Dianne Smith Turned A Domestic Violence Incident Into Art

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    Artist Dianne Smith 







     Domestic Violence Month
     “He pushed me on the bed, pinned me down, and started punching me in the face,” recalls Harlem-based artist Dianne Smith, the night her 6’6, 270 lb. boyfriend assaulted her. It was the first time anything like that had ever happened, and when she asked him to go, he refused. She considered calling the police, however, she couldn’t risk them coming to her apartment and potentially killing this ‘big Black man,’ which would only make the situation worse. Besides, she had an important meeting in the morning regarding an art piece she was creating for the 40-year anniversary of the play, ‘For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide/When The Rainbow Is Enuf.’
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    Instead, she called her best friend from across the street, and his best friend who lived nearby. Together they convinced him to pack his bags. When he was gone, Dianne began tending to her face, which now looked like a cartoon character. She also notified her neighbors about what happened in case he decided to come back. Sure enough, the next morning he was there, waiting on her doorstep. But so were her neighbors, who wouldn’t let him any where near her. Using them as a shield, she pressed forward and continued on to her meeting.

    But as she walked down the street of her neighborhood, she noticed that something in her had changed. “I had my hat pulled down with my face covered, and I had to ask myself, who am I protecting? Am I worried about what people think? But I’d done nothing wrong. There was no reason for me to be ashamed.” In that moment, Dianne decided that if anyone asked her what happened to her face, she’d tell them the truth. It was in stark contrast to her Belizean upbringing where appearances are everything and you don’t go putting your business in the street.

    As time moved on, her now ex-boyfriend continued his effort to get her back, leaving voice messages, some apologetic, some verbally violent. Her friends started pressuring Dianne to press charges, but she refused.

    “I felt a lot of judgment, and people telling me what they would do. You don’t know what you will do until you are in that situation.” It was around that same time that Ray Rice was in the news for assaulting his then-girlfriend. Dianne found people judging her too. 
    “People were quick to ask, ‘Why is she staying with him?’ when they should have been asking, ‘What’s wrong with him to hit a woman like that?'”

    Fortunately, Dianne was able to get out of the relationship, but that’s not always the case. According to statistics, an estimated 50 women a month are killed by former or current partners. About 75 percent of the victims were killed as they attempted to leave or after they ended the relationship. And while Dianne didn’t want to have her ex arrested, she did take precaution. His recorded messages along with photos that she began taking of her face since the night of the assault, were sent to her brother. That way if anything ever happened it was documented. Ironically, it was these same photos that Dianne began to show her friends when domestic violence conversations came up, and the same photos that she would eventually use for her For Colored Girls art installation.

    "One day, I re-read the poem 'Somebody Almost Walked Off Wid Alla My Stuff,' and a light-bulb went off. This poem is about a woman taking agency over herself. If I was going to do justice to the work, I had to be authentic and talk about what happened.”

    Dianne had already sketched out the visual element of her piece, now it was time to create a video component. She chose three. For the first, she shows photographs of all the stuff in her apartment, while reciting the poem ‘somebody almost walked off wid alla my stuff.’ In the second, she shares actual images of her bruised face, while reciting domestic violence statistics. In a third, she interviews a diverse group of girlfriends from throughout the Diaspora who share powerful stories of stuff they’ve given away, lost or gotten stolen.

    Dianne’s installation premiered at the Schomburg Museum in New York, and showed at both the African American Museum in Philadelphia and the Houston Museum Of African American Art.
    Ultimately, she hopes that her work will continue to open minds, and show that domestic violence is not just a woman's issue. 

    For more Dianne Smith, visit DianneSmithArt.com

    Have you or someone you know been a victim of domestic violence? 


    Erickka Sy Savané is the managing editor of CurlyNikki.com, a wife, mom, and freelance writer based in Jersey, City, NJ. Her work has appeared in Essence.comEbony.com, Madamenoire.com, xoNecole.com,and more. When she’s not writing...wait, she’s always writing! Follow her on Twitter, Instagram or  

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